2006-09-15 14:56:25 · 17 answers · asked by Curious One 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I never have but I did know a girl in college that did. She got preg. and had to drop out of school when the baby was born. She then got depressed that he was unwilling to leave his wife and killed herself and almost killed the baby. I don't know how that baby is doing now, but I do know the child got adoupted by a family in her parents church. Really sad story...
I hope you aren't dateing a married person.
2006-09-15 15:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lib 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only time i "almost" dated a married man, was because i didnt know he was married, he lied to me..and i was young and nieve and believed all his lies.. till i recieved a call from his wife letting me know he was very much married, and he didnt have two kids with her, they have SIX.. she was nice though cause she realized i didnt have any clue that he was married, and after i told her all the different lies he had told me she knew i was the innocent party in this just as she was, and i stopped the relationship immediately.. I RESPECT PEOPLES MARRIAGE VOWS.. your Commiting adultery even if ur not the one thats married, if YOUR full aware that someone else is married..
Although any married person that cheats is the scum of the earth, i dont know how people that are aware that someone is married and continues an affair with them can live with themselves.. the pain of being the person who is being cheated on is extreme and is something no one should have to survive, and sometimes it takes years if ever to get over, and if their are kids involved what about them????? their lives will never be the same and they will be emotionally scarred forever.. I mean doesnt the person participating in the affair think of how they would feel if the loved someone and believed in their spouse that even though things may of hit a ruff patch that they love them enough to stay in this and work it out and not run into the arms of another just cause things got tuff just to find out their life is nothing but a lie, that their dreams and hopes just went down the toilet.. doesnt the person realize how it would feel if they were in those shoes.. and how it would affect that persons family .. i mean are people really that selfish, that all they think about is theirselves and dont give a crap of how others will be affected ??
Again.. what person in their right mind would want to have an affair with a married person, THE ODDS OF THEM DOING THE SAME TO U ARE EXTREMELY GREAT THEY ALREADY HAVE THE TENDENCIES THATS HOW THEY MET U..
2006-09-15 22:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of my friends have, and it always is a real mess that goes on and on - if there are kids anywhere it is a nightmare that goes on and on. Sometimes on or the other gets a real divorce, but it is a nasty, bitter, long, divorce with every dirty trick on the book used by both sides. Yuk. In a couple of cases, YEARS and years later, the
two guilty parties may finally get together, but... in the meantime you have to wonder if it was worth it....
I haven't been there yet, and i would not want to say that I never would, but I would certainly know what the prospects were, and what might happen etc....
2006-09-15 22:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by robert g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I have to say yes. The outcome? He's still married. My reputation was ruined. What a terrible mistake. Don't ever do it if you are thinking along those lines. It's only heartache!
2006-09-15 22:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did. I did not know that he was still married because he had his own place and he told me that he was divorced. The way that I found out was to go through Colorado public records online. I confronted him on it and told him that there was no record of his divorce. He finally confessed that they were not divorced yet. I told him that I was not going to continue to date him if he did not get a divorce. So we split up until he got the divorce and I made him show me the papers and I made sure that it was in public records. Anywho it ended up after all that time that he cheated so we are obviously not together anymore, I finally figured out why his ex-wife did not want him around anymore.
2006-09-15 22:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by vsecrets24 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes. we had both been unhappy when we met,neither having ever felt pasion or deep love for our partners, yet even after 20 yrs. i hadn't the courage to leave, and his children were in their earlier teens and mine were in college. then we met and found our bckgrounds,roots and values were similar and fell deeply in love.
my husband was a good person, yet irresponsible and thus he went from inability to pay bills, hiding notices and finally bankruptcy. his wife had someone else, but he did not know.
Perhaps we were wrong, but we've been married 5 yrs. we are happy, our children and extended families knew we were both miserable and celebrate our happiness. Do I believe in dating a married man??? NOO- ours was really an exception, and i did break up with my husband 6 mos. after i met my man and he a few months later.
2006-09-15 22:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by mollie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically, yes. He was seperated. But for some reason, he kept delaying the whole divorce. And he and I went up and down on a roller coaster for years. And it was awful, and I felt awful. The emotional rollercoaster was the worse. We kept ending it, then restarting, because dumb me, I thought he would get a divorce.
Well, I finally left for good. Blocked email, changed phone numbers, etc.
And I met someone else. Who I know I could trust. Who was single, with no baggage. And we got married.
Shortly after, my sister ran into my ex. He was divorced. He realized that he really didn't love her, and divorced her because of them, not because of me. But when he ran into my sister, he asked her how to get in touch with me, and she gave him my email.
He emailed, and of course I told him I was married. He was really upset and devastated. He thought we were meant for each other. Hell, at one time, I did too. But I got sick of coming in second place. Tough for him. I was dumb enough to stick around for as long as I did, but for him to be upset because I had moved on and gotten married is beyond me.
2006-09-15 22:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I just have to say you are a HOMEWRECKER! Why would you want to date a married person anyway? They are MARRIED! There are pleanty of single people out there, go find one of them and stop messing with peoples lives.
2006-09-15 21:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I screwed a lot of them when I was younger. It was great. I would have them take me to lunch (never dinner - always when hubby was away) then screw them silly.
Generally, married people will not leave the spouse for you nor intend to leave.
It is all about sex and hypocracy.
2006-09-15 22:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Technically because the divorce wasnt finalized yet. We got married last July.
2006-09-15 21:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋