He's had no relationship w/ bio-mom... Dad raised him from age 2 on. I'm trying, but even after a few years living together, I still at times feel like and outsider, having to keep my feelings to myself and worried about "rocking the boat...." Any helpful hints??
2006-09-15 17:10:03 · 9 answers · asked by valisme 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Run! No, just kidding. I have a teenage boy and his step-father of 4 years still feels the way you do. I would say that time would do the trick, but teenage years are full of confusion, angst and new emotions. Keep being supportive and show that you are his "friend" and not trying to come in and rule as his mother.
2006-09-15 17:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, being a step-mom has never been easy, let alone even if you are the real biological mom !!!
People have always view step-mom as evil and cruel kind of person, like the Cinderella story... hence I can really understand how difficult being a step-mom.
There is no special ingredient or guarantee that it will work but what I can suggest is to treat him like your own and love and care for him ungivingly.... and if you really give in your true heart to him, I do believe you will be rewarded and he will treat you like the same.
Good luck :-)
2006-09-16 00:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! u will be suprised that i am a teen actually answering ur question. i am on my moms name. my dad n mom were never married n my dad n ex-step mom jus got divorced after 14 years. my dad recently has started dating a new girl n i absolutely love her! she is great! just make sure that u gain his trust! once he learns to trust u then u guys can talk about nething. this is what this new girl has done for me. it feels great to tell her things i would never even think about tellin my dad. these are things that have been bottled up for a while n it feels good to talk. try to become his friend first n then become more parent type later. u still need to let him know ur limits but jus try to be friendly. as long as u are absolutely honest to him...he should be to u.. good luck on that! i wish u the best! i hope this helps you out a lil bit!
2006-09-16 00:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much support you're getting from the boy's father, your husband.
You both love the same man and he's obviously had him longer than you which he probably believes should give him leverage.
Be kind, be yourself and don't force yourself on him. If he has any intentions of coming around he'll do it on his own terms and timetable and not yours.
2006-09-16 00:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by c m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One good thing to know (as a teenager myself ^.^) you should first give them a little space just kind of observe his habits. find out wait he likes and try to relate to him do a little research on what he likes. Dont get weird on him try and treat him as one of ur own. Thats pretty much all you need to know.
2006-09-16 00:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by foxy_lil_yaoi_boy88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to befriend him patiently, keep the door to communicate open, win his trust-that takes time, and it will not be easy-don't win him with money, presents, but do little things together-that way he knows you are interested in him, ask him his view on things, get involved with his routine at school, extra curriculars...good luck!
2006-09-16 00:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by ria k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck and NEVER down his mother even if everyone around is.Sorry no other advice.
2006-09-16 00:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by impala1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i would say is dont smother him...let him know you care, and that youre there without trying to make him reciprocate
2006-09-16 00:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by celticivory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space and respect, but let him know that you are there for him
2006-09-16 00:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by jperk1941 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋