staying with our parents. But my wife did not receive my parents & younger brothers warmly. She did not behave well to my parents & younger brothers.She also proposed to live separately. One day she quarreled with my mother with loud voice & my younger brother tried to make my wife calm but my wife also misbehaved with my younger brother. When she was desperate, my younger brother gave her a smack.Then and then my wife has created a untold disorder & left our house after two days instead of our entreaties.However, after three months without caring my parents honour I went to my wife's native village & brought her to Dhaka & started living separately. I intention was to rent a house close to my parents house so that I can look after them time to time & one day we again live with my parents. But my wife is not cooperative to my requests & also not interested to continue relationship with me if I propose her to live together. So please advice me how I will solve this problem.
2006-09-15 20:35:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you asked your wife what she wants? Have you asked your wife why she is unhappy? Have you asked your wife anything? After all she is your wife you are married to her and not your family. I understand your culture and your traditions but you have to ask yourself which is most important to you your culture and traditions or your wife.
2006-09-15 21:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by cinattra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wife has problem with your family and cannot cooperate with them, there are two alternate for that. Firstly try to convience her to stay with your parents in a nice way. The other is if she doesnot agree just leave it and live separately. You can always keep in touch with your parents and look into their needs even without staying with them. I feel marriage is the other name of compromise. All the best for your future
2006-09-15 20:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jayanthi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know your traditons there i can merely give a respect opinon. you should speak with your wife maybe it not all her see what is really going on when you are not there. it is wrong for her to disrespect your mom true that is a no no in any country but it is hard to have two queens in one castle. see your mom is Queen in her castle and your wife wants to be Queen in her own castle. you arent seeing that. your brother had no no no right to lay his hands on your wife he should have came to you as a man and you handle that you should not ever let a man put his hands on your Queen. i would have left too. she feels everyone is against her and you wont stand by her. it says that when a man marries he and his bride become as one forsaken all others. you havent done that. i am not putting blame on you just you need to pay more attention to your wife, why did you marry her? to move in with your mom and physically give her another child then again i said i dont know your tradition. she may have something against your parents and may not but the best way to solve that is get your queen and make her own castle you got too many pawns in your land
2006-09-15 20:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
your problem is really serious but can be solved.well 1stly talk to your wife what excatly is the problem ?well as u told she doesnt want to stay with you well whats the reason behind its just your family or anythng else .2ndly if she is not just interested to stay with your family fine not a deal take a house near to your family ans dont ask your wife to get along with you keep giong to them and well do make her claer of she cant be with your family so you cant be with her family at any cost to support. well in this case you would be happy and your wife would be.so best of luck.
2006-09-15 20:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by tanishqa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is regularly occurring that he needs to do each and each undertaking he can to steer them to satisfied by potential of utilizing actuality they have lost their mom. inspite of the easy actuality that, how he's treating you and them isn't stable. it form of seems such as you're dealing with 3 babies. you're staggering to be disenchanted. you have married a guy with rather some subject concerns, and that could be a annoying concern. possibly the 1st area of do is to discover somebody you ought to seek advice from and get some matters recognized after out on your head. Is there a counselor, clergy, kinfolk contributors, somebody you have self assurance which you would be waiting to seek advice from? Then possibly you ought to hold him to the counseling training after a time. that is not a healthful concern for you, and that may not healthful for them the two. i'm sorry to declare it, inspite of the easy actuality that it would not sound as though he's waiting for a companion in his life staggering now. you ought to desire to guard you. You deserve greater perfect than this. You deserve a husband who treats you as an equivalent. hit upon somebody to talk to, and be sure the placement to bypass from suited right here. superb of fulfillment.
2016-12-18 11:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you trying to make her live where she is not happy? Live alone and start backing your wife up. Stop being on your families side.
2006-09-15 20:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is important that you have your own space to develop your own understanding of ur wife. it is also important that there are boundaries declare when u put ur wife in a situation like that. please try to get into a situation that you can have quality time eit hyour wife without the hinderances from ur Family pressuress
2006-09-15 20:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lung 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sori, i think it's gone case :(
2006-09-15 20:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋