do you agree that divorce will affect the children??????

Answer 1

A bad marriage affects them more, its better to get divorced...

Answer 2

Divorce will always affect the children. It is the parents job to be sure it does not affect the children in a negative way.

NEVER EVER drag your kids into it... they are not the reason you are getting a divorce, it's not their job to take sides, its not their job the spy on the respective parents.

Keep discussions about the divorce away from the kids. If you must talk try to hire a sitter and go soemwhere the kids can't hear the discussion

Do Not speak down about your spouse when the children are nearby, when my Aunt and Uncle divorced my cousin was 8, all my Aunt ever said was how much she hated my Uncle, We're talking about kids here, even if you do hate your spouse you child should never know it.

Keep a United front with the kids. My ex husband and I are still very close, we are geting divorced because we got married because we were having a baby, not because we were truly in love.We have not fought about anything, custody, visitation, child support. We are both currently involved with other people and we all get along great, including the kids. But, unlike so many divorces I'v seen, our kids dont manipulate us with guilt over the divorce ( when we told them we were getting one they jumped for joy) They know what is expected of them, the rules don't change because mommy and daddy aren't together anymore.

If two adults really need to be divorced the children will be affected, but its up to the parents to make it a positive experience, not a negaive one.

Answer 3

I think that it does but I also think that sometimes not getting a divorce affects them more. It is something that you have to think about and what is worse for the children. It is worse for the child to watch one parent be abusive to the other then it would be for the divorce. On the same tone it is good for children to see that there parents did everything to stay together and use divorce as a last thing instead of the first.

Answer 4

Yes, it affects the children, for the family dynamics will change.

Whether it will be for the positive or negative depends on the divorce itself.

Positives can come from a divorce when one of the partners is abusive or violent to the other and/or the children -- and the person enduring the violence LEAVES for good. Then the children will at least have ONE Responsible parent who is NOT the Violent and Abusive Offender to care for their needs. This is a HEALTHIER Alternative (in all ways) than having the Violent Offender in the household for year after year after year -- because NOW with the offender out of the Home, they can see a parent who cares for them without the violence, teaches them that there is a BETTER Way to live, and the constant problems (and threats of death/injury) are relieved for some part (but not all -- because these violent individuals then usually take their violence down to the next level when they FORCE visitation on the children -- and abuse the children then abuse their Ex when he returns them to her home).

Divorce can be negative too -- when custody is fought publically, with words and deeds that require a traumatic tug-of-war between the households -- and when the acrimony is carried out in words instead of physical wounds. This may not result in the physical wounds, but emotional wounds -- which are much harder to diagnose.

Answer 5

Do I agree that divorce will affect the children?
What sort of question is that???
Unless the divorced parents are going to continue to live together as though they are still married, then it should be pretty obvious that the children are going to be affected in some way.

How they are affected depends a lot on what their relationship with the parents was like prior to the divorce… What their relationship with the parents is going to be like after the divorce… Whether they will continue to spend time with both parents after the divorce… How the parents are going to allow their feeling for each other to affect the children… how young the children are… and so on.

Divorce is never easy on the kids. How badly they are affected depends on the maturity of their parents !!!

Answer 6

Divorce always affects the children, but so does the effects of the arguing before the separation. If people want to be mature and think about their children first the effects of a divorce can be minimal on the children.

Most people don't think about that stuff though, not until after the damage is done.

Answer 7

Yes,divorce affects children to a great extent.Family is the basic cell,the most important institution of the society comprising father,mother & offspring(Sociologically).Both the mother and father r necessary for the proper grooming of children.Cases like divorce affect the developing minds of children,leading 2 emotional and social distress which may eventually affect the child's future.

Answer 8

It's not just the divorce that will affect the kids, it is how the parents talk after the fact. I've always pushed my kids into having a relationship with their father even though he is 2 provinces away from them. But he, on the other hand, will talk about how I'm the one who is a sl*ut, bit*ch, etc. I don't respond to that nonsense considering they now know (b/c he was stupid enough to tell them) that he left us for another woman. Took 10 years but now neither of my kids want anything to do with him. So, again, not just the divorce but the actions / reactions of the parents have more effect on the kids than the actual divorce.

Answer 9

Yes and no. Everyone is effected by divorce. I remarried my husband because of the kids and it was awful. We fought and the kids were a nervous wreck. We did them no favors by staying together. Kids adjust. If your miserable in a marriage then just part, try to keep it as friendly as possible, don't run their other parent in the ground for that just makes you belittled. When your more at ease around the house you will see how much better the kids are too

Answer 10

Of course it will.

But you didn't give us specifics.

If you're getting divorced because he's an abusive alcoholic, then the divorce may have a positive effect on them!

If you're getting divorced, and it's a nasty divorce, and you fight, and get the children in the middle, then yes, they are going to be scarred in a way by it.

Answer 11

Children cope with things and adapt alot better than adults. My parents divorced when I was young and I was ok with it. Living in a house where the parents aren't happy together is worse for a child as they pick up on much more than adults think.