I have two questions that relate to one another. First, I have a friend, we've been friends for years, and yesterday he told me he loves me, and wants me to go out on a date with him. How can I tell him I'm not interested without losing a friendship?
Second, my ex-boyfriend keeps calling me/sending me emails, and he isn't taking the hint that I don't want to "chit chat". Any ideas?
2006-09-15 14:48:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've learned in life, the most important thing you can do is be honest. The more upfront and straight you are with both of these guys, the more they will respect you and continue your relationships (friendships) in the future, even if they need to take some time to digest the truth.
2006-09-15 14:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Holly Mig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for the second part, that sounds alittle like me lol. This isn't amber dumbar is it? As for the first question, just tell him you rather be friends with him because you don't wanna ruin the great friendship yall have. Considering the long friendship you two have had, you may have to sound extra convining. However if hes been liking you for along time, especially if its been ever since hes known you, hes gonna try to get you to go out with him no matter what excuse you put in his face unless you tell him the truth that hes not your type and you rather be his friend. Two years is along time for liking someone. If hes been liking you that long, you're better off just telling him the truth than missleaded him. But I don't know him. So I can't say hes been liking you that long. Its up to you to decide. If hes just starting to like you, you're better off just telling him you'll just wanna be friends so you don't ruin the great friendship.
2006-09-15 15:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Michaelangleo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. The friendship has always been based on the fact that the guy has wanted to date you for a long time.
The "friendship" is over. He has been waiting for you to break the glass. He is the "in case of emergency break glass" boyfriend.
He has finally realized that it is now or never, although you have always known that it is never.
2. dont respond to ex. He will eventually stop.
2006-09-15 15:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem 1. Tell the guy you really value him as a friend, have known him for a long time, and really appreciate his friendship. Tell him you don't want to lead him on or hurt him by dating him when you're not interested in him that way, and you don't want this to break your friendship.
Problem 2. Easy. Tell him to stop. If he doesn't, block his messages.
Good luck!
2006-09-15 14:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the first question, just tell him that you are just friends and that you don't want to go out on a date.
The second question, Put a block on your email just for him and when the phone rings, check your caller ID before picking up the phone. You can request the phone company that you don't except calls from a block number.
2006-09-15 14:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by greg76991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He has already lost his heart to you. You effectively have no friendship at this time...or will ever. You might not agree or like this answer, but you will know in time how true it really is. The only saving to this relationship is to reciprocate his wish. He gave up on the relationship by falling "in love" with you. Falling in love is a decision one can control. Once done, cannot be undone. He has no power to reverse this. My opinion. Might be true. You decide. :)
2006-09-15 14:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by navigate100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first tell ur ex-bf what yall had is in the past and we can never get back together
and tell ur friend if we become bf/gf we will feel awkward around each other and probably our relationship will never last and say plus ur a really good friend i wont want to ruin that friendship we have
2006-09-15 14:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First problem---Act extremely interested in somebody else. And act like he is your girlfriend and tell him all about this new guy you are interested in. Then your excuse is just BAD TIMING!
Second---You have to be straight up with your ex---GUYS DON'T TAKE HINTS VERY WELL AT ALL
2006-09-15 14:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by bradandchance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had a couple of guy friends in H.S that liked me more than a friend and i just told them like it is. I wanna stay being friends..and gurl if they really like u or LOVE u they will stay being ur friend no matter what.
And for ur ex.. just don't take his calls or answer his e-mails it might drive him crazy but im sure he'll get tha point.
2006-09-15 14:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an insult, but that's just me, maybe he's a better man than I am and you could go on being friends. With me, never.
As for the second one, tell him to get lost.
2006-09-15 14:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋