I have been with this guy for almost 2 years now and we are hitting a rough patch in are relationship. About two weeks ago I found out he was on a dating website pretending to be avaible and when I asked him about it he said he filled it out cuz he thought I sent him those websites.. Then about a week ago he started downloading naked girls on to are computer...
What is going on?...
2006-09-15 18:36:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Men are very visually stimulated, which is a trait which most women don't share with the same passion. It feels good to look. Its probably similar to the way you feel when you get a really good massage or read a really good story which gets the fire sizzling for you.
It's something you guys should work on together. Find a way to help meet those needs he's chasing. At the same time, he should find a way to meet the needs you have. Talk about it, openly and honestly. Tell each other in plain terms what you really, really want. And then come to an agreement about taking care of it! Best of luck in your relationship.
2006-09-16 13:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you answered your own question. Your very first sentence should be key to you. "we are hitting a rough patch in our relationship" The possiblilty of him looking or even downloading nude women onto the computer may be as a result of things not being the same in your relationship. Two years is a turning point for most unwed couples, it's the point when people get so comfortable with another , that they feel that they do not have to anything to keep the other from straying. Well that isn't true, first of all try talking to your guy and find out what it is that fascinate him about his recent "hobby" and then try taking some inititave and spice up the initimacy in your love life, be creative, show him that you are just as if not even more sexier than the women on the net he can't have in first place. It's probably not that he's not interested in you anymore he probably feels the need for a little "more" or "new". It's up to both of you to keep the spice going, dont get to comfortable, always have the attitiude especially if you really love this guy, that he could be gone tomorrow.
Basically reinvent the relationship and spice it up some. You should work out just fine.
2006-09-15 18:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by J Truth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you read my second paragraph, determine if reading more is needed. The question is: So what? How does his looking effect your relationship? Is he distant, or not interested in you? If he is still hot for you, then this is just a past time of his. Not something most people accept, but what harm is it doing? He's probably been doing this for the 2 years you've been together, an what has it hurt so far? If you still think it hurts, read on.
You have two situations here.
1) Guys are visual animals. (Some) Guys like to look and stare - a lot and often. Women (who look) can glance at a guy and be satisfied. This is not an excuse for looking at naked girls, internet porn is more an addiction than a casual look, so that could become a problem for him.
2) Being on a dating website, he may be curious about if he could "do better" than you.
If you are living together, ask him to stop doing that stuff on the internet for one month, and come to you for anything he wants rather than being on the internet. If he agrees, you must follow through.
See how that goes, and good luck with him.
2006-09-15 18:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by MikeQuestions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad my husband doesn't do this crap to me other wise he would be in the dog house I don't think that stuff is right what's the point in it??? he has you he doesn't need fantasy's he can see you naked and be with you your all he should need he needs to learn the difference between real and fake if I was him I would rather have the real deal men like that just isn't satisfied with one woman it's not you it's just he has disrespect for you and doesn't know the meaning of being committed in a relationship put a lock on the computer see how he likes that
2006-09-15 19:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with the dating service he might just be looking at them and seeing maybe nothing there or he might want to spice up the realtionship with a threesome EVERYMANS dream. But honey about the downloading naked women i been with my husband for 12 years and everytime i walk in he is on either 360 downloading music and girls or porn sites so that part is just a guy thing.
But i would ask if you thought i sent them why did you pretend to be aviable.
2006-09-15 18:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might be a problem if he's showing less interest in you in order to spend more time on these sites. But if he's still after you, then it's probably not that big a deal.
Really, have you ever tried having sex every time your boyfriend asked for it? You probably wouldn't like it. So he's just taking care of his needs without bothering you.
The only part that could be a problem is if he's actually trying to make dates in real-time with women on the dating sites. He could just be looking to chat or gets a kick out of seeing who else is out there. But it doesn't mean he's stepping out on you.
Also, he didn't just start downloading pictures. You might have just found them, but...
2006-09-15 18:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are pigs I caught my boyfriend down loading naked women or almost naked ones and I asked him about it he said nothing I told him that hurted me because I give him him what ever sex he wants at the time and he did that.He told me I was boring and Itold well bring something different into the bedroom that we could try.
2006-09-15 18:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by tootles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are pigs and it sounds like he is getting ready to dump you.
Did he really expect you to believe that lie that he thought you sent him those websites? Besides, just because you sent them, he didn't need to join them and pretend to be single. My ex did that too. Not long after, we were through.
2006-09-15 18:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you see some of them, you want to see all of them. Its the same thing with women and shoes, except that we don't want to try breasts on to see how they fit and feel :).. OK well some of you guys might, but that's another question!
2006-09-15 18:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're becoming fat or unaatractive. If you're fat, try Weight Watchers, and stay away from eating cakes and pies. If you're ugly, get a hot friend to join you when you have sex.
2006-09-15 18:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋