I used to be so shy I could barely talk to people and I had no friends. But then last year I had 3 roommates who really helped me out and make me more confident and that really helped. So sometimes I am really confident but like once a week for a day I'll feel really self conscious and its hard to talk to people. I noticed it always happens after I get annoyed by something, like I spilled something on my shirt or someone gives me a wierd look and then I'll feel depressed all day. How do I get rid of this?
2006-09-15 20:35:06 · 12 answers · asked by Travis 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
get drunk. then u start doing dumb thing without shyness. sooner or later ur shyness will gone.
2006-09-15 20:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by 7eleven guy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem, and I still have it at this time. But how I overcome it , is to take away the fear out of yourself. Like, "fear of failure" that causes embarrassment like the one you mentioned. Before you get out of the house, think of something to talk about when you are meeting someone; like current news, celebrity actors mess up life, anything. Just do it and forget about making a mistake, nobody is perfect, just keep on talking, you will see that people will respond to you and by the end of the day your shyness will be gone.
2006-09-16 04:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by anobangtanong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shyness only occur when you dont feel confident..you know the main reason of shyness is lack of self confidence i had the same problem first of all you gotta think that your the man and the guy/girl your talkin to is nothing in front of you..think your a rockstart and all the people your talking to want to take your autograph..when you will care about you more than other people you will overcome this shyness take deep breath before talking to anyone and than start taking and keep in mind that the guy your talking to is nothing in front of you..i had the same problem and my psycologist suggested me the same thing it might be tough first time but you can overcome it by your will power..good luck!
2006-09-16 04:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by cool k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in a room, have your feet firmly planted in your shoes and on the ground. You'll feel more in control of the situation. It takes time, and you know so many of us are in the same shoes. Even in bars where people seem all outgoing, everyone just wants to be accepted. People are thinking more about themselves than about you. Take it one step at a time. There are also hypnosis CD's/tapes that deal with this exact issue.
2006-09-16 03:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by DNBursky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be pretty shy until I started waiting tables. In that line of work one is forced to talk with thousands of people that they don't know over the course of a year. With this much practice, over time your shyness will disappear.
2006-09-16 03:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by L96vette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problems with u is that u always care what others think or said about u..while u actually need not to worry about it..people will definitely talk about others good or bad..just keep in your mind..that it is their right to do that..u too can do that..we all do..
ok..lets said..u eat alone in crowded place..then u got a feeling people staring at u..let that feeling alone..just said to yourself "get the hell with that" and curse them in your mind..whoever u think staring at u..
about ur conversation..sometimes its ok to keep quiet..keep quiet doesnt means u r shy..but if u needs to talk or expressed ur thought..just let it out..dun think what u want to say..just say what u want to say..u talk about anything..maybe u r worryning of saying something stupid..well once a while everyone did..nobody is perfect..nobody is smart at all times..
2006-09-16 03:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by atokboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a piece of paper and write down things to say to people. Writing it down will help train your brain to remember something to say, and help you talk more. It takes practice.
2006-09-16 03:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exude confidence at all times and tell yourself that you are not shy. after awhile, you won't be shy anymore. it won't work over night; like everything else it takes time. so take your time.
2006-09-16 03:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're overly sensitive. Don't care too much about what people think of you.
2006-09-17 03:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should medetate for atleast 10 mins
2006-09-16 03:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋