am thinking about moving to a luxury apartment, partly because its nicer, in a better location, has better ameneties (heating/double glazing ect) but i think a big part of the reason is my other half dosent really like my flat im in currently, and to be honest it is a bit tired. it will cost me more, but its not going to break the bank. should i move? is it for the right reasons? i cant decise which is driving me more. what do you guys think?
2006-09-15 23:43:10 · 20 answers · asked by Paul D 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Were you thining of moving before your partner came along?
There's your answer!!
2006-09-16 01:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Laura G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first bit of advice would be...grow up. The second would be, if your relationship is that shallow that it is dependant on material wealth, it's not working as a relationship.
I've never heard anything so ridiculous..moving to impress your partner! You need a reality check! If your existing flat is 'tired' then be an adult and sort it out, decorate it, it will be cheaper and then, with the money you save you could go out and bye some designer labels and a new mobile phone. Your life would then be fulfilled!
2006-09-16 05:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Stuart C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a list of pros and cons, and weight each reason accordingly.
Moving to satisfy your partner isn't a viable reason for moving. If your partner is going to judge you based upon your material goods, then they are not a true partner.
You need to think of yourself as an individual. If your partner didn't exist, then would you still move?
If the new apartment is in a good location e.g. better local amenities, closer to work & family/friends then these could be reasons in themselves for moving. Also, if the apartment is brand new then you won't be spending money decorating it etc. and your energy bills will probably be lower.
2006-09-16 01:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by nemesis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of moving, why don't you run out and pick up a copy of "Co-Dependent No More" cause Mary, you should know if you are happy with your own apartment or not. What's next? You going to have plastic surgery so he will like your looks more? It sounds harsh, but it's not a big jump.
Not trying to be a c*nt, but c'mon, even you know this kind of thinking is destructive, or you wouldn't have posted the question. Good luck, and live where you are most comfortable, and happy with yourself.
2006-09-15 23:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move if YOU want to. If your partner is driven by what kind of place you live, will you also have to buy a nicer automobile? Some better clothes? Maybe you had better find some classier relatives than you have now, because Mom and Dad don't suit your lover? Come on!
2006-09-16 01:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don;t you move in together?
you should not do something to impress someone, do it for right reasons. If needs redeorating do it, better that than lose the links you have around (contacts/firnds/neighbours/shops you like/community etc) only to find you and partner don't last distance and you are somehwere u hate.
2006-09-17 10:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is NOT the only reason you want to move I would say go for it if you can afford it. Get permission from the land owner/agent to redecorate and ask your partner to help so that they feel more comfortable coming over to it. It's amazing what a good coat of paint can do :-)
2006-09-15 23:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by God 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't move just to impress your partner. If your partner really loves you then he/she should love the place that you live in, If they don't live with you then they are probably trying to tell you in a sweet way that they thinks its time to move in with you and they want an apartment that you both share. instead of moving into your apartment where it feels more likes yours and less likes both of yours.
2006-09-16 06:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by aberboychris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving flat to impress is NOT the right reason at all. If the flat's a bit grotty - then - maybe.
2006-09-15 23:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Felidae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, I look back and every major disaster I have had the core reason was to impress someone else, the pay off if there ever is one isn't worth it.
2006-09-16 01:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by plax 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you want to move anyway. Don't move just to impress your partner though. Ask yourself this: if you moved and then you two broke up, would you be sorry that you moved?
2006-09-16 01:43:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋