i have been going out with this guy for 10 months. he is 31 and am 27. i noticed that he had a low sex drive but that did not prepare me for what was to come. we even went 3 months with no sex once time and yet we shared a bed, he would get an erection and still not want to have sex. he acts a bit selfish at times and will want a ******** then just sleep without caring about me. he also cannnot and has never had sex without a condom which drives me nuts coz i cant stand them and i have even gone for a full sexual health check to make sure am okey. he runs off to the bathroom immediately after sex to clean up and i just get the feeling that he sees sex as dirty(wont go down on me) i have talked to him a lot about it and even told him that it would affect his future relationships/marriage but he just wont change. and as much as he wants the condoms, he is also not comfortable buying them and expects me to do it!! am so puzzled as i have never seen anything like this. please help!!!!
2006-09-15 14:53:43 · 24 answers · asked by cherie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe cuz he is gay
2006-09-15 14:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Tiger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first inclination would be that he has homosexual tendencies, but after reading the part of your question where you say he views sex as dirty, then maybe he is heterosexual and just has issues......maybe he was sexually abused. Have you discussed this with him? In the bedroom would not be a good place to bring it up. How is your relationship otherwise? Is he open with you? Does he seem normal in the other aspects of his life? I would seek a professional councelor on this one...I just first thought he may be gay because I have encountered similar situations before....( a guy just wanting a ******* and a guy with a low sex drive....) good luck!
2006-09-15 15:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Miss A Miracles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's way to old or way too young to be that uptight. Nothing is worse than a selfish lover and he seems to fit the bill. Sorry to say, he's not going to change and doesn't sound like he wants to make an effort to. Sex isn't everything..but damn, when its good it is soooooooooooooooooooooo good. Find another.
2006-09-15 15:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the condom thing may not be that he thinks you have something but the fact of getting you pregnant. don't blow anymore if he ask why you wont tell him he needs to return the favor . and going to clean his self he just might not like it drying on him.and if your not happy with the sex life honey you need to find someone else. sex does have allot to do with a relationship!!!!
2006-09-15 15:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by april a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your relationship is what you really want and you love and care about him then talk. be open and explain your feelings and ask him about his . tell him to please be honest, sex isn't every thing but sex is important, if you cant get any honest understanding answers and if you really feel he needs sexual help from a Dr,or someone in that category and he wont go for help then you need to move on, you will never be happy or sexually satisfied.
2006-09-15 15:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow what a shame. i'm a very sexual person and i know that i wouldn't be able to stay in a relationship with a man who isn't concerned with meeting my needs. it sounds like he needs therapy this isn't something that can be fixed overnight. basically if you really care about this guy and your willing to put him ahead of your needs more power to you. but, i think you should just keep him as a close friend. sex isn't everything but it can become a real problem.
2006-09-15 15:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be some other underlying problems, mental, emtional.... He may have a STD that he doesn't want to tell you about, but doesn't want to share. Have you heard about those guys that are on the down low. Really I think that he is just sefish and you can do much better.
2006-09-15 14:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT everyone likes oral sex. maybe he dosent, i think he is good to use condoms that means he is safe as well as you. he dosent sound as sexually active as you are SO maybe your not really compatable. try talking it over with him. other wise you may need to say bye bye, & get yourself a bare back riding stud. just make sure he has had a full check up.
2006-09-15 15:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, enable's not stay interior the previous, yet in spite of this that relies upon on your latest. Are you prepared to alter for him? Do you have the self-restraint and the honour for him to be monogamous? Are you particular that it is somebody you pick to spend the the remainder of your life with? If any of those solutions are "no" then the two: a million. you're actually not severe approximately this and particular are merely in slightly in which you're unlikely to be severe for fairly a protracted whilst. or 2. you're kidding your self and you quite pick to alter, yet in keeping with risk he's merely not the guy you pick to alter with. So, what i will do is provide you some advice. a guy, guy, lady threesome isn't THAT undesirable, you will probable get hated on for it by ability of a few human beings yet group intercourse is group intercourse, all of us do loopy **** as quickly as we are youthful. you're accountability appropriate now's to confirm no rely if or not you're waiting to boost up and function a mature, in charge courting with somebody like an self-respecting person. And enable's settle for it chica, (yeah, latino right here too) some white adult males are a splash prudish and merely don't understand that there are some latin women persons who stitch their oats merely as enthusiastically as their male opposite numbers. they seem to be a litle previous-formed (Albeit living in double standards). palms down, while you're prepared to commit, then convey this to him and if he nevertheless does not settle on your dedication- **** that. If he does, solid success to you. nevertheless while you're actually not prepared to commit then why are you demanding plenty? have exciting, get excitement from your self, if he won't be in a position to maintain up with then you who cares? circulate get somebody you could have exciting with. see you later as you have not any regrets and you're actually not hurting your self/being harm then circulate wild.
2016-10-15 01:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of seems to me that he just likes for you to be around so he can use you for head, and your a cool, understanding, giving, vurnable person so he sees that and takes what he can get out of the situation and runs with it, maybe you need to give him a choice friends with benifits or friends without?
2006-09-15 15:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by jaybersdime1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can't change another person, so don't drive yourself crazy. He sounds confused. Either he has been molested, is gay or grew up in a strict religion ashamed of sex. I wouldn't be happy with this situation, but it is up to you to accept or reject meaning stay or leave....
2006-09-15 15:03:04 · answer #11 · answered by girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋