Ok im in college and i had this group of friends (mostly guys) that i hung out with on the weekends when i came home. Well a while back ago I became close with this girl from school and that kinda gave me less time to hang out with my guy friends, we still saw each other occasionally just not every weekend. Then me and the guys started hanging out less and less and now i havent really seen them for like 6 months, and i think its because they dont like the girl, or something. And now i dont really like her either, she isnt a good friend or a good person. i mean like she full out ditches me and flakes on me all the time. And she only hangs out with me if theres no one else to hang out with. i know i should call up the guys, but im afraid they're mad at me for ditching them, or worse, that they think i've become like the girl, and also because i think they've kinda moved on from being friends with me. if you were them would you still want to be my friend? or should i just give up?
2006-09-15 21:33:21 · 9 answers · asked by emma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh yeah, and during the time the guys and I were hanging out less and less they wee being kind of mean about it, like they would avoid me and not pick up my calls, and invite me to do stuff and act as if I wasn't even there. And that's why I fully stopped hanging out with them, and also because of the advice of the girl.
2006-09-15 22:45:18 · update #1
I think you should muster up the courage and just call the guys. If you're not happy with the girl you're friends with then you have to move on. You should tell the guys that you want to be friends again, and ask them why they stopped hanging out with you just to be sure. Maybe they aren't mad, and maybe they even like your friend, but felt threatened in a way, like she was "stealing" you away from them. And if that's the case then they probably would still want to be your friend.
You do risk being rejected by those guys, but I think if you're upset enough about this to ask here, then its worth the risk, because the reward would make you happy again. And if they do reject you, then you have to think if they were really your good friends anyway, because maybe its a blessing in disguise that you aren't friends anymore, you know?
2006-09-15 22:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by vs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah - give them a call, suggest an activity one weekend. Meet them and tell them sorry it took you so long to figure out this other girl was not the greatest person.
2006-09-15 21:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not to be rude but get a back bone is what you need to do and face reality as is.
first call up your friends initiate contact if and follow through with it and they come along then ok.
2nd. if they do not then ok deal with it and keep moving forward but deal with it dont burry the dissapointment. if thats what the case may come to be.
3rd we all go in differnt directions and we choose to do it so therefore just learn to accept life as is and make the best of what is with you but surround yourself with that which is good.
2006-09-15 21:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never hurts to try. Give them a call. SOunds like you enjoyed hanging out with them, people do drift apart sometimes when they meet new people.
2006-09-15 21:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sandi A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe there's any chance of you fixing thingz with your friendz do it now B4 it's 2 late,coz true friends are hard 2 find and I'm sho the'll understand.So my advice,go for it.
2006-09-15 21:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by its g8 im sho u look far beta. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call them and say how sorry you were for ditching them and ask if they wanna meet up and hang out, you wont know til you try.
2006-09-15 22:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id still want to be friends, but maybe its time for all of you to move on? harsh huh? im not trying to be, but sometimes ppl just grow apart, its just a part of life
2006-09-15 21:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by sweets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try, also make new friends.
2006-09-15 21:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by salsera 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never know until you contact them.
2006-09-15 21:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋