birth mother that voulnarily gave kids to husband and i wants to take them to FL. court paper states visitation as "whenever agreeable" we do not want her to take them this far away (we are in MI) she has proven to be quite irresponsible in past. she has never done anything special for them before, we pay for everything clothes to medical, she does pay $30 week in support for all 3, but that is all.
2006-09-15 21:50:35 · 13 answers · asked by rachael 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sound like this trip is not agreeable, so nope, no, not at all, no way.
2006-09-15 21:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"whnever agreeable" are the key words, and it sounds to me like you are saying this is not agreeable; in which case, unless the judge added something like "and on all holidays or vacations", the answer is NO. Furthermore, in some states, unless explicit permission is given in writing by either the judge or the person who has custody -it becomes a crime to remove a child from the state he or she resides in. In my state even the custodial parent cannot do that without explicit permission from the judge. To do so is grounds for loss of custody. For me, that meant I could not move the mere 5 minutes away which was across the state to live so that I could get a higher paying state job which unlike most of those, required state residency and paid big bucks that my children would have benefited from and the reason was that I took it to court, I had the child custody, but my ex told the judge he objected because he did not earn much, transportation to visitation was difficult for him and it would make it difficult for him to exercise his visitation privleges---go figure, and then it took him 33 years to exercise up a visit with her anyway! In this case it looks like you are the judge. may good conscience and common sense be your guide.
2006-09-16 05:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by beverly p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can she afford this trip if she is only paying $30 a week for child support? That leaves her about $250 a month to live on! Are they walking to Florida? Also, if they are in school, they should not be missing days for this trip.
First, it's time for an income verification. She needs to be paying her fair share of the expenses. She should also be paying a percentage of medical and child care. Also, you should have documentation of her irresponsible behavior in case you have to go to court. I don't know how she will have the money for a lawyer if her income is so low..
2006-09-16 05:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by salsera 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooo that's way way too far. Maybe if she was a better parent, came and took them more, showed you she could be responsible, then you'd have no problem letting her. If she is going to push the issue, I think it will end when she realizes how much money she's going to have to pay for a lawyer. And if she does have plenty of money, then take her to court for more, because that's a paltry sum for three kids. I don't think she'll push the visitation issue, but when she is going to keep them close to home, you should let them go with her. The kids will remember later as it being you keeping them from their mother, and you don't want them resenting you for it. Make them understand why you don't wish them to go, and let them know that if it were closer, you'd have no problems.
2006-09-16 05:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, the key word is "whenever agreeable" - however, please take the kids into consideration and what they want... if they are old enough to be aware of what's going on, keeping them from spending time with their birth mother can cause long term ill feelings. Your willingness to care for these children is commendable, but decisions based purely on court orders can back-fire on the emotional front.
2006-09-16 04:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by tampico 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Non Custodial meaning no custody. Depending on papers and stipulations of them. Obviously non custodial is accompanied by your ex on trip whom having some sort of custody arrangement is taking child on trip only if you agree and what type of custody other party has. Who is primary decision maker? Do you share child equally 50% of time. IF shared custody do as pleased on your time, and co occupant will do same with out your input in their time. It all depends on whom has custody, who has visitation, or if its equally shared time. Judgment for best interest of child or who absolutely has the say so if child.
2006-09-16 07:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by J Cantu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. This isn't "agreeable" to you. Tell her to take a hike. No long trips.
2006-09-16 04:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can get around it you definitely should, in theory her stepping up and being a good parent is nice, but with a bad track record you're just asking for trouble
2006-09-16 04:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by sweets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope you sure don't and you have the responsibility to keep them safe. just be sure that's why your saying no remember its what is best for the kids.
2006-09-16 04:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not comfortable with this far trip, so don't allow it, suggest her to take them somewhere near
2006-09-16 04:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋