I loved my girlfrind with all my heart and I always give her what she wants,but when she died I was totally blown. I can't sleep at night and have hard time to do certain things. I dated few girls to get rid off the stresses and I still feel the same I don't know why.
2006-09-15 15:21:21 · 9 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Computers & Internet ➔ Computer Networking
It is happening because you suffered a tremendous loss. You have a heavy heart and lots on your mind, and you feel lonely and isolated because you lost someone you felt was truly a part of you.
You owe it to yourself to try therapy...it is nothing to fear. Mix in a little prayer as well, and accept the hands of others when they reach out to help you. The reason why God put others on the planet is to help us in times of our greatest need. Whatever you do, be leery of anti-depressant medications. These are band-aid solutions that do not treat the core of the problem...only the symptoms.
God has a plan, and it is hard for us to understand sometimes. I know this is a tough concept; I am struggling with this myself right now after answering questions from 3rd graders about why someone would want to fly airplanes into the World Trade Center and Pentagon on purpose...a day after finding out that my 6-year-old niece has terminal brain cancer. No one knows why these things happen to good and innocent people, but I truly believe that God allows these terrible tragedies to happen for reasons beyond the realms of our understanding.
What I know for sure is that therapy saved my marriage, granted me the courage to change careers, gave me the confidence to face life's challenges head-on, afforded me the opportunity to become a loving father, and made me a better person through and through. I feel I am blessed to have been through therapy, and I hope you give consideration to the idea so that you can reap similar benefits when you need them most.
In times like these it helps me to remember the words my grandmother always used to tell me: This, too, shall pass. I will say a prayer for you tonight. God bless.
2006-09-15 15:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sea Bass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called Post Traumatic Stress. I had a college teacher that had an accident with his car by himself on a country road and he flipped his car upside down due to his foot slipping of the brake pad and spinning the the car out of control. When everything was over and no major injuries were accounted for he went on with his life as usual. Then he suddenly noticed that he started to have this unbearable pain in the foot that would not go away. He went to every doctor he could think of. When I talked with him more about it, I told him it was Post Traumatic Stress he was experiencing. It will fade with time but you may have permanent damage as a result of it like some nervous ticks like getting freaked out over some really stupid and minute stuff. It is the way the mind copes with extreme stress and nobody knows the beginning or the end of all of this. It will fade with time though.
2006-09-15 15:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts now. I know you are asking yourself why me. But just remember you are alive. There are ways you can go on with your life. But the pain you are feeling is sadness and anger. You must keep her memory in your heart and face the day with pride, respect, and a new determination. You have lost someone you loved so much. All you can really do is mourn for her and then get up and move on. there are other people out there go visit with friends and family. After you are done mourning then you can go out and date again. Just remember your friends and family are there for you.
2006-09-15 15:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by wiz_on_line 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time.
It is an annoying saying but only Time heals Wounds - perhaps the help of a grief counselor or a really good friend will get you through.
Emotions need/demand release - otherwise they can fester and infect one's heart.
I am sorry for your loss and hope that you find the answer you seek.
Namaste
2006-09-15 15:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by enkiduthemyth 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to still be thinking of her, but to ease some of the stress you are feeling from her loss, you need to stay active and try to get your mind on other things so you don't get so depressed.
2006-09-15 15:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are in love and it takes time to get over a tragedy such as this. If you believe in god things will eventually get better. you will learn how to cope with this. this will always be with you and from time to time you will have some moments when she will be on your mind but keep the faith and things will get better.
it sometimes help to talk about things.
2006-09-15 15:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Znai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, i recognize precisely what you're dealing with. i'm so sorry on your modern loss. I lost my father really a lot 2 years in the past. in reality it will be 2 years in August. It develop into also a really annoying twist of destiny, except my Dad's develop right into a bike twist of destiny. same difficulty, he develop into in a coma for eleven days, hooked as a lot as machines, and under no circumstances once spoke back to something in the time of his time contained in the medical institution. They warned us from the starting up that it did not look sturdy and that the pinnacle trauma develop into too wide, and they did not imagine he'd pop out of it. additionally they tried to emphasize us into making a range! words won't be able to clarify how terrible it develop into. this is in basic terms been 2 months for you and your household. there's a lot extra healing that needs to ensue, and in spite of the actual undeniable reality that it may get extra accessible as time is going by employing, you is completely not in a position to fullyyt bypass on. I nonetheless won't be able to get over the visions of my dad contained in the ICU, and preserving his hand, and begging him to go back again to us. it receives better I promise, and that i recognize it really is so demanding to save in concepts the sturdy issues even as each and every of the magnificent concepts are clouded over with the undesirable. in basic terms attempt to push by those visions and examine out to save the sturdy concepts with you in a lot of circumstances. there's a mild on the top of the tunnel. i'm putting out to be sure it faintly yet i'm not there yet both. sturdy success...
2016-11-27 01:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well mike , this is going to take time to get over this tragedy , at this time in your life you have to be strong , and have all your family & friends at your side , in the sad times you are facing in life at this time but , you can do this mike be strong ,no one can tell what pain your having right now , life is hard for us all ,life is verry hard at time's but we all have to carry on
take good care always mike
2006-09-15 15:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a psychiatrist. Sometimes we all need some professional help.
2006-09-15 15:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by tjinjapan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋