Is Something Wrong With Me...?

Question

To begin with, I am only 15 (will be 16 very soon though).

Some people where I live think there is something wrong with me. Because I have three female friends who happen to be lesbians, and I am not attracted to them or anything.

I just feel safer around them than I do around heterosexual girls. Because I know they will never try to pressure me into going out with one of them.

Also, I am kind of too shy around guys to talk with them too. Probably because most of the guys around here are hot. Another reason way people think something is wrong with me, because I am attracted to guys...

Answer 1

there is nothing wrong with you,it will be ok

Answer 2

You need counselling. Not because you're attracted to guys, but because you're having trouble dealing with it. As long as you're hanging out with three lesbians and showing no interest in other women, people are going to think something is wrong with you. They're idiots.

The biggest idiots are the ones who think you can change how you feel. All you can do is make yourself miserable by bottling it up, and possibly making other people miserable (wife, kids down the line) by pretending to be someone else's idea of normal.

I don't know how this fantasy that people are attracted to the same sex by choice started (maybe it makes them feel better about their prejudice). I don't choose to be attracted to women, I see a pretty woman and there's just that reaction. Why would it be different for gays and lesbians?

Answer 3

Look, you're only 15 - relax, you're perfectly normal. Accept all your feelings as being the feelings of an ordinary human being. There's no right or wrong way to feel. Don't act on any of your feelings though until you let a bit more time pass for things to become more clear. Be friends with people you like and don't get hung up on what their sexual leanings are - it doesn't matter. A lot of people go through a phase of being attracted to the same sex - for some it's a phase, others go on to choose a gay lifestyle. It doesn't matter at the moment, at your age all feelings are more intense & that's okay. No matter what you're like, there's always someone who will think you're weird - that's none of your business. Get on with your life a day at a time and deal with things as best you can at the time they arise - you'll get better with experience. Don't label yourself and don't accept other people's labels of you. Good luck!

Answer 4

I don't understand which part is the wrong part. Build up some confidence and to talk to the cute boys. And make friends with straight girls too, Just tell them that you are gay at some point in the friendship-making process. If they have a problem with it they will back off, if not they will give you tips on picking up guys.

Have fun and be safe.



Okay, I have to tell this story on account of all the people who are telling you to get counseling for being gay. This is conpletely true.
This guy was on some talk show, I forget which. He came on completely voluntarily as a representative of one of those seminaries where they "cure" gay people. He talked about how amazing they were, they helped him see the way of god and give up the path of satan. Okay, guess what he does now.......He's a preist.

Anybody who doesn't get this is brainwashed.

Answer 5

If you're not ready to come out of the closet then don't. Who cares what people think about you. Be who you want to be. The people who belong in your life will be there. Stop worrying about the ones who don't matter. So what if you're attracted to guys. I'm attracted to girls, but I'm not lesbian. Some are just really hot! There is nothing wrong with you. Let it go!

Answer 6

Firstly absolutely NOTHING is wrong with you and at your age I wouldn't worry about it. This is part of growing up and who we are. No matter what your sexual orientation is be proud and confident of what you are. If you hang out with women (even if they are lesbians) this shouldn't be a concern of yours, one day you may find a woman that you are attracted to. If you feel that your attraction is to guys is ruling your heart then it is likely that your orientation is homosexual, but at your young age, I wouldn't consider that yet as you are still in the puberty years and you will experience these feelings. Your hormones are having a field day trying to ready your body for its adult life and at 15 going on 16 you are not ready yet to decide what sexual orintation you are.

So what if you are homosexual? What if you are bisexual? What if when your hormones (testosterone) settles down and you are a full heterosexual young male? If you have a great personality and brimming in confidence then what the hell? Makes no difference what sexual preferences you have, if you have a great personality and you are confident.

One last thing your sexual orientation will be decided for you by your hormones when they have settled down.

I was a full heterosexual male until 2002 when due to suspected testicular cancer I had both testicles removed, this let the remaining Oestrogen(since both male and females produce this and testosterone (in males this is the prevelent hormone females have oestrogen as their prevelant hormone)) take over slighty and as I found out in a small number of cases after this operation it is possible to be hit again on the hormonal path. I have since discovered that I am now bisexual due to some changes that has occurred SINCE this operation. (I was told now that it is too late that I should have received testosterone suppliments but I didn't) But What of it. When I get over the shock of finding out that I am now bisexual (27/11/05 was the day I found out having had a female relationship) I will accept this and am already doing so as one of my email addresses (used by someone else as it is linked to my Comp'y website) is proud_2_b_bisexual. And yes I am, my friends have accepted that I have had some changes but thankfully not to my personality and my friends remained friends after I told them about me. Grow in your confidence, and when you know what you are be proud of it.

I hope that you find your true sexuality and that you will be proud of it. I also hope that you have found something useful out of this answer.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

You like being around girls. That means a lot. A lot of heterosexual men prefer the company of women. It's called smart.

Answer 8

first of all i think until you hit the age of 21 everything in life is like
an experiment, and how will you know what you like and dislike,
if you have never tried it,so you should not be so worried about
what everybody else thinks or says,only because they do not
claim responsiablity for what happens,after everything is said done,so i feel you have nothingh to worry about and the feelings
for the sex ,thats normal also,you will grow out of it,if it where ment to be

Answer 9

hi jonathan. first of all there is NOTHING wrong with you,you cannot help who you love or who you are attracted to. its a hard world in wich we live but certain lifestyles are becoming more acceptable nowadays. be strong and true to yourself. im sure there arelocal support groups in your area that are full of people thinking that they are the only ones who feel this way.you are not alone and are perfectly normal..keep smilin ok. good luck hun : }

Answer 10

That's who you are. Don't be ashamed of it. There are lots of people who are attracted to the same sex, that doesn't make them strange, right? If you are comfortable with yourself then don't worry about what others think. It's not their place to judge you and the lord will see them doing wrong.

Answer 11

You might be gay or bisexual. You might want to consider talking to a counselor or someone at a gay or lesbian hotline. Listen, a lot of idiots might be rude or mean, but if you are gay or bi, there is nothing wrong with that. You just need to learn a little more about yourself and be a little more honest with yourself.