They recently moved and she found them in some old boxes from storage. She was very angry and upset. I think what she did was wrong and she owes my brother and apology. She disagrees. What do you think?
2006-09-15 14:50:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't normally get involved but he asked me to check on her since she was so upset. He had forgetten he had them and was saving them for his grown children. His ex was their step mother during some hard times.
2006-09-15 15:05:31 · update #1
I agree with you, that was in his past. Its not like he showed her those pictures to intentionally hurt her. They were just left over from his life before his new wife. I think that is immature of her, they are just pictures and he cant erase his past.
2006-09-15 14:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends.. do they have children together? if so then yes she was extremely wrong as those would be pictures that he could very well of wanted to hand down to them one day.. but if they dont have children, then really he should let go of the past BUT it should of been something he did , not that she chose for him, she should of let him know how uncomfortable they made her feel.. and if theres no children and he's just holding on to them for memories.. then he should of willfully gotten rid of pictures that had her in them as there would be no reason to hold on to the past now that he is trying to make a future with another woman..
2006-09-15 14:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you're putting your self up for failure. you're the reason for the chop up of his previous marriage, why might want to they prefer to be invited by employing you? If I were them, i might want to ask your self what gall and nerve you had of sending an invitation. regardless of in the experience that they do come, they are going to probable not prefer to communicate a lot with you, and also you wont be welcome to destiny relations activities. If after 3 years you havent been invited to their relations activities, I dont imagine you'd be invited contained in the destiny. Or do you want to push your way into their lives and invite your self to their activities? i might want to heavily reconsider this entire difficulty, why not in basic terms have a brilliant dinner with in basic terms both of you? because easily, you're inquiring for too a lot, and it style of feels you at the on the spot are not feeling any guilt over what you probably did.
2016-11-27 01:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She overreacted, that's for sure. She's his ex and she should know better than that. Unless he's still harboring any feelings for her, cutting up the pictures is a bit too much. If it bothered her, she could've approached him and calmly handled it with him instead of going thru his stuff and ripping up things she doesn't care for.
2006-09-15 14:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she was out of line. Your brother's past is his past, not hers; he wasn't looking at these pictures, he has every right to hold on to any piece of his past he wants, as long as it's stored away and not displayed in the family room. She demonstrated a complete lack of respect for him. Even if it did bother her a lot, a civilized and respectful way to deal with it would be to bring it up face-to-face with him.
2006-09-15 15:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably stay out of it otherwise they will get mad at you... I can see her tearing them up but she really should not if they have kids together.. Otherwise, why is he keeping them.. Its probably innocent but she did it out of reflex...then later she thought about it and it was too late. I really don't think you should make her apologize because she may feel you like the x-wife more than her and she will be hurt.....
2006-09-15 14:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was married before me to. I did the same. To me it was like this, " why does he still have pics of the ex. what they had is dead and gone now." you should respect her feelings because it is very hard to be the second wife. trust me
2006-09-15 15:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by Just_Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to put yourself in her shoes...she was hurt and shocked. Maybe she didn't handle it the best way, but love and emotions make people do crazy things. Besides, if he's remarried, why is he keeping those pictures around?
2006-09-15 14:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether she will apologise to him or not is up to her. Let them work it out themselves. I'm sure you have problems of your own to worry about. As a sis-in-law, it is best you don't get too involved in their marriage.
2006-09-15 20:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have cooled off before doing anything that drastic. I know if someone did that to me I'd be seriously ticked.
2006-09-15 14:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋