2006-09-15 18:37:22 · 30 answers · asked by GONE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been fondled by a gay man. I have had a feminine, finger snapping gay man grab me and French kiss me. I have even had one gay roommate who entertained his man in his bedroom next to mine try to physically fight a man who came take me out on a date and tell even tell my possible date that I "belonged" to him! This last incident happened 6 years ago. To this day I'm perplexed by this behavior. Is it just typical male privilege thinking? But I thought gay men didn't have that mindset. Anyway I do know of a very feminine gay man at my job who grabbed a female co-worker's breast in a joking way...well he was FIRED promptly. So to me that says that gay or not...he has no rights to paw at anyone's body especially a female's.
2006-09-15 18:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is a straight married woman and she used to always grab my boobs too. Despite her sexuality and gender it still made me very very very very uncomfortable so I told her so and although it was quite an awkward conversation she understood. Just talk to him about. It doesn't matter if he's gay if he touches your body in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable then let him know he needs to stop pronto!
2006-09-15 19:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tiacola Version 9.0 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A quickie answer:
1. Tell him you don't like it. (He'll never know otherwise).
2. Make him respect the fact that you don't like it (in case he wants to be a smartass even once you told him).
3. Don't worry.
4. He is gay. So he was probably longing to have what he never will own.
5. He was probably joking.
2006-09-15 18:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mario E 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No don't be angry. Anger clouds ones judgement. However tell your friend that his actions made you feel uncomfortable and you should explain to him the parameters of your relationship with him.
2006-09-15 18:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by KSJTam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, just tell him not to do it again if it made you feel really uncomfortable. But I'm sure he was just playing with you! No need to be mad over something so simple. :) Hope all ends well!
2006-09-15 18:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by B K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes and no...well i had a drag queen friend who o said mine were the perfect size and would always touch them...i thought he was just getting a cheap feel...but i let it go cause he wanted to be like me but...another of my friends spent the night at his house and point is she had a hickey the next day and never spent the night again... nothing else happened. so i feel he s confused. i was mad after but got over it.
2006-09-15 18:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Rain S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, he's just jealous, but he may have hostile feeling towards women subconsciously because it's a mean thing to do. He probably isn't truly your friend. Avoid and don't trust. It was a hostile act, not a sexual one.
2006-09-15 18:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by kazak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether he is gay or not, that doesn't give him the right to put his hands on you. Express to him your feelings to make sure he doesn't do this again.
2006-09-15 18:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should noone should touch you in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. Sexual orientation is not a defense to sexual assault
2006-09-15 18:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by david k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dudette, tell him its not cool to grope u just cuz he's gay. it was probly an accident, or he was joking, but u should make sure he knws how u feel abt it. we males, bi, gay, or straight like me, take silence as acceptance.
its an unfortunate glitch in our system.
2006-09-15 18:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋