I love my girlfriend very much. we have been going out for just over 4 months. I feel a very strong connection with her and I can see myself with her for many years to come. She has told me she loves me very much and that she sees herself with me for a long time. is it too early to propose?
2006-09-15 18:30:20 · 18 answers · asked by im_my_own_number_1fan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a fulltime job that I have worked at for the past 6 years. she gets along great with my Family and I get along with hers.
2006-09-15 18:36:34 · update #1
when somethings happen she will be like "That will be some story to tell our kids". is this a good sign???
2006-09-15 18:37:41 · update #2
I have money and I drive
2006-09-15 18:39:06 · update #3
she comes over every weekend and stays at my house, and when I have to bring her home she does not want to go. I only bring her home because i have to not because i want to
2006-09-15 18:46:42 · update #4
I am 23 years old and she is 18. She has had a few boyfriends and relationships whereas I am still kinda a newbie at this whole thing. I've only had a couple relationships but nothing special like I feel this one is
2006-09-15 18:50:45 · update #5
I should mention(it may not matter) I have a disability and I have felt for most of my life I would find no one. and then she comes into my life and accepts me for who I am. I cannot see myself with anyone else. She is very positive and encourages me all the time. she does not do everything for me and lets me maintain my independance.
2006-09-15 19:11:39 · update #6
ah geez o petes, cut the guy some slack you people!!! none of us are experts. love is love. You...just follow your heart! get the ring, make the preperations, and then ask her. what is the worst that could happen? if she says yes, then start making plans for a year from now for the wedding. if she says no, then at least you know where you stand and move on. better to now than later. if she needs time to think? give her no more than 3 uninterrupted days without you to do this. good luck, ~~mafi...ps: come back and let us all know what happens.
2006-09-15 19:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by JanRose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend it to anyone under the age of 21. I was 27 and my wife was 18 when we were engaged. I proposed to her after we had been dating for about 6 months, but we were engaged for 2 1/2 years before our wedding. No matter what age you are make it a LONG engagement. That way, you really get to know the person first. If at anytime either one of you see that it's not going to work out, you have time to call it off before you make a major move.
2006-09-15 18:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by dixieoverland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months really inst long enough to know if you want to marry this girl. Seriously consider waiting so that you both dont end up in divorce later on.
Living togeather is waaaaaaaaay different than being with eachother. Seeing eachother everyday 24/7 is a bit different than getting to go home alone. You really need to make sure that you both can live with eachother. Beleive me love isnt the onlything that keeps a marriage alive.
2006-09-15 18:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what?? same thing happened to me my husband and I was with each other for 4 months too and we knew we wanted each other for the rest of our lives it was love at first sight listen to your heart like we did now we have 2 toddlers and been married for 4 years I'm 22 he's 24 we're very happy together I say go for it life is too short to know what might had been!!!
2006-09-15 19:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give it more time,its always like that at first,love is so beautiful,but theres alot of things to still think about,I know you have it all figured out already and you seem to really love her and her you,but a year is a good time to wait,dont get so impatient,she still is very young and 23 is still young too. Thats how I felt with my ex like this is it,but theres always alot more we dont know yet in just 4 months. dont rush it,she will still be there if its the right person. Good luck
2006-09-15 18:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by alwayssmiling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you will know. I know that's not the answer you wanted to hear.
However, I can offer a shed of light at the end of the rainbow.
Hubby proposed 3.5 months into dating me we married 10 months after meeting, and we'll be celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary next year.
I was 20 when we met, he was 31, so I don't feel that age should be a factor in making the decision.
2006-09-15 18:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's not a standard time people have to wait to get engaged. depending on your relationship and the connection the two of you share, you can look at your relationship and decide for yourself. After dating for 2 months, my boyfriend and i KNEW we were going to get married. next summer we are tying the knot! my grandparents got married 3 months after they met. my aunt got married 10 months after she met her husband. my parents got married after only a year. if you feel that she is someone you will spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE with (not just "a very long time"), you should KNOW the answer to this question. if not, there's no harm in waiting longer. good luck with your decision!
2006-09-15 19:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 25, then I'd say wait a bit, if you are over 25, then go for it. I have been engaged 3 times and it took me till 30 to realize what I truely wanted in my life long love.
2006-09-15 18:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by julez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u think ur ready to get married, then I say GO FOR IT!!! My husband and I were engaged after 3 months of dating. He probably would have asked by 2nd wk but thought it would have been to soon. But we have been married almost 7 yrs and have 2 kids and I'm happy.
So just go for it.
2006-09-15 18:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by deb2rule 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can propose, and commit officially, and then agree to have a long engagement.
So it's like you're married, but you have time to really connect (and save up for a real bang of a ceremony!)
2006-09-15 18:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋