My husband says that he has never been hit on since we've been together. Is he lying?

Question

My husband is georgous! He is in the military. He rides a sports bike. I know when I was single. I was always yelling(in a good way)at the the guys on bikes. I find it hard to believe that in five years a georgous man has never been hit on. Is he full of crap? Why would he lie about that? Should I be worried?

Answer 1

If he's in the military I would think that he's probably in good shape. And yes many women do like men that ride motorcycles. That said, IMHO 70% chance that he's lying when he says he's never been hit on by a woman since marriage. Unless you have only been married a few days. 30% chance that he's clueless and doesn't realize when a woman is into him. That's good for you tho right, LOL. That way a supermodel can hit on him and he would have no idea that she was dropping hints. Many men are that way. Why would he lie? To put you at ease. Should you be worried...hmm? Good question. I'm not sure about that but I doubt that he is unless he's staying out late at night and taking phone calls in private, etc. If you don't see any indicators that he's cheating I would say no reason to worry.

Answer 2

I can tell by how you have worded this whole thing you don't believe your sister. I can tell you tend to "cover" for the husband. Now.....WHY did your sister of all times now come forward with this information? Why now? Did an argument come up in this home environment or something to make her now want to ruin your happy home life. Also you know your sister very well. You have lived your whole life knowing her but not your husband so having said this do you feel deep down she made all this up and if so has she had a history of of this? If not then you need to think that maybe what she is saying is true. I know you don't want to believe this. In believing this then you must break apart your happy home. Does the sister still live there with you guys? If so it must be very unconformable. My suggestion is this; You must decide who to believe. I think you have already and you believe your husband. If so, tell sis she needs to move out. Keep a watchful eye on hubby. Without him knowing but do watch his behavior. Let the dust settle and get on with your marriage. good luck

Answer 3

No he is not lying. If girls are yelling at him he is not stopping to talk to them. If they try to flirt he moves on. He as changed and that is very normal for a lot of men.

When you husband married you it meant he was not available for anyone else.

I am sure when someone showed interest the first thing he said is he is married and very happy, Saying that a couple times and the word goes out he is not available. Your husband put the word out by telling the women he is married. Now they most likely do not hit on him.

He is telling you the truth

Answer 4

It is possible that he's tellin the truth here, if my experience is anything similar. I know they say a wedding ring is like catnip, but for me it was the opposite. I'm a rather attractive guy and often got hit on. Dare I say I've even had women throw themselves at me. But as soon as I put on the ring - nothing, nada, zip. Maybe it was because I just didn't notice it anymore, or maybe it's because I was truly devoted to my wife and the other women noticed that and stayed back?? Not sure, but that was the truth in my case. Maybe he doesn't get hit on because it's so obvious he loves you?? :)

Answer 5

Well, sit back and think about this.

Do you REALLY want to hear "yes"?!?

You'll always be suspicious then...but, you know what, you're already suspicious so I feel there's something more to your feelings than what you're telling us.

My husband is in the military, gorgeous, and rode a bike, too. It's how they take being hit on, not being hit on themselves that is worth the worry.

Answer 6

Id say think about how you guys met.
was it as casual a scenario as what worries you might be happening?
did you guys get together to sample the goods before wed lock? is he with you when hes not at work/deployed?
Was he in the service before you married?
Does he have 'guys nights out' which are aside from his duties or not job related?

if you can say no to most or all these questions id say quit worrying. its in your head, if suspicion is a part of your nature, realize it. Talk about it. and get close when you do so, in fact, make it pillow talk to lower his guard.
If still you have an intuition that he must be being hit on read here.
Because being elusive about the truth from his vantage might be one of two things if at all he is being so in the first place.
One as stated by another commenter is just because he loves you and doesnt want to mess with your mind like that, doesnt want you to worry in those regards and he might actually be offended when and or if someone has hit on him etc.
or
Maybe hes being elusive because the problem is so much bigger, but maybe he doesnt want to ruin the mood for the time he has to spend with you. In any event I dont think he'd marry you if he didnt love you.

I just found this on google if your suspicions persist.

1. Are they more argumentative, distant, critical of you, increasingly interested in “alone” time, less affectionate?
2. Are they reluctant to attend social events with you, or not willing to bring you along?
3. Have you received more than 3 hang-up calls in a month?
4. Have you noticed unexplained phone numbers in their cell phone, or do they seem nervous when you ask to use their cell phone?
5. Are they taking better care of their appearance, or have made a change in style?
6. Is your loved one making more ATM withdrawls than normal or have more unexplained expenses than normal?
7. Has your sex life changed for the worse? Are they claiming fatigue, disinterest, or too much on their mind?
8. Has your loved one come home smelling like a strange cologne or perfume?
9. Have you noticed stains or lipstick on your loved one’s clothes?
10. Does your loved one spend more time away with no excuse?
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I can tell you from experience being deployed overseas can be like a never never land for the single guys and a married mans best kept secret. but this of course is an alternative to the hell they stand bye to be engaged in.
Typically you should expect honest answers from military personell. If hes 'gorgeous' then maybe there is an occaisonal 'pass' a woman will take at him without words to leave the door open for his aggression which may or may not be construable as 'hitting on'.
But I get the feeling your definition of 'hit on' is inclusive of overt solicitations for sexual encounters.

So, even when i was looking for it. Not so much was I ever 'hit on' (save for some ugly old lady dragging on my arm trying to pull me down a dark alley way to some red lighted apartment.)
Dont worry. Your husband probably has his hands full with work as it is and doesnt want to worry you any more than you do already, especially about whatever he isnt doing on the side or other such nonsense.

Answer 7

It seems, that what you know of, he has not given you reason to worry. What do you want him to say to you? Admit he has? Or lie to you that he hasn't? How would you feel with either answer? You already know that he is a good looking guy. It is bound to happen. You know this from your own experience. What you don't know, won't hurt you. It is what you do know that will. As long as he is devoted and respectful and keeps to himself when he is with you or in your presence. This is all that you should be greatful to know, and for. It doesn't seem that he has given you real reason to mistrust him. I would leave well enough alone. "Don't Worry, Be Happy"...~~mafi

Answer 8

That's not true because their has to be people trying to talk to him because what are the odds the whole tie you two have been married not one female has try to hit on him. I mean it's okay if they try to hit on him but when it becomes wrong is when he trys to flirt with them back. He is probably tring to not hurt your feelings or something and like you said he is completely gorgeous so why wouldn't any one try to hit on him so just let him know that it's alright but don't let him get to comftorble with the situatin. Because then he gets to much pride

Answer 9

He's probably just trying to put you at ease. All good looking guys get hit on but its the way they either take it in stride or actually get excited that gives away whether they will potentially cheat.

Answer 10

Yes, he's lying, he just might not know it. You shouldn't be worried...he obviously isn't paying attention to anyone other than you. Which is the way you want it, right? For everyone to know you have a hottie, but for you to have him all to yourself! Lucky girl!! :)