I disapprove of them liberally doing their thing as though they know about life. Where's the respect these days? There is nothing wrong with hiding having sex with your partner under your parents roof. Get your own place and be an adult about your responsiblities. THIS BOTHERS ME A LOT!
2006-09-15 19:03:00 · 7 answers · asked by Gap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are posing good values, and the other party isn't. the two inbetween will go with the other every single time. it never fails. if you make it known that you disagree. you see less of the one that is your own. friends of ours, just went through this same exact problem with their daughter, as did us and others we know. your daughter will think with her legal rights and her hormones. doesn't care about love for her parents or respect for herself. now if the states would re-enforce the law prohibiting cohabitation. then and only then can changes be made. the law IS in the books. just not being enforced. i do agree, that the two want to be adults, they should act like aduts and get a place of their own. but something tells me, that they can't afford it. so they will settle for next best, in order to be together. the best thing you can do is be there emotionally, but as for coming to you for financial help or for handouts? just say sorry, no can do. like us and our friends, you have to draw the line somewhere. but don't threten ahead of time...just politely spring it on her when she comes to ask. and she will ask, sooner or later. good luck!...ps: if they have to live together. i rather see them married. doesn't cost much to get that done with. even they can afford this. just as our daughter and her husbnd could and did. we would not put money out any form of a wedding given to the fact of our daughter display of dispresct with our wishes. and we didn't either. but, then at the very least, being married, they have something worth being together for. again good luck!
2006-09-15 19:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by JanRose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did u allow yr daughter to move from your home, did it occur to you that that same way you had no say to her moving out perhaps the boyfriends mum too is sailing in the same boat, honey love and respect doest come out of finger pointing, and if there are certian things on yr mind i'd say come out with them dicuss them in an adult fashion, voice yr opinioins and work out a solution.
2006-09-15 19:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by haboba13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant say anything against her...I had my first child at 15. I am married to my childs father and we have been together for 10 years now. We have also had two more beautiful children. Now, let me say this....AT THE TIME, I didn;t care WHAT my parents said. I LOVED him and that was all I saw....all I cared about. BUT!! Now that we have 3 daughters together, I COMPLETELY understand and I look at them and PRAY that they make better choices!! She probably loves this guys....and nothing you are going to say is going to stop them. Just stand by her and love her and PRAY that she is learning and making the right choices. Good luck Mama.
2006-09-15 19:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she is 19 and considered an adult. All you can really do is tell her how you feel and then stand back and let her make her own decisions. Be there when she does fall on her face.
2006-09-15 19:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right there is no respect these days. I wasn't even allowed to have my boyfriends go upstairs of our house where the bedrooms were. It didn't matter if he wasn't going into my bedroom.
2006-09-15 19:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. it would of of been more of a adult thing/ responsible thing if they got thier own place. Talk to her about it.
2006-09-15 19:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by sweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i couldnt agree more!!!
2006-09-15 19:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋