What do i do? I really love this guy, i have loved him for 6 years.He was married but now hes divorced and after they split up me and him started to get close again and he said that he loves me, but now he is going to jail because of his ex-wife over domestic violence which never even happened! Cause she lied about everything! So what do i do? He ran from the cops , i have no idea where he's at, and i am very worried about him, cuz if he goes to jail then i will never see him again? And i just cant take that. Help?
2006-09-15 15:44:10 · 10 answers · asked by juggalette606060 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This man has too much going on. I'd stay away from him. And in my opinion, someone who runs from the cops is guilty of SOMETHING.
2006-09-15 15:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is currently in jail doing 90 days for a probation violation, so I know what you're going through in terms of that aspect, but what I don't understand is why he ran. If he's actually innocent like he claims, then he wouldn't have ran from the cops, he would have swallowed his pride, went to jail, and requested a new hearing. Now he might be screwed and he will definitely be doing more time then he originally was going to do. You might want to look into his case a little more because something tells me he's not as innocent as he claims. Would you actually want to be with someone who abuses his wife? This man's a fugitive! If you ever find out where he is, I'd turn him in otherwise you'll be going to jail to. Coming from personal experience, jail sucks and no man is worth going to jail for. If I were you, I'd keep my options open, in terms of "other fish in the sea" and let whatever happens with your "love" happen, to be honest with you... you'll be waiting a LONG time for your relationship with the fugitive to continue.
2006-09-16 00:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery_Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he goes to jail you will see him again. It is not a life sentence.
The big question is are you certain that the domestic violence accusations were a lie? There has to have been some proof for the charges to stick.
Running from the cops shows poor judgment. He is going to now face more charges when they catch up with him and a longer sentence. If you help him you could go to jail too.
You may be headed to a lot of misery............make sure you think he is worth all the trouble. No man who has done what he has done so far is worth it in my opinion.
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-15 22:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say love is blind and I would say it's very true in this case! Sometimes the heart overrules the mind. You know this guy is no good for you. He isn't doing the right thing by fleeing the police and he obviously isn't thinking about how you feel. If he was, he would do everything he could to make your relationship possible. It sounds like your holding on to a flame that needs to be put out. Get together with some good friends and let them help you put this jerk behind you! That's not advice, that's a suggestion!
2006-09-15 22:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by pisces7497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you KNOW that he is innocent? Is it the behavior of someone innocent to run from the police. No. Every loser I've ever known that has been an abuser, has had some excuse about how it happened.....she's a liar, she hit me first and I was protecting myself, and it's bull ****. This dude isn't going to jail for domestic violence unless there was some proof that he did it, and had done it before. It sounds like he's lying to you. Court documents are public record, you better get your butt down to the court and find out how to get your hands on those documents. Find out what kind of closet freak he is, before you waste your time worrying about him.
2006-09-15 22:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it your heart telling you that he never did it? You need to find out. Think about it, why is he running from the cops? I know you're worried about him, you can't change that feeling. All you can do it let him handle his problems, and when he comes around you figure out if this is the guy for you. There is not much you can do at this point, he wants to be left alone.
2006-09-15 22:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first check if there is evidence of violence from ex and police, also their neighbours can tell you too. If innocent, why did he run.?.you could be in for more than you bargained for if you hook up with a guy that turns ugly after you are with him and the Jekyl and Hyde come out when provoked.
2006-09-15 22:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by colinhughes333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really really sucks! I would say just wait a while. The guy loves you and he'll call you once he gets someplace that's safe enough. Don't worry. Love will come through for you guys!
2006-09-15 22:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it never happened why did he run from the police? did he tell you it never happened? cause you know that men aren't capable of telling a ie about commiting a crime. HA HA HA!!! give up on him and look for him when he gets out of jail.
2006-09-15 22:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please find another man, you can do so much better :)
2006-09-15 22:47:29 · answer #10 · answered by amandajoy62185 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋