THE REASON I ASK THIS QUESTION IS BECAUSE MY FAMILY MAKES ME MAD A LOT BECAUSE THE DON'T LIKE MY HUSBAND AND THEY FEEL THEY CAN VOICE THAT TO ME WHEN EVER THEY GET READY. BUT INSTEAD OF ME YELLING AT THEM I YELL AT MY HUSBAND ABOUT WHAT THEY SAID ABOUT HIM AND I DON'T DO IT TO MAKE IT MAD I JUST DO IT TO VENT. I FEEL AS THOUGH MY HUSBAND IS THE ONE PERSON I SHOULD BE ABLE TO VENT TO ABOUT ANY AND EVERYTHING MAYBE I'M WRONG. HE TOLD ME WE NEED SOMEONE PROFESSIONAL TO TALK TO ABOUT OUR MARRIAGE.
2006-09-15 14:53:48 · 12 answers · asked by KEY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the one up on your situation,
Tip #1. Never gossup about your husband!
Tip#2. Your husband is everything but your sphycologist!
Tip#3. Obey your husband no matter what!
Tip#4. Cut your umbilical cord off from your family!
Tip#5. Tell your family to stick it where the sun don't shine!
Tip#6. Show this to your husband, he'll get a kick off of it!
Your family isn't perfect too and let them know that! Tell them to cast the first stone if they have never sinned before! They have no right to make you upset dear. Your husband should be proud of you that you are a peace maker!
2006-09-15 15:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand first why your family dis-likes your husband so much. Finding a solution to why they dis-like him would be a help. Maybe their reasons should be considered. Family doesn't act like that unless they can see something that you can't or choose not to. You shouldn't vent to your husband about it anyway. Why make it worst then it already is. Now your husband has reasons to dis-like them.And if your family agrees to stop talking to you about it and things get better between you and them your going to have your husband complaining. I really think you should try to listen to your family first and find a solution to the problem of their dis-like for him. Does he treat you the way you should be treated? Does he leave you at home at night to hang out with his friends? Does it seem that your having financial problems. If these are some of the things their fusing about then you need to take a step back and listen to what they are saying .Ask yourself all the questions that you know your family is harping on you about. They may be just concerned about your well being. And in the end if things didn't work out between you and your husband you'll need your family especially if they are right about him.
2006-09-15 15:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your post in all caps seems to indicate you are still yelling. Listen to him, you and your marriage need help.
It sounds like to me you have a lot of growing up to do. Your commitment is you your family. That means you and your husband...Your parents, aunts, uncles, brothers and sisters should take second place to your husband.
Get yourself some help, and your husband is right, you do need to talk to someone about your marriage and heal it. Otherwise you may not have a marriage.
2006-09-15 14:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family to mind their business. You are the one that is in that marriage not them so if you don't have a problem with your husband then you shouldn't care what your family or anyone has to say about him. So if your happy with your husband let them talk.
2006-09-15 15:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Curious One 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you are wrong!!WHy are you taking it on him?It isnt his fault how your family feels.If you dont like what they are saying about him then you need to vent ot them about it so they will shut up.If you do or say nothing then guess what it will never stop with your family.Show some respect for you husband and show to your family how much you love him and you will not tolerate how they talk about him.Tell them if they cant respect your husband no better than that then you will not come around them.By your actions your showing your family its okay and your showing your husband you must not care or really love him.We dont hurt the ones we love .Good luck and hopefully you will do the right thing
2006-09-15 15:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not let your family talk trash about your husband. He is your soul mate and they should respect your feelings. Just tell them that you do not appreciate it, that it hurts you more than anything. Don't take it out on your husband because then you are hurting him and that is exactly what you are not trying to do, right?
2006-09-15 15:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by Just_Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not hold in your feelings with your family about ANYTHING that upsets you about them. Only recently have I gathered the courage to say what's on my mind with mine. Always before, I didn't want to be the one to upset anyone or to hurt anyone's feelings. But, after sooooo many years, I got tired of crying about it when I was home, so, now I just say what's on my mind. If somebody doesn't like it, then too bad. I'm not holding it all in anymore. It was beginning to affect me physically as well as mentally. I feel much better the way things are now.
2006-09-15 14:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh...time for you to put those boundaries up with your family. Tell them that you will not tolerate talk about your husband anymore, or they won't be seeing you.
It's not fair for you to allow your family to talk crap about your husband, the man you chose to be with "till death do you part", and then go home and tell him everything that they said. You need to stand by your husband and tell your family how it's going to be from now on.
2006-09-15 14:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY ARE YOU YELLING AT US???
Vent to your friends. You need peace at home with your husband.
2006-09-15 16:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are wrong don't take out your flustrations on him you will loose him if you keep it up stand up too your family and tell them too mind their own buisness, but out ,
f--k off your family will allways be your family your husband can become some other womans husband so if you love him stand by him
2006-09-15 15:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋