I have this friend, a close friend, who is smart (she came second in our entire grade), pretty, is an only child so she more or less gets everything that she wants, good at sports, outgoing (so has many friends even the popular people.) I am also smart (but I’m not on the honor role because I failed maths-my worst subject), pretty (but boys don’t notice me), but am not so great at sports, am the first of 3 children, (so I practically have to beg to be taken shopping) an shy/reserved so I when my friends are away, I become a loner) . And she makes me feel bad by comparing herself to me. Last year during PE, I took my top off and she saw my abs. She made a big deal of it saying, “OMG, your stomach is so flat.” This year in PE, she took off her top in front of me and said “Don’t you just love my sexy abs?” she did this on 2 different occasions. I also sang for a variety show and people were surprised “I could sing so well”. After the variety show, my friend started singing in front of me at every chance she got and told me, “I can also sing”. Her attitude is really getting to me. She has her talents and people notice her for them so why is she trying so hard to take the spotlight off me? WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT HER?
2006-09-15 22:23:55 · 9 answers · asked by strawberrysocks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Could you give me advice on how to control the situation and handle her?
2006-09-20 09:50:06 · update #1
well i think she is jealouse. Obviously, from the things you said about her, she seems to have the perfect life, but let me tell you no one has. so there are things going on in her life that she hates and cant do anything about it. she envies you for having what she doesnt and therefore is trying to compete with you. Trying to make it as if her life was better than yours, so you can hate your life. This will make her feel good by knowing she isnt the only one. Or it could simply be she feeds on other people's misery. So you have to decide which is it. If its the first you can help her or not. Your choice.
2006-09-15 22:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by katy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes jealous honey! even though shes an only child and she is popular she dont feel great about herself. She wants be like you, maybe her parents dont give her much attention, gifts yes but attention no and thats what she wants. there isnt alot you can do just tell her that she is good at things and so are you but different things, if she keep on then you will have to explain how you fell or make some new friends. good luck
2006-09-16 06:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're friend is just jealous. She probably compares herself to you the same way you compared yourself to her. I had a friend like that once, and she was always doing that to me. She always had to try to upsatge me, it really really bugged me at first, so I kept doing it back, then after a while it was just whatever and I ignored it. She never stopped and we aren't friends anymore, and everyone else noticed too, and they think of her as desperate and trying too hard.
Sorry if that didn't help. I haven't really had any problems like this since high school, thank God, but I think if she doesn't stop, then she isn't really a friend anyway, and you should probably move on.
2006-09-16 05:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a jealous person with low self-esteem that needs to have it built up by compliements
2006-09-16 05:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a b... bad person so you should eitha kick her @ss or ignor her, burn down her house or sumthing (not litereally) but you have to stop her if shes affecting you
2006-09-16 05:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by kylexx4xxever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m sorry to say it but yes she is jealous but not from u in person she is jealous from anyone who have the potential to be better than her in anything, so dont take it personal n talk to her about it...
2006-09-16 05:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by smousa2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop this so-called friend .This girl is so insecure about herself that she tries to make you feel bad about yourself. toss her.
2006-09-16 05:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alittle from column a and a little from column b
2006-09-16 05:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealous person she is
2006-09-16 05:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by loving a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋