i have 2 kids(5yr old & 6m old
i love him
2006-09-15 14:49:01 · 23 answers · asked by tinkerbell mommie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he says he loves me, and he doesn't treat me bad.infact he treats me like a princess, its just the cheeting i don't understand. the last one was just for her money thats what he told me.the other one he couldn't tell me .i wouldn't understand he said.
2006-09-15 15:18:07 · update #1
Why do you love him? He treats you like sh*t , rubs your face in it by cheating on you and you say you love him. Does he love and respect you? Think about it. He cheats on you because he knows he can, because he does it and he says he'll never do it again, he does it again, he knows you love him so he'll keep on. Get away from this worthless toad and make a better life for yourself and your kids. remember your kids are learning form you and him.Your son will thinks it's OK to cheat and your daughters will think it's OK to be cheated on. Do you want that for your kids. It's bad enough it's happening to you.
2006-09-15 14:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I would never trust my husband/boyfriend if he cheated on me. Once they do it, most likely it will happen again. A man is a man. Not all men do it, however, if they are missing something in their life they will tend to find it from somewhere else. My current husband is my friend and we talk all the time. It took a long time for us to get married because the commitment to one person for the rest of your life is a big responsibility. My husband and I were both married before so, we can relate to the issue of not wanting to be cheated on and we respect marriage. If you have a lack of respect for each other, marriage, and don't have open communication. Chances are it will happen again. I hope that you don't have this happen. It is hard when you have children. We have 5 kids together(combined family) We think of the children first. Take care
2006-09-15 22:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't trust him that is why you are asking this question. I personally would not be able to trust him the first time. The second time would be a slap in the face. It sounds as if your husband knows you aren't going to leave so he thinks he can do whatever the h*ll he wants. Cheating on your spouse is basically saying "I don't have any respect for you or our marriage, and I'm going screw whomever I please and you can just deal with". That is my opinion. So you have kids, big deal do you know how many single parents there are in the world? You love him? Do you love yourself? Get some dignity and get the H*ll out!
2006-09-15 21:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by bcooper1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldnt ever trust him again.And having kids is no excuse to stay and be treated like that.Your showing your children its okay to cheat on your spouse and they are seeing how much your husband is hurting you,do you think they like seeing there mom go thru that.And bottom line your boyfriend/husband is using you and treating you like a door mat he keeps doing what he is doing because you keep taking him back.Im sure the first time he didnt really know but he had ot find out then he sees you stay so time goes by and he is like well she stayed last time i cheated and thats wht keeps him going.Show him nope not again and be done with him,LIfes to short to be treated like that .I dont see this so called boyfriend /husband ever changing i seee him only getting worse do your children and yourself a favor and kick him to the curb before he brings you home something like a std or he falls in love with one of his hoes and he kicks you to the curb!!And if i was you id rather do the kicking!!Good luck hope it all works out for you
2006-09-15 22:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, let me ask you a question...Would you ever trust a cashier at the grocery store if they had cheated you out of money?
You need to get your ducks in a row and get out of the relationship pronto. His cheating on you is going to be an example to your children as they grow.
If he has cheated on you twice you have to realize that first of all it is not your fault. His cheating is a conscious decision, a choice to walk away from whatever emotional or legal committment he has or is supposed to have for you.
I truly don't understand how you can ask this question, when in your gut you already know the answer.
2006-09-15 21:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" for a reason, honey. And since you've said he has done it twice, the saying proves true. Get rid of him because he does not respect you. The worst thing you could do is to stay with someone just because you have kids.. you have to do what is right for you and he has to know that you value yourself because right now you are telling him that you will forgive him every time he cheats. You are telling him that by forgiving him after he does it.
2006-09-15 21:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way !! Once---yes that can be forgiven -- we all can make a mistake one time---and if he promised never again--he could earn back your trust.
But twice -- kick him to the curb! However, I understand it is hard with 2 little children. Many stay together due to wanting to keep 2 parents in the home or for financial reasons. But if you can get help from family members--do it and tell the guy--"don't let the door hit you on the butt on your way out!"
2006-09-15 21:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by girlnamedmaria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband could love you even though he likes to cheat.
My husband and I were talking about how sex gets kinda boring when it is always w/ the same person and maybe sometimes it would be adventurous to both try a different person for each of us. I love my husband & he loves me. We have a strong enough trust in each other that it would work for both of us.
Do you ever think of cheating? Wonder what it would be like to be w/ someone else sexually? Maybe you & your husband should swing?
I know I could have sex w/ another man, but it is only sex and my husband is the only one I love. Your husband loves you, but is just being adventurous.
2006-09-15 23:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by jaden2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have trusted him after the first time but, if you love him stay. You must always know that when you love someone you can't cheat on them because all you can think of is that one person and know one else in the world matters. No matter what the reason, it still doesn't excuse cheating.
2006-09-15 22:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may love him but its obvious that it is not reciprocated-With you being a mother you must do whats right for your kids and your own sense of self respect. No one can make this decision 4 you except you. As a child that went thru it-I was so happy when my mom left my father-You think kids dont know but they do. Dont be a doormat-Good Luck Sweetie
2006-09-15 21:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by Pretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋