Planning to marry a guy from Pakistan?

Question

I'm from USA and planning to marry a man from Pakistan , in which I will move to there.?

Was wondering if anyone has had expereince in this , and if so could give me advice and tip's. To make the transtion as smooth as possible.

Answer 1

You've got to be nuts. Do you know anything of Pakistan? It is a backwards society plain and simple when compared to the US that you are used to.

The fact that you have asked online for advice about this means you are having doubts. Screw love... if he loved you he would know that Pakistan is not a place for you.

Say "no" to the marriage and say "no" to Pakistan.

I was reading about the recent earthquakes in Pakistan that took lots of peoples lives and the woman are treated worse than second class citizens. You better spend your time doing research on Pakistan and not picking out your wedding dress.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with marrying a guy from Pakistan but moving to Pakistan maybe not a very good idea. The whole scenario will be very different over there and if you are a white then be ready to be looked down upon. Like somebody pointed out you still are having doubt about the whole issue, otherwise, you wouldn't have posted this question.

The cultural shock might a good term to explain. Lots of compromise on freedom, be ready to get converted if you are not a Muslim, lots a doubtful eyes being raised up on you. Even if you want to move, opt for Karachi. A bit of cosmopolitan atmosphere, otherwise, it will be very difficult for you to survive.

The worst part is people in east think that girls from west don't mind being infidel. So there might be chance that frequently you might have to prove your loyalty and they have got some weird forms of proving it (superstitious ways).

Answer 3

can u maybe consider a visit as his fiance first to see if you would be able to adjust? If you are American whose family has been here for generations, you probably have Little contact with how it is to live in a foreign country,esp in that part of the world you will experience major culture shock. It would be better before you marry to understand your prospective spouse's background and culture-you will have a much better chance of having a successful marriage. Just as he should meet your family and undersand your background. There are nightmares.some hyped up for drama, like the story of "Not w/o my daughter" (book/movie) types. Certainly it is possible to have a bad experience. What happens in these type sof cases is that the person of non American origin behaves a certain way while here in US, can be very charming,almost unrealistically so (if its too good too be tru it probablt isn't true) then changes alot back in their country. Also as the person matures that person may tire of the Novelty of American culture(all the dating you want,all the booze you want, no "village" raising the child that watches you and reports back to family what you did(we had that here in US in the olden days) , they often naturally drift back to their roots and wonder if they didnt throw the baby out w/ the bath water...also w/marriage and kids people often gravitate back to their family of origin for support and love. So even if the prospective spouse says they dont believe that way, they ar emodern, it doesn't mean that will last thru marriage and kids, when people mature and ask themselves, what's important here, dazzling/pleasing my new girlfiend/wife's every whim? OR nurturing the family for the long term.....guess what can win out very often ??
That being said I have seen successful marriages interculterally, esp when the couple shares a main belief system or religion. But even same religion doesn't mean same culture and people for instance of the Islamic religion often fall victim of follwing culture over religion,hence the stories of forced arranged marriages,etc that ar enot from the religion,rather local culture. Tread carefully and dont let love lead you into a lifelong decision w/o some preparations. If youstill think its a good dea, then go for it. Be prepared for lots of prejudice from ignorant types, and acceptance from others.

Answer 4

Honey, pls visit pakistan first, meet his relatives, look at the hosue where your gonna be living in, keep yr expectations ground zero.... i fully recommend that u visit first there is a saying in this part of the world that whn u marry the man u marry the fly so pls keep that in mind, if yr so think that u can covered, up fully, meet expectations of a typical pakistani wife, be ready fr yr husband to marry 3 times, eat spicy food, cook and clean etc.

Answer 5

Have you met this man in person yet? How did you decide that he is worth marrying? If you are sure about those things, you are not married yet, why don't you plan a visit or two to Pakistan to make sure that he is worth leaving the "compforts and liberties" of the USA. Make sure you can stand to live there before you marry him and are left with less options and more obligations.

Answer 6

With what I am going to say to you I say from experience. I am an American married to a Hindu South indian man and living in India. It is a HUGE culture shock even here. I feel like a 12 year old even though i still dress like an American and my husband is good to me. The culture itself looks down on white women and the majority aren't even muslim!
You are in for a huge culture shock. If he is Muslim (and u aren't), he will most likely want you to convert to a muslim as well. Prepare yourself to cover your head at all times, and to be treated poorly because you are a woman. Muslims hate Christians and if you are white you will immediately be looked down on even for that. Infidelity in marriage is occurring almost always from teh men in those cultures, because it is not a sin for the men to have sex outside of marriage. I guess what I'm saying is think before you make this move, or else make sure you have a backup fund or family to help you if you decide to divorce later on.

Answer 7

Please
i am from India
i know the culture of Pakistan
Be with ur self and change ur decision ok
u cannot live there

Answer 8

Just be yourself. Your love will lead you, and listen to your heart if you can't make up your mind. Going to a new country is hard, but if you love your husband, you'll feel you like that place such as you like your husband.

Answer 9

hi
i am an iranian man,i am ready to marriage with you.my e.mail is [e-mail]
Kind regard
sorush

Answer 10

nothing is smooth with those people, good luck, buddy!