This question is for women ages of 20-35 roughly. What makes you get interested in a guy ? is it first apperance or is it a specific thing he does or lines?
Let us men know what we are doing wrong, because it seems like its easier for women to get men that men to get women in this world.
2006-09-15 22:03:09 · 10 answers · asked by twism 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
for poster flgirl. I know this doesnt stop at age 35 and im sorry if it seemed as i was narrowing it to those ages. Its just that im in that age range and wanted to know for my age range.
sorry if it seemed wrong.
2006-09-15 22:22:39 · update #1
to poster evening that mentioned that money talks. Its women like you that we avoid and thats why you become lonely and wondering why you never got the good guy.
2006-09-16 11:05:09 · update #2
the biggest mistake guys make, at least in my opinion, is trying to jump right into a relationship. i want to get to know a guy as a friend before i go out with him. it also shows me that he is geuninely interested in me as a person not just as a piece of pie to try. (Know what I mean?) being liked by a guy as a whole person not just a pretty face is vital for me and most girls i know. i mean ihave had so many friends have guys treat them like dirt but say you're so gorgeous and oh i love you. it's so fake. become my friend first.
TLC was right when they said no scrubs. no girl wants to be used. a man should be able to take care of himself in every way. i might sound a bit demanding but you know what? guys like that are out there. (I should know- i snagged one.)
i hate stupid, chessy pick up lines. small talk beats stupid pick up lines hands down. tell me a funny or even stupid joke. ask me what time it is. small talk works at first. then show an interest in getting to know me better before you show an interest in getting me into bed. (such a turn off for most girls and women i know.)
tips-
1. open doors; girls still think it's sweet.
2. offer to buy dinner or pay for the date but don't get all macho or offended of she says no (she will appreciate the gesture.)
3. start with a fun, no pressure date; bowling, mini golf, batting cages,; something active where there will be a significant number of people and other things going on
4. work up to more solo, intimate type dates. developing a relationship is more like a mile long jog than a 100 yrd dash.
5. walk her to her door and kiss her goodnight.
6. call her the next day- don't leave her hanging, it can send the wrong message.
i like guys who are sensitive and are ok with that; who know they are not perfect and can admit that; geunine and honest; concerned with more than just themselves; who aren't afraid to to show me they love me in front of their friends; and most of all treat me well when i am with them
2006-09-16 01:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by April H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always looked for guys that take care of themselves. If a guys is dirty, wearing old ragged clothes, hasn't shaved, hasn't kept his hair trimmed, or has scuffed up shoes then I am turned off. Drunk or stoned guys are a definite turn off. So is beer breath. Excessive bad language, sexist remarks about women, egotistical jerks, criminals, and liars are definite no-no's. I also don't like guys who are too macho and aggressive or are passive wimpy guys. Guys aren't that smart are also a turn off. I am an intelligent person and need to be around people that I can have interesting conversations with, however, I can't stand intellectual or academic snobs. Married guys or guys with girlfriends I won't go near. Guys that have only one or two topics that they seem to talk about all the time are very hard to be around for more than a couple of dates.
Men who are polite, decent, sincere, and take reasonable care of themselves always get my attention.
2006-09-15 22:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by spiderspell 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talking with him and knowing what kind of things we have in common. I met my husband two years ago and it wasn't love at first sight. I did realize that I really liked him a lot because of his polite manners, respect for me, and his ability to be a good conversationalist. He was a pre-law major and is very smart. I just enjoyed being with someone who wasn't immature all the time. I let him do all the chasing and I've been happily married for over a year now. Treat ladies like ladies and you'll go far.
2006-09-16 04:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Specific behaviors that let me know he's interested in the same things I am. Like if I literally run into a guy at the library because we're both carrying stacks of journals and books in front of our faces, etc., I consider that man attractive. So just do what you enjoy, because you'll meet someone who likes those things, too!
2006-09-15 22:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 01:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by porowski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appearance and good looks, and this just doesn't stop at age 35.
2006-09-15 22:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by FL Girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The very first thing i notice is a nice and friendly smile..
2006-09-16 05:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
physical attraction plays a big role & then wit & intelligence follow
2006-09-15 22:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
bragging about myself but in a non offensive matter more like being cute about it and letting it be known I'm a catch.
2006-09-15 22:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
money talks
2006-09-16 00:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋