I got married to a nice man, who I now have a child with. But my marriage was based off a rebound. I still love my ex very much. I have a child with ex as well. I am not with ex anymore because we had alot of financial and other stress factors in there. My husband is good to me. But I love him ina freindship roomate sort of way. My ex never cheated or did anything bad. He was a good guy. But we were young. And didnt know how to handle ourselves. I cant forget ex or stop my feelings. I am not sexually atracted to husband at all. And yearn for my ex. I guess I want to know what others would do in my situation, and some advice would be great. I have not gone back to my ex because I do not want to hurt my husband and for stability reasons regarding my kids. We are local and hub works local, ex is in military in virginia. Ex wants to work it out, husband is content with me and I am torn on what to do. Have two kids one with each and they are a huge factor in my choice. Someone please help!!
2006-09-15 18:46:44 · 12 answers · asked by angiesnotshy11083 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should be with neither guy! You need time to be single. Your married yet want another man? You should be single, raise your kids, and get a cat.
2006-09-15 18:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Maimee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you dont love your husband, and dont see him as a lover and companion.. then you should divorce him. As far as your EX, you should stay away from him too.. You would be doing him and your husband a big disservice by being with anyone right now. You need to find out what you want before you start involving others emotions. Good luck.
2006-09-16 02:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rainey H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stuck in the past. What you had with your ex when you were young is not there anymore, you both have gotten older and things have changed, trust me he's not the same and neither are you. Given the opportunity to rekindle this you will see but it may be too late for your marriege. If this is the man that God sent to you , you will love him in time and the sex will get better over time as your love for him grows. I experience this and now love my husband more than I could have imagined. If you need to get closure in that past relationship explain that to your husband and trust his love for you.
Good Luck! God Bless!
2006-09-16 01:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by delta s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to take resposibility for your actions! you married this man and that is who you should stay with till death do you part. remeber your ex is single and free and even thou he wants to work it out he is still gettin his. if he knows that your married, he just wants to see if u would sucker enough to come back to him. leave him alone. you yearn for him is true but it will pass. you said that you two were young when you were together but years have passed and people changed. he probably is the same way...immature. dont be doubeminded stick with your husband and leave your ex alone, he probably justs want you cause your married. but if you werent he probably would not give you the time of day
2006-09-16 09:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY ADVICE TO YOU IS FOLLOW YOUR HEART BECAUSE IF YOUR HEART IS WITH YOUR EX AND YOU STAY WITH YOUR HUSBAND FOR STABILITY EVERYONE WILL GET HURT IN THE END. YOU NEED TO HAVE A TALK WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND TELL HIM YOU FEEL. SO THAT THE TWO OF YOU CAN END THIS MARRIAGE ON A GOOD NOTE AND THEN YOU CAN REMAIN FRIENDS IF THAT I S WHAT YOU FEEL FOR HIM ALREADY. HE DESERVES TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO CARES FOR HIM ON EVERY LEVEL NOT JUST FRIENDSHIP. I THINK IN ORFER FOR THE BOTH OF YOU TO GET WHAT YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE YOU WILL HAVE TO BE WITH OTHER PEOPLE
2006-09-16 01:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is follow your heart, my lord you have yourself in a hard hard place, one seems for comfort and other for pure love, I wish you all the best and what ever happens it has got to be for the right reasons, good luck to you
2006-09-16 01:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by shero67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling...i dont even know where to begin. personally, i seriously beleive you should go seek help from a counselor. they could definately help you sort your feelings much better than anyone on here could. trust me. if you want to get to the bottom of this and do what is best for your kids and yourself, go seek help from a professional. good luck.
2006-09-16 01:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, think about the kids. Are they happy. If you are not unhappy, WHY throw it all away?! Find something to spice up your bedroom life. Exhaust all avenues before just giving up on your hubby, then make your decision.
2006-09-16 01:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get counceling after you get divorced you cant have both you asked this question in a different way a few munites ago . my opion?
2006-09-16 03:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
following your heart might hurt your kids...I think you just wait it out for a while:)
2006-09-16 02:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋