and how do you deal with it?
2006-09-15 18:25:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES! I am a house wife. People assume all the time that I just sit around all day doing nothing. Or that I don't ever go anywhere or talk to anyone. Or that I just watch TV all day. I am going to school, I do all the cleaning and my husband I are trying to start a family. People will probably give you crap about it. In this day in age most couples need both to work, so when one of you doesn't people don't understand. I think people say put downs to like what they say to me. Because their jealous. Because most people if had the opportunity would do the same thing if they could. But most of the time they just say mean things to bring others down because their jealous. Do what is right for you and your husband. And what I say to them is... If if doesn't bother us it shouldn't bother you. I had a friend that use to say mean things all the time just little insults about me being lazy or how I most be bored. Then when I started talking about getting a job she found something to mean to say about that too. I think she was just jealous and want to put me down anyway she could. Don't let people like that get to you.
2006-09-15 18:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes I do I have even got it off of here before but I just ignored it I just told them my husband is a hard worker and that we have a 1 and 2 year old and that I rather for my kids to be with me then to be in some daycare now days you have to watch who watches your kids cause you never know what can happen my parents can't cause their always busy I rather be there for my kids and put a career on hold my kids are little they need me now more then ever I would give anything up for them one person said I think I'm better then the hard working moms cause I spend more time with them that's not true that's not the way I feel I just feel women should want to be with their kids instead of having a career kids need us and we need to be there for them not trying to make anyone mad and if I do I'm sorry and believe it or not just cause a woman doesn't work it doesn't make her lazy us women while we're home it isn't fun in games we don't lay around or sit on our butts we cook and clean while my husband is at work I cook, do dishes,mop,do the laundry,dust,vacuum,change kids,feed kids,bathe kids,watch kids,spend time with the kids it isn't easy and I'm not bitching about it just saying us stay at home moms and wives are on the go constantly trying to keep up with the house and kids we may not get paid for it but it IS a job!!!!!!!!
2006-09-15 20:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife did. But it was just because those bitching didn't have any other thing to ***** about. When the kids got older she went to work and has done quite well for herself. You deal with it by being honest. Tell people you would rather raise your kids than a daycare. If they cant except that, then tell them to kiss your a*s. They may not accept that but it will be understood!
2006-09-15 18:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by noname 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i agree, if they have the nerve to indicate that you are less for being a stay at home wife. then you just have learn to have the nerve to indicate it back, in any form of strong langauge so they understand without mistake. likewise if anyone here tries to indicate to you, that they wouldn't allow any man to support them. they are just yakking tough pride, and are jealous, is all. pay no attention to them. YOU do what is right for YOU and your husband, and let the Jones' worry about themselves.
2006-09-15 18:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by JanRose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems the majority of men and working women like to dish out their unwanted criticism. But if and when they meet my kids they understand.
Theyre boys theyre super smart and super nice.
I could go on. Im proud of them and me for making that choice to stay home. I figure its just jealousy and I sure dont let it bother me.
2006-09-15 18:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am a stay at home mom of four ..........
staying home taking constant care of them is harder than going to work. BUT .. if you can manage it - it is the BEST thing for the kids to be brought up by their moms instead of a strangers, any one who doesn't understand - has not been a parent yet
2006-09-15 18:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I love to work and raise my 4 kids! I would NEVER sit home and let some man support me. I work while they are in school then spend time with them after they get home. I can't believe people look at being a stay at home mom as a job!! It doesn't even come close to work! Who would consider taking care of your loved ones work?
2006-09-15 18:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by Maimee 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
i have had other moms and wifes say they wish they had the luxury to stay at home, other than that i have not had anyone say anything, well anything to my face, its not a luxury for me to stay home, money is tight but when it comes to the price of daycare for twin girls its cheaper for me to stay home......
2006-09-16 10:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll get criticism just for being a woman, do what you want to do ! ignore the critics
2006-09-15 18:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I tell the critiquer that my family is worth more than a Lexus in the yard.
They're nervy enough to bring it, I'm nervy enough to dish it.
2006-09-15 18:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋