ok im readding my question
Im engaged
But my fiance is in prison/jail for like... weed..
and well ive been seeing someone else.. My fiance knows about it and is fine with it.. But the guy im seeing wants a relationship and all of that.
I really love my fiance i just know his past relationship was long and he abused the girl for the last 4 years of the relationship.
hes only tried to hit me once when he was really pissed and he hasnt ever again. that was when me and him first started dating.
We don't know when hes getting out
I trust when he says he wants a life together and he will never hurt me.
But at the present time
Should i continue with him or try differently just to test my love for him.. i dunno
Figured this question needed to be reasked im deleting the other copy of this.. its differently typed.
2006-09-15 20:23:48 · 5 answers · asked by EtardJuggalette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Typo he is in prison at the present time
and the prison is like 4 or 5 hours away i havent gotten to see him since july.. i wont again until hes done with dart and gets moved either to a county jail or a closer prison.
2006-09-15 20:25:41 · update #1
He got close to hitting me.. I was sitting in the back seat of his car and he was in the drivers seat and reached back and tried to slap me and i moved before he did.
I trust him we've been dating a while now and that was the only time it happened.
He was on drugs then and i really pissed him off is why.
other then that he has treated me like gold and pretty much worshipped the ground i walked on.
2006-09-15 20:30:08 · update #2
Anyone with the history of abuse and also is involved with drugs and prison....it is just leading down a road of bad things. If you are already seeing someone else, then there is a part of you that does not want to be with your fiance. If you loved him for better or for worse, you would never look at another guy. I suggest you try a new life. Go with the new guy. Start fresh, and do good for yourself. If your fiance didn't have an abusive past, and was really kind and made a mistake, I would say stick it out with him, but from what is seems, it seems like it is either leave him now, or regret it later. Make it a clean break, that way he can't hurt you. It is easier for you to remove yourself from the relationship with him in there, because he can't "beg" for you back or interfere with a new relationship. I hope this helps, and everything works out with the new guy. :)
(Also as far as only being hit once, usually the real abuse starts in relationship once he is sure he has you, like after marriage. Watch lifetime movies...)
2006-09-15 20:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by curly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, for your safety, forget about your fiance. Don't try to convince yourself he won't hit you. If he abused someone for 4 years, how can you be so sure he won't hit you again. He has some problems he needs to work out. There are guys out there who would love to love you.
You don't need him.
2006-09-15 20:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now. If he hit you once, he will surely hit you a 2nd, 3rd, and many more times. Unless you like being a punching bag, then stay with him.
2006-09-15 20:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Brendy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hit you , he can't love you. so thank God he's in jail, and get on with your life.
2006-09-15 20:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Byron B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should do what your heart tells you...cause no matter what anybody on here says...that's the only true answer is what your heart says!
2006-09-15 20:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by chew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋