i want him to fall asleep on own without nursing and i refuse to let him "cry it out" anyone have any other alternative way to get him to sleep without him screaming any ideas would be appreciated.
2006-09-16 01:42:10 · 8 answers · asked by cheri3rn 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
let him cry it out, it's called 'tough love'. what will u do when he gets older and start throwing tantrums over what he wants? it starts now.
2006-09-16 01:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by mia t 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey, yeah i used to have the same problem. This is what i did.
I got a routine going.. dinner, bath, play, bottle, bed. Then when it was bed time, I gave him his dummy and got him to say "nigh night" to everyone that was there -even if there is nobody there it works- and he would wave and know that it was time to go to bed. Then i would wrap him in a blanket/sheet and nurse him for a couple of minutes until he was settled and almost asleep then put him in his cot in whichever position he most likes and blanket over him and left the room and shut the door. I did this a few times and because he was almost asleep in my arms he would be relaxed enough to put himself to sleep straight away, sometimes a little whinge though. Then after that I would just wrap him and his eyes would automatically close and id put him down and hed go straight to sleep.
In the past week i have stopped the wrapping up (hes nearly 1 and its almost summer here so it will be too hot to wrap him soon) and now I do the whole "nigh night" routine thing and give him his dummy and his favourite toy and say to him, "nigh night, bed time, you go to sleep" and i put him in his cot on his side with his blankie over him and leave the room and shut the door. He sometimes has a little whinge for a couple of minutes and then falls asleep. Its so much better and easier than the controlled crying. You should give it a go. I hope it works for you and i hope it all made sense too! Its so much easier not having to nurse them to sleep. All i do now is put him in his cot and walk out. Its stress free! You wont know what to do when you dont have to nurse anymore its great! goodluck!!! by the way- the nigh night wave thing can work anytime of the day not just at night, it gets them used to knowing its time for bed.
2006-09-16 09:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jordy[♥] 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried Elizabeth Pantley's "The No Cry Sleep Solution"? I think it would be right up your alley. It mostly just has alot of different things to try.
Something that might be particularly helpful for you is the "Pantley Pull-off"- basically, this is a gentle way of training the baby not to need to suck to sleep. It will help especially with not having to nurse back down in the middle of the night.
First, you nurse to sleep as usual- BUT, when he slows down nursing, gently reach down and pop him off. If he insists on wanting to nurse again, let him latch back on, count to 20 (or whatever seems reasonable- until he's settled again) and pop him off again. Eventually, he'll get sleepy enough that he'll let you pop him off and go to sleep, and this will teach him that he can fall asleep without sucking.
I don't know if I'm describing this properly, but I did it with my child. She's still nursing to sleep (but stopping that wasn't a goal of mine, either) but she sleeps longer stretches, and doesn't ALWAYS need nursed to sleep, either.
2006-09-16 22:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by kalirush 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With both of my boys now 3 and 8, we used a bed time schedule.... supper, bath bed, that routine really works cause their stomachs are full and they are clean and ready to conk out. Also turning down the lights and turning down the TV helps them to relax, like hey mom and dad are going to bed so will I. If you have not started your baby on solid foods this could be a problem too, baby cereal is great for helping them get past the " I AM SOOOO HUNGRY" mode that they get stuck in. If this doesn't work , how about rocking them to sleep or patting his/her back and sing soothing songs while he gets drowsy, after a few days of this and not nursing to sleep it will get so much better and easier. Also I found that bedtime ALMOST always has to be at the same time every night. If not then its like they get confused on when to go to sleep, try keeping them up more during the day and they will go to sleep earlier at night..........Well hope this helps......
2006-09-16 08:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by kitty27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything changes with time, I had two babies like this. My first I finally let her cry, i had tried everything (including a GREAT book called The no cry sleep solution). My second, the ideas in this book made the sleep transition so easy.
2006-09-16 10:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by boscarelli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try using a pacifier to suckle to sleep. or a baby bottle with water in it. water not formula or juice cause it won't cause baby bottle tooth decay.
you can try nursing him til he is asleep but when you go to lay him down wake him up a bit, not completely awake but not asleep. then just put him in his bed and comfort him by rubbing his head, belly, back what ever, until he is asleep. in no time you will be able to put him in his bed fully awake and have no problems with it.
good luck
2006-09-16 12:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bella's Creations 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most babies still need a baba to go to sleep at this age. I would just make the nursing shorted everytime until he is weaned from it,.
2006-09-16 08:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mariah&Lydias_Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
screaming might be what is best... if you let your children get into bad habits they tend to hard to break .. let him cry and get over it....
you are to blame for this and you need to help him out of this bad habit...
2006-09-16 11:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋