How can I find out how my friend feels about me without making the situation too awkward. Mind you that I am very, and I mean very, shy when it comes to women. We are very good friends and have been for years now. I love hanging out with her and just talking to her. It makes my day just hearing her voice. Please I need some advice.
I know I posted this earlier but I want a women's perspective on this.
2006-09-15 18:03:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know how to get rid of the shyness, but I have an experience similar to yours I would like to share. I had the biggest crush on this boy starting when I was 12 years old. Everytime I layed eyes on him my heart just melted. I was so shy. I never said anything to him for years. It hurt me so bad inside seeing him with other girls. I wanted to let him know how I felt so bad. Well, I never opened up to him. He's moved on and is getting married. Now I'm left wondering how things could have been...
I guess what I'm trying to say is you may be shy and scared, but you need to let her know how you feel so you don't miss your chance.
2006-09-15 18:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its funny, this is how my current boyfriend is. He is painfully shy when it comes to the opposite sex. Just start talking about how fun it would be to just go on a "fake date" and pretend you are together or something. Imply that there is no pressure or anything, but it never hurts to ask. Just make sure if you do end up with the fake date, dont turn on the pimpage too much, or you could scare her off.
2006-09-15 18:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by bandcamp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a woman, but here's my take. I've been where you are, 3 times actually. the first time I thought I'd be sly and asked her best friend if she was seeing anybody. friend said no, so I got to work an hour early before anyone else, she was there, I asked her out to dinner and she was surprised and politely declined. I was embarassed. I hid from her for a week, she finally tracked me down and said that she was seeing someone but she wasn't sure if anything would happen but didn't want to "cheat" just in case. We're very good friends, I'm married, she's still looking for mr. right. I was friends with a girl in Colorado, I"m in CA. we talked every few days, and for hours andhours. we got along well, last time I was in colorado on business we went out to dinner, she wasn't interested in a relationship, I was comfy enough to ask her some questions, so I kinda knew. she came to CA for a business trip, we had dinner, just friends having dinner. I drove her to the airport on her last day here, I was going to ask her if she believed in love. I knew she'd say yes. then I would've asked, do you believe a long distance relationship would work? and see what shook loose. well, I didn't. we remained phone friends, haven't seen her in 5 years. I regret being afraid to be blunt and to the point. Last girl, her & I hung out all the time, went places, she flirted with me, always dressed up nice when I came over to help her do something or just visit or eat. 3 years of this. then I learn her son's father (her son was 4 at the time) made contact with her and she turned into someone I never thought I'd see. she turned obsessive towards this guy to a point of stalking him. Yes, I even helped, and it scared me, but if I felt, maybe she'd see all the bad stuff he's been doing and the womanizing. she caused havoc in his life, all so he would be with her. Our friendship stopped for a month. We are now best friends, she was to important for me to not have in my life. so I compromised.
but we did talk about "us", she said she wasn't ready for any relationship, she was waiting for her sons father.
OK, just had to vent that, but dude.. you won't know unless you ask. your woman might be waiting for YOU to make the move.
Start it like this.. we've been friends for what seems like forever.. have you ever thought about "US"?
2006-09-15 18:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Eric F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds just like me!!! Well I know what this is like cuz im also VERY shy. But if she really is a good friend to u shen will inderstand how u feel about her whether she feels the same way about u or not. She will appreciate the fact that u love her. Trust me:)
2006-09-15 18:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by deanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went out with this guy when i was 14..we fell in love but he moved away..we kept in contact over the years..and we both still loved each other but never said anything to each other..we dated other people..but now after 5 yrs..we are still in love with each other..and i'm moving to where he lives and i'm going to go to college there. Say something NOW or have to wait and wait and probly lose her...u dont want that do you???? Be strong!! She might just be as shy as you...
Good Luck!!!!!
2006-09-15 18:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by YEP THAT'S ME.. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never know until you try... you never want to live your life questioning... "What If?" That's the worst feeling ever. What if she likes you, but she's also too shy to say it? If you don't say anything, you'll never know. What if you tell her how you feel and she feels the same way? What if she doesn't? You will never know until you try. Follow your heart, and the shyness will go away.
2006-09-15 18:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Chocolate_Flayva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation, and I'm tired of hiding my feelings so as soon as i see her I'm telling her no matter what so i think u should do the same
2006-09-15 18:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by hassan b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
act like you are joking around... be all oh hey baby how are doing
and just act like you are joking grab her and tell her i love you and
if she looks at you weird be like what baby don't you love?
still weird looks give a quick hit to the arm and start laughing and
be like oh i got you so good!
2006-09-15 18:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by inureyewithsalt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you truly love her like you say you do you would over come your shyness and tell her how you feel
2006-09-15 18:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by kaylee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋