2006-09-15 19:27:39 · 30 answers · asked by scorpio_hyna707 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Knit some booties...
2006-09-15 19:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You should help your friend consider adoption. There are so many loving couples and families in this world that are dealing with infertility - it would be a wonderful gift that she could give this child. A loving home with two parents who really want to be parents and are ready. A 17 year old cannot be expected to be a parent. There is so much more living that she should be able to do. This boyfriend of 23 is also probably very immature and not ready to settle down with family for the rest of his life. The best gift that you can give your friend is to go to the adoption/attorney office - hold her hand, know that it might be difficult for her, but also be there, reminding her that she is doing the most loving thing possible for this baby. When i typed in a search for "consider adoption" here's what came up:
2006-09-15 19:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by lalo m 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In the state that I live in, when a woman becomes pregnant, she is considered an adult. She has a few options, but first has she told the father that they are expecting? She should let him know BEFORE she decides to do anything. Even if she just tells him and decides to do her own thing, he has a right to know too.
Now, how far along is she? If she is a two months or less, have her get on vitiamin suppliments. This will help to keep her body healthy and the baby healthy. She should see a Planned Parenthood Center or other organization that specializes in dealing with pregnancys confidientially. She has the right to keep this information to herself.
Now after she reaches the three month stage she has to make an important decision. Does she want to keep the baby and raise it, raise it with her boyfriend, give the child up for adoption, adopt out to family, or have an abortion. Tell her not to listen to the opinions of other people. This is her choice, and her body. She alone knows if she is ready for something or not.
If she aborts, make sure you are there to help her through the process. She will be in alot of pain and will suffer emotional problems. Be the friend to her that you really are.
If she keeps the baby, she will need to decide if she wants to adopt it-contact an agentcy, or start gathering baby items: clothes, food, diapers, ect. If you need help on this you can also see the library on baby care reference material.
Whatever she does, you should be there to help her through it. You might have your own ideas on how she should go about this, but remember, if you are really her friend you will support her descision no matter how much it goes against your own.
I hope that this helps you to provide assistance for your friend.
2006-09-15 19:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah Jean 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know what is more interesting, the question, or all the responses. First of all, it is quite interesting to note that most people's responses immediately believe that the father isn't going to stick around and she'll have to raise the child herself. Why is it that people instantly believe the father is going to split just because the girl got pregnant.
Additionally, in quite a few states the legal age of concent is below eighteen. It is quite likely that the boyfriend hasn't broken any laws. I see nothing wrong with a seventeen year old dating a twenty three year old, in all honesty. That aside, in any relationship people probably shouldn't be having premarital sex period. It is simply amazing of how many problems in our society can be traced back to people not keeping it in their pants until marriage.
However, now, after the fact, what needs to be done? Well it is quite obvious, she is going to be having a child. The real question now is what exactly is the boyfriend going to do, which will possibly directly chose her course of action. Sadly, very sadly, if the boyfriend is going to split, it will be quite difficult for her to find another man to help raise her child. We men tend to flee, rapidly, when the woman we want to date has a child already.
2006-09-15 19:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
What she should have done was wait to have sex. the deed is done he should be ashamed of his self molesting that child.yes molesting he 21 and she is under 18. She should have her baby, finish school so that she can provide and teach her child better.Don't wait for him to step up that would only set you back.If he is helping let him and keep him if not let him go,child support will do the rest.Always think of the best interest of the child,Don't denie the father visitation just monitor his time with the baby, you Will need a break.Good Luck and GOD be with you.
2006-09-15 19:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by handicute2 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
she should talk to her parents or a counselor and don't try to force the dad to have something to with the baby. if he turns away that will hurt more and cause more problems for your friend while shes pregnant than if she just deals with it on her own,but if the dad wants to be in the picture don't stop him cause babies need both parents and it does help if you have some one there with you through pregnancy
2006-09-15 19:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by cassie b 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Both need to talk about what they want to do. Boyfriend is in trouble for statutory rape and will have to pay child support. He will learn that with aciions come consequences. Your friend is going to need a lot of support. Even though it will be difficult, that baby is going to need a lot of care. She needs to finish school in order to get some kind of job, as well.
2006-09-15 19:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by salsera 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She should have though of this before. With all the free contraception available there's no excuse. I suggest she starts saving money to buy all the things her baby will need. She's better start educating herself too.
2006-09-15 19:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by claire 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
she should decide if she wants the baby then be honest with her parents so she can have the best pregnancy by seeing a doctor regularly good luck
2006-09-15 19:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by casey r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her parents know. That's illegal anyways. Continue school....but let her boyfriend make money to support the baby at the same time
2006-09-15 19:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by guru 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She should NOT keep the child -- the kid deserves loving, mature parents who are prepared emotionally and financially to give it everything it deserves. The baby didn't ask for this crap. ADOPTION. ADOPTION. ADOPTION. Tell her now's the time to make a smart choice, for once in her life.
2006-09-15 19:38:56 · answer #11 · answered by mangopuppy 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋