Omg please help me this is really bad and im still young and i LOVE him.
and if my parents even would of found out about this they wouldnt like him anymore because they want whats best for me but i love him alot and i dont want to lose that and i dont want to tell him no.
but i dont want to tell him yes
because i could become pregnet
ahhhh please help
2006-09-15 21:19:36 · 21 answers · asked by princess i 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he loved you he wouldn't force you to have sex with him
2006-09-15 21:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by Shanny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO hon. Guys this age are looking for sex more than they are looking for a quality relationship. You are young and at your age LOVE is powerful, but not the kind that will last a lifetime. And just because we love someone doesn't mean you have to be with them.
Do you really want a guy who isn't respectful to you to ask such a thing when you guys are so young. You start this too young and you will lose the magic of an intimate relationship. Also once you start sex- no matter what birth control you use there is still a chance of pregnancy. Which means you need to be prepared to be a mom when you start having sex. Abortions leaves girls devistated and with scar tissue to the point where they might not be able to ever have sex with someone.
If he gives you a bad time when you tell him no....tell him to go find a slut, because you are not ready to give your body to any Boy. Tell him you need a man , not a boy. Then even if you fee like crying or shaking.....put your head up and appear strong. Fake it until you you can be far from his sight. Chances are he is just looknig for anything to have sex with him. You are the logical one to ask. He will quickly move on to someone else. Can you really love a boy who pushes you to have sex. And hon.......your love is powerful. but believe me you.......he will not be the first.
Be strong
2006-09-16 04:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never sell yourself short. A guy that is pressuring you into having sex or even performing oral sex on him this soon into your relationship is looking for one thing and one thing only. He doesn't want any long term committment with you, he just wants sex. There is nothing wrong with saying NO and you should say NO. Obviously if you're here asking for help, then you're not ready for that and you should not do something you don't want to do just becasue you "love" him. You're still young and believe me, there will tons of other boys who you'll fall in love with too. Do you really want to be known as a whore? Because thats what happens, they tell others, who tell others, then before you know it, EVERYONE knows. Once you have sex with him, he'll be gone. Please, don't do this just because you think he might leave you, if thats the case, then he isn't worth having.
2006-09-16 04:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sandi A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are young and obviously not ready. Listen to me sweetheart, do not have sex with anyone until you are ready yourself! If you do, you will not feel good about it, believe me. I know you love him and its hard to imagine & i know everyone says this but in a few years you will be over him and wonder how you even liked him at all! We all fall in and out of love throughout our lives. It is really rare that someone finds their soulmate at such a young age and although i dont doubt that you love him with all your heart right now, its possible that you will find a new love in years to come. Think about it.. if he loved you back he would wait for you to be ready. Boys at your age can think of nothing else but sex because its nothing but hormones driving their thoughts. A nice guy will understand if you are not ready even though he may still want to have sex with you. When you are ready, you will know so until then dont be preasured into anything! Think about it.. in a few years time, if you are not with him, do you want him to be your first? Your first stays with you for life. I had sex far too young and i cringe now when i think of the guy. My next boyfriend was a lovely guy and although we fell out of love and grew up and apart, when i think back on sex with him, it still gives me a nice feeling. I wish he had been my first. Wait until you find someone like that, who is patient with you and it will always make you happy. good luck
2006-09-16 04:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he love you and even if he does no one should be pressured into anything. You may love him but he is not right for you. If you feel inside that you are not ready then you have that feeling inside for a reason.
Believe me when I say you will get over him when you do breakup because it will happen. You're not going through anything new under the sun. It seems and feels like an impossible situation but it's really not.
Put yourself in your parents' position because one day you will be.
2006-09-16 04:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by cinattra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, you just stated that you are young and when we are young we do stupid things when we are in love...and sometimes when we are older. The thing to remember is, if you aren't comfortable doing it...don't! If he breaks up with you because you say no then he has problems. Start to respect yourself now and know that you may be dumped for it but when you are older you will know what is best for you without question. Young men and even some older men can use our willingness to be loved against us and use us and move along. Just do what you are truly comfortable doing. Good luck.
2006-09-16 04:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready, you're not ready. It is as simple as that. Tell your boyfriend that. If he really loves you, he will respect and understand you. Don't let him pressure you. Tell him the best thing he can do is love you, and be patient. That will make the two of you grow together more.
2006-09-16 04:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by allforasia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you he would wait until your ready. I know you love him but if he is pressuring you to have sex then maybe he isnt the right guy for you. You need to have a talk with him.
2006-09-16 04:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by danielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 points
2006-09-16 04:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by Pauline 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
after 4 months would be just casual sex. and from your question i can tell casual sex isn't your lifestyle. (in high school terms that means you're not a slut) also, if you're worried about losing him for saying no to sex you're definitely w/ the wrong guy.
2006-09-16 04:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by whatwhatwhat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u don't get pregnent so eay
have save sex
in this morden age there is no need to
be so good to urself and ur future husband coz
in the end when u give too much u
u they will hurt u in return
2006-09-16 04:24:10 · answer #11 · answered by astrid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋