I am not attracted to my husband. And I am passionate about my ex. See the problem is they are trchnically both my husband. One by commonlaw and taxes which I would have to get an affadavit divorce. But also got legally married to current husband. I have sex with ex on occasion, but no attraction to husband #2 when we do have sex. Commonlaw is out os atate in military and #2 lives with me? what to do. Sex is important to me. I am the type who needs passion and yearning. what to do? I have a child with each. Who do I choose.?
2006-09-15 19:22:12 · 16 answers · asked by angiesnotshy11083 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Need counseling since you are all about "you you you" than marriage itself. You don't love both and no reason to get married if not seriously committed. You are committed adultry no matter how you try to "justify" it.
2006-09-15 19:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Without sounding too mean. Why are you sleeping with your ex? Didn't you know you where not attracted to #2 before you married him? or is it that #1 not a good man and you are trying to be greedy. As the old saying goes you can't have your cake and eat it too. You better come clean with #2 if that's not where your heart is and give him the opportunity to find someone that will be good to him. If this is not the case then you have to let #1 go. Sex is highly over rated if that is all you have in a relationship then it's only a matter of time before that get's old to. The only advice I can give you is choose with your head and not with your kitty cat.
2006-09-15 20:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must choose none of them. Get divorced from your current husband. Leave them both alone and get on with your sorry, pathetic self. Your kids should be more important to you than sex. Focus on raising your children with morality and self-respect. Have sex whenever you find the time to meet a guy that you've known for a while BUT OUT OF SIGHT AND KNOWLEDGE of your children. They shouldn't know that they have a nimphomaniac as their mother.
2006-09-15 21:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by SheDevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm getting like that too. It is going on and rancid alot regardless of the reality that. My husband has been lengthy previous for 14 months now (also deployed). I comprehend that i fairly gotta placed on myself out. I easily have an 8 month previous to assist me out with that regardless of the reality that. I even ought to sleep with the television in my mattress room on. Watch something humorous. not something unhappy or scary in the experience that your a scardy cat like me lol. It receives extra accessible because it is going by employing.
2016-11-27 01:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like most women i know.. so since you have no moral obligation to anyone other than your vagina.. why not move them both in with you and have a screwed up threesome going..this might help both of them.. and prolly the only way you will be happy.. but at the same time it will torpedo the mental stability of your kids and crush the chances of them having any morals or knowing what is morally right or wrong.. unless they are totally diguseted by you... which drives them harder to be people of character..
2006-09-15 20:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by terryshawn1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your common law out of state husband is in violation of UCMJ so thanks for helping him ruin his career if he gets caught. If your by law married husband finds out he can go to your ex's commander and really ruin your ex's day.
p.s. You don't need passion and yearning you need a hobby and a vibrator.
2006-09-15 21:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by cinattra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be so blunt,but you shouldn't have married #2 in the first place. Then you wouldn't be in this predicament.
2006-09-15 19:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should choose yourself and seek medical help. You need counseling to get you head together. What you are doing is wrong and all you will end up doing is hurting yourself and others.
2006-09-15 19:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mit 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say let them choose you. Be honest with the both of them and see who stays with you.
2006-09-15 19:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have an answer for you..think you may be burning your candles at both ends, and someone is going to get burned...hopefully its not the two kids in the long run...very strange situation...
2006-09-15 19:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋