Married people only (happily or not), what made you decide that THIS person would be the one you'd marry? How old were you and how long were you together when you married? I'm wondering how people make that leap from 'I love you and want to be with you' to 'lets book a hall and pick invitations'. Guys, why did you propose to THIS girl?
2006-09-15 18:54:32 · 14 answers · asked by lucy_shy8000 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GOD! Seriously! I am not married to this man yet, we have a few things to work out. This man would give me the world if he could...most of the time! hehehe. I have treated him in the worst ways sometimes and he still finds ways to find the good in me. Don't get me wrong he has his faults too...believe me, he's not perfect. But I am telling you, if God had not brought him in my life at the time he did, I would be hopeless and the guy really didn't blow my skirt up at the time. I have been living with him for over a year and known him for over 2 years. I can't imagine my life without him. You have to contemplate the question ...I can live with him, but can I live without him? Spouses are supposed to be complements to our lives, not complications. And somehow, if you just have enough faith to... let go and let God...he will. It may take awhile but it will happen and boy, did I try rushing a lot of relationships. It is so reassuring knowing that this is the right man for me...it's amazing! You may not know right away, but if for some reason things keep working out to where you are still together then you may as well give in. God planned it that way! Good luck and God bless.
P.S. to Mit.......I believe also that God has given us a brain...it's called "free will". I happen to believe that people are brought into our lives for reasons ....whether it is just to say something to you to make you have a better day, or maybe to prove to yourself how much character you really have by saving some little girl from being kidnapped, raped and killed possibly. But for me...I know God brought me my best friend because I asked for him and got him at the right time...my father died recently and I had no one I had known long enough to be able to have as a pillar of strength for me and this man has done that. So PLEASE don't say that what I have said about God is wrong or not the way anyone is going to find their mate. Obviously by your answer to this person shows you .......well, I will stop here! God bless!
2006-09-15 19:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 26 when I married my husband. We were together for almost two years when we got engaged. And a little over two years when we got married. I was engaged twice before and couldn't go through with it. I just didn't see it working in the past. With my husband now. I just wanted to be with him all the time. I couldn't imagine my life without him. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else but him. Don't get me wrong. I had my doughts about marrying him. We had fights. We still have fights. That's just life. It's natual to have some doughts. I think everyone gose through that where they wonder if it is what they really want, is it going to work so forth and so on. I don't think you can really ever KNOW if it's going to work. No one can perdict the future. I've known people that were the perfect couple,and always seemed so happy. And are now divorced. I've also known people that I didn't think would last longer then a year. But are still married severl years later. No one can tell you if it's right. You just have to figure out for yourself if this person is the right person for you. But you don't want to be one of those stupid people that just jumps into a marriage for the wrong reasons, and then have to turn around and get a divorce and the next thing you know your seeing your kids on the weekend, and you have to split half of your stuff up, pay child support or alimony. And your new girlfriend hates the your ex-wife. And your torn between them because you want to see your kid. And it's one hudge fight all the time that never goes away. My husband was married before. He hates his ex wife. He says it's the biggest mistakes he's ever made. Just do what really makes you happy. If that is marrying this person do it! Do what is right for you. After all it's your life.
2006-09-15 19:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off God is not going to find you the perfect spouse. God gave you a mind to chose your own lifes direction.
Now. My spouse was my best friend before we started dating. We could talk about anything. There was no sexual feelings a first she was dating as I was.
We sometime would not see each other for months but soon as we did both our lifes would light up. About three years after we first became friends we both were not dating and we meet up for a lunch. We had not seen each other for 3 or 4 weeks. When we meet we hugged and I did want to stop as neither did she. Well the hug did stop and we sat down at the table. We just looked at each other not really talking like all the othe times whenever we met before. After a little while I put my hand on the table towards her she did the same. We held hands no talking just looking. I dont know why we really didnt talk.
Well after sitting there looking at each other we go up and I walked he to her car. We were still holding hands. When we got to her car I told her I loved her and could not wait to see her again. She smiled and said its about dam time. We have been together everyday since then.
We married 8 months later. Had our fist child year after that. We have 3 beautiful children. We still hold hands and spend every minute we have being together.
My wife was 29 year old and I was 34 when we married.
We became friends when she was 25 and I was 30. I said I love you when she was 28. We married one week after she turned 29. We have been married for over 20 years.
2006-09-15 20:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, so many questions. I was 27 when I met the man who is now my husband, he was 25. We met in 1990 at a friend's wedding. I knew from the first kiss that he was the one for me, but what also clinched it for me was, knowing that I didn't feel as good without him as I did with him. We were engaged for three years before we got married.
As for that "leap" you're asking about, it takes faith to make that jump, because the space under you can be as deep as the Grand Canyon.
As for his proposal, he proposed to me at a flea market, just after buying me a ring. He felt the same way I did, so he asked me to marry him, and I said yes. We've been together 16 years this October, and married for the last 13.
2006-09-15 19:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my husband for 5 years, engaged for 2 and now happily married for 14 years. We've been through so much during our going out years and if some of the things didn't keep us apart then nothing will. I got married when I was 28 and he was 25.
2006-09-15 19:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw him from across the room and wondered what it would be like to be with 'him'. He was the first person I dated that really made me laugh and didn't try to impress me with worldly goods. I could close my eyes and envision a future growing old together with him. We were dating for 2 years, engaged for 3 yrs. I was 25 and he was 27 yrs old when we finally got married and been married for 18 years now and we still love each other very much.
2006-09-15 19:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by sakura4eternity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 20, female. Been married for a year. I didn't believe there is such a thing as "love at first sight"....or at least I didn't think it would/could happen to me. I also did not believe that you can just "know" that someone is the right person. Well, as it turns out, when the right person comes...You Just Know! There is no other way to explain it really. People may come up with many different opinions based on their experiences. It all depends on the person...and every single person is different, therefore, every single relationship is different.
2006-09-15 19:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by FoodLOVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew that I was going to marry my husband because of the way he loved me was different than with other guys.
I was 24 and we only dated a year and a half before we got married. I dated one other guy for 4 years and another for 3 years, but when I met my husband I just knew we should get married.
Good Luck!
2006-09-15 18:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually getting married in 2 weeks. We are both in our 30's and have dated for 1 year. He proposed while we were in the middle of eating artichokes. I knew I wanted to marry him when I realized that he brings out my best traits and helps me live my dreams in life. I cant imagine life without him.
2006-09-15 19:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by julez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her behaviour, appearance, manners and ofcourse her family reputation. We are married sice last 13 years without any dispute and have two children.
2006-09-15 21:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by Satarani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋