I have been married since i was 18 (9years). I realized that I have no friends. Well I do have friends but I dont hang out with them much. My wife told me that I should start hanging out with my friends. After a near death experience I realized that I need to enjoy life to its fullest. I then started to hang out with my friends. I have gone out to the ball game, to a wedding and other stuff. I have been having lots of fun. Now my wife is upset because I am hanging out with my friends. She has been cranky for two weeks and says that I should pay more attention to her and the kids. I do not go out much (one a week) and i feel she is giving me to hard of a time for doing this. She doesnt talk to me much and make me want to hang out more with my friends. Is this my fault or is this her fault. Should I kick her to the curb?
2006-09-15 15:38:27 · 8 answers · asked by Lover Boy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you had a near death experience then you should be throwing yourself into your relationship with your wife and kids. Sounds like you chose your friends over you wife and kids. If you would rather be hanging out with your friends then you are very imature. Not only does she resent you but your kids will too especially if you kick their beloved mother "to the curb". If you put the energy into the relationship then you will be living life to the fullest.
2006-09-15 15:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by elong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not bad for going out, but you should not kick your wife out to the curb! :) I have been married for 15 years and my husband goes out 2x a week and gets home around 7pm when he is going to be home and not go out. Things are good but that is because he is taking care of me!! So, this is where you need to look . When you are home, are you taking care of your wife, allowing her to talk, or to just cuddle? Does she get time away with her friends? If not, then encourage her to get out. My husband goes out more than me, but I do get out. The other thing is are you helping around the house or just with the kids. Sometimes when a woman is complaining its because she is not feeling taken care of...So, give her what she needs, once that is done, she won't mind if you go out because she has been taken care of. Good Luck and don't be hard on her, sometimes it takes a bit to get used to change.
2006-09-15 22:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You be nice to your wife. What she meant of hanging out with your friend is that enjoy it but do not forget her and the kids.
You are lucky to have her just do not abuse her kindness. So now she felt that you are ignoring her. Go out once a month and be responsible to your family or maybe you can invite her to go with you. Find a baby sitter and include her with your friends. If you feel that you needed your friends more than your family then you make your choice.
2006-09-15 23:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not bad. everybody has to have activities and friends that may not be directly related to the marriage. sounds like she didn't think you would go and especially have a good time. tell her you want to talk, if you do. no curb kicking thoughj, communication is needed.
2006-09-15 22:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by justrying2makit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont kick her to the curb..yes she did ask for you to be closer to your friends...maybe you just need to find a way to include her in some of the activities that you do with your friends, so she feels more invovled in your life...you guys married young and have kids invovled now as well..you 2 need to try to compromise some how...
2006-09-15 22:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick her to curb? you need to get your mind right talking like that about your wife. why don't you try going out with her sometimes, are bring her with you and your friends.
2006-09-15 22:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres my translation:
I love you so much, I think about your needs first. After all the unselfish thoughts about you, can you ask me out on a date?
What does it take for you to realize, You need to ask me out!! Ask me out on a date like you used to do when you first met me.
Then she's probably thinking.....Idiot!
Don't get so hung up on yourselfish ways.
Marriage is about your better half. Not you!
She thought about you first. Can't you just give her a little credit?
2006-09-16 00:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick her to the curb for her wanting to spend time with you. I think she should kick you to the curb. Are you stupid or something.
2006-09-15 22:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by alter_egob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋