I have been with Brad since I was 14 and he was 17, I am 19 now. The past week we have been fighting a lot.
Wednesday night I broke down and yelled/cried for him to get out and leave me alone. He left and I have not seen him since, I miss him, but at the same time I am extremely angry at him (reason we were fighting). I want to forgive him and be with him again, but I am not sure how... I am really hurt because of him too...
I have never loved anyone as much as I love Brad, but no one has ever made me feel as hurt as he has either...
Maybe I should first figure out what is wrong with me, because that obviously would not of happened unless something was wrong with me...
2006-09-15 15:25:36 · 16 answers · asked by aidan_1987_odonoghue 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can try to talk about your problems without becoming upset, in a healthy way. Probably with the help of a third person. Maybe a counciler could help you with this too, I'm sure there are a lot of couples councilars.
Unfortunatly for most couples like you, it's hard to communicate your problems when you're not actually angry and you don't want ot deal with them, so they become bigger later on.
I wish you luck with this though, it is your choice ifyou just want to move on your seek help.
2006-09-15 15:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Adam G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've been with him all through the years you were supposed to be developing your own identity because of this you haven't developed and your afraid to be without him .
Deep down you know something is wrong , look around you and try and find a 17 year old that would not completely dominate and suppress a 14 year old , once the pattern is established it's maintained because you think it is normal .
What's making you angry is your true self , the person you should have been trying to break free of the hold he has on you .
You don't know what love is , you met Brad when you were to young to understand it , what you feel towards Brad is complete and utter dependence because you have been an extension of his life for so long .
You probably abandoned all your friends when he came along , and I very much doubt you have many now , this is because it is inconvenient for him , not because you wanted it that way or because you couldn't find friends .
Your an addict , Brad is your fix , take another fix an the problem goes away for a little while , refuse another fix and the problem will drive you insane for a while then ease until you are completely cured .
You already know all this your just to afraid to admit it to yourself .
Your young enough to break free DO IT !
2006-09-15 22:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Love can be the most wonderful things that gives us butterflies in our stomach but love can also be terrible and make us feel so bad.
You could try writing a letter to him, explaining how you feel. If you want to forgive him then you have to make sure you want to forgive him what he has/hasn't done then move on, there is no point forgiving him then using what he did against him when you next row.
5 years is a long time to be with someone, you were young when you got together though, it may be that as you've got older you have both changed at it may be time to move on. I think you do need to talk, try going to a cafe, so you are in public this way you can't shout at each other too much.
What will be will be, and I hope it is truly the best for you both. Good luck
2006-09-16 04:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by pinkbabi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything is wrong and do not think any thing is wrong with you. It sounds like he did something very bad to you and I guess I would let him cool off and call you with a apology and then figure out how something like this will never happen in your relationship again. I do not think you overeacted, don't let him think you are a bad person for acting the way you did, you had all right if it was that bad!!!
2006-09-15 22:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by SUZANNA J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you were fighting, of course. Probably he is hurting as much as you are. However, from long experience, problems don't go away. They just get pushed aside in the relief that he's come back to you. Sohe'll probably come back but please do yourself a favour, sort out the problems before you take him back.
2006-09-16 08:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No problem.
Search "Escorts" for your town on Yahoo and spend a few bob on a good looking lady and find what you bin missing.
You wont want your Queer buddy back when you have had the real thing.
2006-09-17 22:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by "Call me Dave" 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if you can try to meet up and suggest you discuss your grievance like adults rather than arguing?... if either of you can't do that, maybe you need to give it up as a bad job, or else give each other space for a few weeks and see if you can be friends at least.
2006-09-16 16:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by swot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love hurts sugar. but you're never going to be able to be successful in love until you are respectful of yourself. you wouldn't have sent him away without good reason. do not start thinking that something is wrong with you. be confident. if it is meant to continue, it WILL.
2006-09-15 22:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry dear, but this you are just gonna have to work out between you and your honey.
Wish I could help you though.
2006-09-16 00:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its the same thing That we love can hurt us real bad...In time you will heal.
2006-09-15 22:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by Nossty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋