This girl who we will call Jill and I used to be best friends when we were younger but we grew apart and had a fight over a guy. it was really bad. it happened in like 6th grade. We are in 10th grade now and she stares and kinda glares at me during english when i talk to her friend or if she sees me. she raises her eyebrow too. when we talk im polite but she makes me uncomfortable with her coldness. what should i do? ( no violence) thanks in advance
2006-09-15 16:06:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
neither or us got the guy but we lost a friendship over him
2006-09-15 16:14:04 · update #1
When you see her say "hello sunshine." If she makes an ugly face at you, say "wow, you look great when you make that face." I gave this advice to my daughter when she had a girl giving her dirty looks, the girl didn't respond, but the girls friend laughed, after that, the girl quit giving my daughter dirty looks, and actually started smiling.
2006-09-15 16:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay since you were in sixth grade when it happened, there should be no hard feelings. You were (and still are) young and immature (not meaning that in a bad way, you're just not an adult yet)... Fighting over a guy in sixth grade should mean nothing because it's not like either of you planned on marrying him right then and there. She should defiantly not be mad after four years, that's just down right pathetic.
2006-09-15 16:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with her. Say something like, "Is there a grudge between us that we can work out? That fight was long ago, we're more mature now, can we talk about it?" If she has negative things to say about it, then forget her. She's obviously holding a lame grudge from freaking sixth grade that she is too immature to get over. You're on the right side if you're trying to work things out, so dont blame things on yourself. Move on, and try to ignore her. But if you guys do end up making up, then good for you, and take things slow. Good luck!
2006-09-15 16:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask around if there's a woman who may well be attracted to him, or does no longer techniques being set up on a date with him. I dumped a woman back in intense college, she replaced into super yet on the time I merely had to be buddies and later I regretted it and needed her back yet she does no longer decide for it a 2d time... So he may well be having regrets, however the suitable concern to assist recover from somebody is to fulfill somebody else. this way you do no longer could be a jerk, and if it works it rather is going to restoration your friendship by using removing that awkwardness from all the staring and so on... plus he would be grateful which you cared adequate approximately him to choose to work out him happy with somebody
2016-12-12 09:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intimidation is the oldest form of bullying. The best defence against bullying especially non verbal, non physical, is to take extra measures to ignore her. Attempt to make her invisible to yourself since she gets her mileage from your reactions, regardless how subtle you may be. That takes her power away. second method involves escalation, which is to ask her what she hopes to achieve by behaving in this manner, then you have to deal with whatever happens.
2006-09-15 16:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jill: is starting to feel real bad that she had done the wrong thing, & now she not sure how to tell you that she is sorry, but when she keeps her eye on you, shes hopping that you'll say hello, or sorry... good luck..
2006-09-15 16:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by mike_m50501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act as if she is not there. She is not worth your time and all she want you to do is just do one thing to her she is bad news so just stay clear of her is you can. The guy most have liked you best!!!!
2006-09-15 16:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what her problem is in a nice way and talk peacefully but if she gets an attitude and starts throwing punches at u get rdy to dodge and open a can of whoopa.....srry u said no violence ; )
2006-09-15 16:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by The Ego 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1st off your friends come before any guy 2nd try talking to her to see what the problem is. If she still got beef kill her w/ kindness that make her stop
2006-09-15 16:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by pg#3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. ask her wats up. either shell get the point or shell talk to u forever about how she hates u or how she wants to be friends again
2006-09-15 17:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by jordanthegrouch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋