My husband had a relationship with my elder sister's daughter first. Now he is having a relationship with second sister's daughter. He is spending lot of time and money on girls and enjoying life to the fullest. All in my family about this and he has no shame facing them also. He is doing all the wrong thing and he is doubting me all the time and telling my parents that I have relationship with lot of men and even with my sister's daughter. I think he is sick. In my family all my brothers and sister's married and settled well and leading a happy married life. I am staying very far from them and they cannot do anything for me. I am earning Rs.18,000/- a month and I have to spend all the money for house expenses. Even then he asks what are you doing with your money. I have two children. I am purchasing everything for them.
Where from the money will come. I have to give the account to him. He is very helpful to others. But If I need any help he will not be there for me.
2006-09-15 20:05:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to get away from him. Try and get a restraining order against him. Go to a bank and open a personal account and put as much money into it as possible. Find someplace safe to go and get there. Try and find a shelter in the state that you live in and stay there until you can get on your feet. You also need to find a good lawyer. Good luck
2006-09-15 20:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is clear... you must get out of this relationship.
I'm surprised how you are still living with him !
Best thing for you is to move in with your parents for a while. If you think your husband will oppose it, tell him you want some time alone or make up some other reason.
Dont talk of divorce initially, as it is a difficult thing in India.
Get a job where your parents are, gradually move out into your own place. As time passes and you get more confidence into yourself and then you may decide when and how to divorce him.
If he is having relationships with your sisters daughters, then you are equally to blame for letting such a thing happen. You should have put your foot down at the first sign of it. Protecting your families children from predators like your husband is equally your responsibility.
2006-09-16 09:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by Explore_Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own personal bank account and don't tell him about it. Slowly deposit what little money you can spare into that account and make a little savings for yourself. When you feel that you have enough in that account for a couple months rent and food for you and your daughters, leave your husband and don't tell him where you're going. Then you can put the money that you're making into your own bank account. This really doesn't sound like a healthy relationship for you to be in.
2006-09-16 03:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
renyou know the answer, just do it. get child support from him, or let him set in jail. you need to use your head, your smart, do the right thing and guard the children at all cost. Now, get off your butt and leave him, It not easy , but you wont be the first or the last to do it. just walk away. or make him leave. If you are scared of him go to a friends are a church, they will help you.
2006-09-16 03:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by fredadover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not acting like a husband or a father for the kids You know what to do, tell your family of his behaviour, get their help and give him the BOOT. good luck He does not give two hoots about you.
2006-09-16 03:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him firmly to mend the ways or seek divorce from him on the ground of mental cruelty.
2006-09-16 08:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Seagull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need to work were you work at first of all second of all you sound a little crazy you like the fact he is having sex with your family and i bet you still have sex with him don't you ? go seek help please before i see you on Jerry springer or Maury he got a secret one of them are pregnant!
2006-09-16 05:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by ljjmjd3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the loser and find another man. Your husband is worthless.
2006-09-16 03:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him and get child support
2006-09-16 03:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean after what he has done and is doing right now you still don't know what to do? you don't have to be a genius to know....LEAVE HIM!!
2006-09-16 03:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋