i was 16 when i left home an she was sick,, i had children an she passed away when i was pregnant w/my 2nd child. I miss her so very much an i just need to know if she will ever forgive me. im so depressed about it,,, its killing me inside every day,,,, i talk to her an ask for forgivness but,,,, i dont see anything that might help me know she hears me. i wasnt an easy child for her,,, an now that i have children myself an they are all grown,,,, i understand alot of what she was triing to teach me. I just never listened,,,, I should of been home when she passed away.. And it kills me so much!!!!
2006-09-15 19:47:44 · 6 answers · asked by gramma_annie330@yahoo.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can understand what your going through. My dad died when I was young and I wasnt close with him and i have alot of regrets about that, I didnt know if i was a good daughter. But I have since found the answer. Your children are your children for life. You will always have a unconditional love for them no matter what. You made mistakes, everyone does. She has forgiven you. She wouldnt want you to live your life with regret. I am sure she wants to see you live and be happy. She is watching over you now. She knows your sorry. Dont go looking for signs, just know she knows.
2006-09-15 19:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were a kid back then and it's not your fault. Your'e mother will surely forgive you. Now that you know what it's like to have children you can understand that children make mistakes when they are young and they don't understand until they are older. Your mother knew this.
You leaving home may have been a way for you to cope with your mom being sick. Being a teenager can be very confusing and hectic, especially with a sick mother. A child will act out in many ways or just won't even think about it. You have punished yourself enough. Your mother knows you feel bad so stop torturing yourself.
Enjoy everything life has given you because one day you will see your mother again and everything will be okay.
2006-09-16 02:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't be so hard on yourself!!! There aren't any owners manuals that come with us!! When your a teenager, 16, heck I remember, I thought I knew everything, and didn't know squat!! We are semi stupid at that age!! I swear I know what you are feeling, my kids are grown too, my mom is gone 4 yrs this Oct. So many things you'd like to say to them, but can't...Now you have time on your hands since the house has emptied, and time to reflect on things...Ok, you weren't there.. that is hard...but I am sure you did learn things along the way via your mother, that unconciously helped you raise your own children...I really don't think your mother would want you to be sad, and carry that feeling of guilt around...She wouldn't want that for you....You didn't listen, I didn't listen, and bet 20 people could answer that they didn't listen as well...My kids didn't listen to everything either, bet your kids didn't also, its how we learn...Look at what a good job you did raising your kids, no one is perfect, but if they are healthy and happy, then your mother would be very proud of you...Look into the eyes of your children, there is Love, that is what you learned from her, so she is always with you!!!!!...
2006-09-16 03:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother passed on july 28th of this year at 86yrs. i am 40 something. we bought my parents home after my father passed away in 2004. we moved in the day we bought the house. my mother and i always were close and got along real well. until these past two years.
not real real bad, but we occassionally had our moments when things became arguementive. usually over stupid little things.
i felt that i should have been the stronger one, and keep to myself.
i had some regrets after her passing in this area. i regretted these arguments so badly, that one night i cried, begged, and pleaded with all of heaven to let her know just how sorry i was. i told Them, that you have to let her know. you just have too!!! after hours of doing this. i ended my prayer, i grew tired and went to bed.
strange enough, the next day a friend of mine over the internet was telling me of one of his regrets to this day, with his mother after her passing many years ago. while i was in the midst of emailing him back...these words came to me...that i also relayed to him...
They were..."She Knows. The inner beauty of the Spirit, is that it knows another Spirits true heart. No verbal words are ever needed to be said". ~~Brother Jesus
I call it..."They Know" by Brother Jesus.
After all, this is whom I pleaded too, along with His Mother - Mary, Father God, St Joseph and all of Heaven.
It has eased my heart a-lot, and I trust in Him for it to be so. I rather trust Him, verses carrying this agony any further. To do otherwise would be just plain stupidity on my part.
His words came to me crystal clear. There was no mistake in what He was relaying to my heart.
It is now a foot note in all of my emails. And, now here for you, and maybe others who may read it. I hope this helps you as much as it did me.
if you would ever care to contact me, by all means do so.
blessings, ~~mafi
ps: two things i have learned in life...babies and the elderly have this one thing in common...they are who they are, and will never change.
pss: it has taken some practice to be able to HEAR what is being said to me from above and beyond. but if you truely work at it, trust, and be patient. it will come. also, don't hesitate to ask for this Wonderful Gift.
psss: if need be...write it down and post it where you can read it often. it will re-enforce your trust.
pssss: in answer to your question? yes...as long as you have asked with a sincere heart...she knows! :-)
2006-09-16 03:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by JanRose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me. She hears you. She knows what you're feeling. She forgives you too! If you need proof then search the web for "ghost orbs" and "evp ghost voices". Don't be so hard on yourself, it isn't logical. Your mom is alright. She is alive and well and living on the other side. I can feel her. I am psychic. Trust me.
2006-09-16 02:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You heard but didn't listen at that younger time but you heard. What you teach your children are what she told you, and hopefully they have a direction, because she is with you whispering of what to do
2006-09-16 03:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋