2006-09-15 23:40:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is terribly under age. And you are fit to be her father. Why do want to ruin her life. Leave her alone please.
2006-09-15 23:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sure wish you would have explained more. If you plan to live in some other country that you are both from-where it is customary, then you might be able to work it out, out of her sense of duty and custom and your desire to raise a 16 year old, provided you have the patience for that.
If you plan to marry her here with a signature from her parents, and I am not sure how many states even still do that, then you are taking a big risk considering how others here will view you and the customs here and all the things she will miss in her teen years and may well decide later to try to recapture.
It is not as much the 14 years differnce in your age that goes against your chance at happiness as it her current age. If she were 25 and you were 39 I would say you might have a good shot at it, that she might appreciate your love and stability and faithfulness and you would appreciate the domestic and many other skills like budgeting and entertaining and problem solving that she would bring to the table. Education would be one of those. At this point however, she has not finished school or had that much experience with responsibility, not to mention that you and she do not have alot of common music, memories, friends, or other commonalities to build on so the chances of being a successful marriage are slim, quite slim. I think getting married to a girl that young would bring both of great unhappiness in the end.
Considering the young girl's age right now and yours right now, have you thought about how you would even support her? How about her and other children? I have to ask this because your message has broken English and isn't typed too well either, so
that would limit your ability to get a really good job. Maybe, if this means alot to you, then you should take some courses for a few years-let's say 3 at least and try to put some money away while you do that. That would give your intended time to know more about the world-the things she needs to know in order to survive in this day and age. She also should be a highschool grad by then and even had a prom and graduation like other girls do. That would make your chances much better for success.
All of that hinges though on if you have had a normal life prior to getting married and have not always been chasing girls that are way younger like this, than yourself. If you have always been chasing them then something is wrong with how your thinking works and you need to see a psychologist before you make any plans. Before two people enter into marriage, they both need to be mentally and physically strong and healthy, Also, just because of the ages you both currently are, I would say that both of you should see a psychologist and explain your intentions as well find out from him or her what is motivating each of you and if you are both compatible. It is better to know now, than after a world of hurt. Please carefully think over all that I said and good luck. I hope you make a wise choice not just a passionate one.
2006-09-16 08:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by beverly p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord Chester wake up and smell the coffee she is 14 years younger than you and people will think that you are her Father not her lover and what in the world would a 16 year old girl know about keeping house, going shopping , keeping the house clean , going to school , bills , honestly my answer would be NO I don't think your life would be happily ever after
2006-09-16 06:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is only 16 she needs to grow up some before marriage. If you really love her in a non-perverted way then wait until she finishes HS and college. Let her grow up some and enjoy being a kid and young adult. If its true love you both can wait until she is 20+ before getting married. Also you shouldn't be having sex with her (if you plan on this) because that can land you in JAIL.
2006-09-16 07:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by kittykat78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why not! But if it's good now, it'll be good two years from now so why not wait? Or are you trying to capture her before she sees who you really are? Back just about 50 years ago this age difference in marrage was normal for 90% of all world cultures, man was 40ish, and girl was 20ish, so it depends on the two involved. Good luck and just let time tell all.
2006-09-16 06:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by djklamz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could u possibly have in common with a 16 yr old? She's basically a child and you're robbing her of her childhood by marrying her. Stick to someone closer to your age.
2006-09-16 06:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she comes to her prime age that is 30 to 35 she may go for multiple hubbys of 24s as you will be nearing 50s and not much use for her
2006-09-16 06:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Loviingly_Yours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are a child predator, when she gets older you will want another 16 year old. My suggestion is to find an 8 year old, they will stay young longer.
2006-09-16 06:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by panty p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you like to marry a child, and it against the law so it is best for the both of you to find someone in your own age group.
2006-09-16 06:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the state of Massachusetts it's called statutory rape. Sixteen will get you twenty. She is a child. You sound like one also. Grow up and find yourself a woman.
2006-09-16 08:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by april rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, she will leave you when she turns 21 and find a nice young guy to have fun with
Pick on somebody who's at least an adult
2006-09-16 06:45:36 · answer #11 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋