This question is for my brother,
His wife left him because she said that when she would ask him to do things for her we wouldnt. For example she wanted a car so than she could at least see her family that lived further away. But he kept putting it off, He doesnt get along with her family cause they werent very good to her or him alot of the times. But now she wants to patch things up with her family and he finds it hard to forgive them. So he doesnt want to see them. Shes a stay at home mother who is going crazy cause she cant go out and do things because of not having a car. He would get her one but he wants a new one so that it will be safe for her and the kids, and right now they dont have the money.But she thinks its all just a excuse. Theres alot of other things she has wanted but he just didnt listen.Now that she left, he realizes he should of. He told her he has changed but she cant belive him, how can he prove to her that he has changed, and make sure that he wont change back?
2006-09-15 19:04:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well you mean he will change his mind about the car or the in laws,seems theres alot more than just the car thing,he would have to prove it by probably buying the car for her,but is that really going to be enough for her or will she find something else to want to leave cause she didnt get. or is the car thing that important that she had to leave,so he would have to sit and talk with her and talk about all the problems they have than she has to decide if hes sincere or not. Good luck to your bro.
2006-09-15 19:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by alwayssmiling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could get her the car and the other things she asked for,but that doesn't guarantee that she'll come back.I think that if he makes a genuine effort to reconcile with her family,and he continues to do so,that she will see he is at least trying to make amends. She may put off going back to him for a while to see if he continues with his efforts with her family. He has to understand. This isn't a matter of her getting her way in this situation. This is a matter of compromise,and he needs to learn how to do so.
2006-09-15 19:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 01:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't changed, the reason he hasn't gotten her a car yet is because this is CONTROL. He wants his cake an eat it too, an he can't. What she needs to do is take him to work an pick him up in his car or let him walk
2006-09-15 19:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by witcheywoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing,she should'nt ever got herself in a situation were she can't stand for herself,never depend on a man to take care of everything. Get a job and do things for herself.For sure don't let a man come beteen her and her family,especialy with them trying to work things out.She gave him to much control,she needs to get on her feet,then see how he reacts to that.Is it love that he wants to prove or does he have control issues.I think your brother has control issues.
2006-09-15 19:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by twinky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like a money problem situation. Wife didn't get what she wanted so she left. Sounds like she was manipulating him and didn't get anywhere. I don't see trying to get them back together unless they can work it out. Many fights between couples involve money.
2006-09-15 19:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His wife kept asking and he made his choices because of his feelings and didn't care about hers. No wonder she left.
Tell him pull out that charge card and start buying what she wanted
2006-09-15 21:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a car...Stop telling her he hates her family, she will resent him forever for this, its her family...Do what he says when he says it....
2006-09-15 19:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get her the damn car.
2006-09-15 19:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,, do everything she wants
2006-09-15 19:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋