Where is my sex drive???

Question

Help! I've had very little sex drive since I had my son almost two years ago. I'm on Zoloft, which I know can have an effect, but I'm too scared to go off of it. (I'm on a pretty low dose anyway... only 50 mg.) Is there anything I can do to get it back? Supplements? Really good erotica? My husband is getting very frustrated and it is putting a real strain on our marriage.

Answer 1

Sounds like you are under too much pressure. A woman needs to be free of stress, and be into the moment. Can't force it. Maybe he needs to "set the stage," and add a little romance to it. Maybe spend the day together and bond a little without the pressure of you trying to perform. Without the pressure, you'll come around.

Hope this helps

Answer 2

I recently saw my gynocologist for this problem. While medication can cause a decrease in sex drive, this problem can also be caused by hormonal changes. He prescribed hormones for me to take, but I decided rather than to add more medications to combat the possible side effects of those I was already taking, I would try to go off the anti-depressants. I was very afraid because I have been on medication for almost 9 years. As I tapered off the medication my sex drive came back immediately and stronger than I ever remember it being. It has been rough at times (being without my meds) but in the long run I think it's best for me. Discuss your problem openly with your doctor, and don't lose hope, there are several options that may help.

Answer 3

Mel once you have given birth its quite normal for your sex drive to decrease its just a hormonal imbalance coupled with the stress and strain of bringing up an ever dependent and demanding little boy . If at all possible see your GP and ask for a full work up on your physical condition and ask after if you should take a course of multivitamins just to put that spark in your fire again . You could also just add a little adult time some fondling and cuddling to get the mood in full swing, if you want to read a little erotica ...you could try www.literotica.com its Good adult material with out the pedophile crap and such
oh and it is 100% free you don't need to join anything at all .

Answer 4

I am glad that you asked this! I have a 2 year old also and every since he was born I literaly NEVER want to have sex! I can go the whole month without even realizing that I went the whole month with out sex! I'll be checking back on this question to see what other people have to say.... I was thinking that it could be that our hormones are different after having kids and it effects our sex drive... but I'm really not sure. Just know that you are not alone.

Answer 5

After I had my first child I lost my sex drive also. It takes a lot for a woman to bounce back when she has so many other things going on, especially a new baby. Well I got some good advice from an older woman who had 4 kids when she was married. She told me to have sex even when I didn't want it or didn't desire it so my body could get back into the swing of things. So I started having sex even when I didn't feel like it, want to, or desire it. And eventually my sex drive came back in full force. The theory behind this practice is the human body conforms to your behavior, so if you eat sweets all the time you will want them more. Same with sex, if you have it all the time your desire for it will come back, you will want it more. It may take a while, but it works. So next time your husband wants sex and you don't, DO IT ANYWAY!!! Good luck!

Answer 6

I have have 4 kids ...KNOW what you mean. You have to find time just for the TWO of you. With no kids no talk of kids. Then start doing all the things you did when you feel in love. I mean sex things ! ! ! ! But it will come back, You will see a big change when the kids start full days of school. Because I am sure you are trying to take on the world and do every thing. THE WORLD WILL BE FINE WITH OUT YOU DOING IT ALL. So relax ! ! Now start doing all the things ....That made you and your husband feel Soooooooooooo GOOD. You have got ...NOW use it ! ! !

Answer 7

Consult your physician about this, because he is the best person to talk to. Not only will he be far more knowledgeable about the effects of Zoloft (especially the effects of the dosage you are taking), but he knows your medical history, etc. Anytime you have questions involving medication, medical conditions, etc, you should consult your doctor and not some forum like this. True you might come across a legitimate expert on the subject here, but how would you know that the person is or isn't a legit expert?

Answer 8

First, talk to the doctor that prescribed the Zoloft to see if you can switch meds to one that has a smaller effect on sex drive. Then talk to your OB/GYN about a possible hormonal imbalance. Third and most importantly, try to get your husband to go to some sort of counseling with you so you BOTH can learn about your condition and how to handle it.

Answer 9

I think it is the medication it is for me puts a real dent in the sex feelings and the drive is in reverse. I hate it but I can't stop taking my meds. I asked my Doctor once and she didn't think any thing could help like the Viagra for men nothing for woman.I'm still waiting and asking her again what else I can do. Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

A little of your problem is because of your meds, but not all of it. The two of you just need some time alone together someplace that's romantic. Pretend you are on a first date or something. I'll bet you'll find that sex drive that's been hiding!