So i have a friend and she's black right, and she is just as pretty as i am and everything, but its like everytime we go out guys look at me first then look at her, or if she is my other friend which is a blond they look at her first then look at my black friends..is it just the way it is?
i realized i ask a lot questions and races and stuff im just curious
2006-09-15 19:44:19 · 12 answers · asked by brazilianbeauty 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
k well im tried of stupid answers about myself confidence level myself confidence is fine..im hot and i know it?...so stop saying crap about that its lame
2006-09-15 19:52:55 · update #1
Part of it depends on where you live. Being a white female from Canada originally, I am lucky enough that I have very beautiful friends of all other races and depending on where we are at, will depend on who notices which one of us first.
The other part of it depends on your perception. Chances are you are being drawn to, or notice the guys who are looking at you first. And I'm sure she notices the guys that look at her first.
2006-09-15 19:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by n_dymphna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Each person sees beauty based upon the standard of beauty and attractiveness reflected by his/her culture. It is only natural that persons who share the same culture might see beauty first in its own cultural reflection.
Standards of beauty are determined by culture. Certain African-Tribes for example believe that a woman is beautiful only if she has a disk in her lower lip that makes it pertude and drop about two inches. Even a Black Miss America would be ugly to them because their standard of beauty differs.
It is an oversimplification and certainly a generatlization, but white men seem attracted to slinky blonds. Black men may be attracted to the same but would probably see plump thighs, well endowed breasts and petruding but perfectly formed buttocks as beautiful.
The best test is to see how your Black friends respond when they see your white friend and black friend together. In many cases they will probably look at the Black woman first then the white.
It's not the way life works, but it is the way beauty is seen through the cultural eyes of the beholder.
2006-09-15 19:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Bruce Frazier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make? They are checking you out, but not for any particular reason or order. Men like to see sexy women. You are being appreciated. Why not walk up to a guy and make his day by talking to him? (if you like him) Show some acceptance and try not to broadcast rejection. Many nice looking women are so stuck up. If you are going to dress to impress, expect visual attention. Race has no difference for a man. Try to grow up by acting and dressing like you want and not for the expectations of men. Women don't need to try too hard to look good, they are naturally beautiful and attractive. Maybe you all are over doing it.
2006-09-15 19:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is just your perception... You notice them when they look at you, then you watch to see if they look at your friends.
Or maybe it is the way that you dress, maybe you tend to dress in a fashion that gets you noticed first.
Maybe it is a difference in personality, maybe you are more outgoing than your friends.
Then, there is the chance that it is about race ... some people will tend to look at others of the same race before they look at others of a different race.
Maybe even a combination of all of these.
2006-09-15 21:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by burnt_crispy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is most likely YOU
you have no confidence you need to work on your self esteem are your other friend well dressed? Who looks more fashionable? All this plays into attraction and looks
2006-09-15 19:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i look at women, i see the FEMALE HUMAN SPECEM. And whatever it takes to carry on our human race.
If we were all educated in the correct ways we wouldn't separate race from gender. Try it, do a little bit of reading. Expand your mind.
2006-09-15 19:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only it were that simple.
Maybe they're looking at you because they're wondering if you're a wannabe or something. Lots of people these days adopting black culture and mannerisms.
Maybe they think you're all prostitutes.
No real way of knowing what they're thinking or why they're looking.
2006-09-15 19:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Racism or any kind of discrimination must be trash out. If you are conscious of that, just don't pay attention to ignorants ; ) let your friend know you don't mind, or even, note any difference.
2006-09-15 19:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anyaina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THIS IS ALL BECAUSE OF EVERYTHING. WHAT TYPE OF GUYS ARE LOOKING. IT HAS TO DO WITH WHAT YOUR WEARING? HOW YOU CARRY YOURSELF?NOT JUST BY THE COLOR OF YOUR SKIN OR HAIR., BUT YEAH THAT HOW LIFE WORKS.
2006-09-15 19:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Shantel S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is.
Blonde's do have more fun, that silly TV commercial is true!
2006-09-15 20:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋