Is it me or am I crazy....I've been married for 5 years and its been a slow ride downhill since the day we said I do....Ending it was probably the best thing I could do for myself...I feel great I look great and I am full of ambition that was previously dead.....
If I would have stuck it out like my parents I would despise my partner to such a degree that they would make me sick....instead we beat it to the punch and are now great friends who are devoted towards making our daughter's life a great one. I really believe many of my warped views on relationships and self-image are due to the fact that my Parents fought for the 18 years I lived with them
2006-09-15 14:36:42 · 9 answers · asked by macrominded 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you married and your family & friends attended the ceremony or at least heard the good news of your union...they all believed and hoped like you & your husband that you: Would live happily ever after,,,or till death did you part. It's a natural reaction for them to express sorrow or sadness. They did not live the marriage with you so the shock of the news that the marriage is over announces to them that, there were irriconcible differences. Generations past, (you mentioned your mother and father), lived with the cultural taboo of divorce. And often times women in past generations put up with a lot of CRAP, because they knew they had to stick it out or the threats of their husband might become their reality...woman in past geenrations often had only a high school education, (if that) and because of lack of education & or specialized training they put up or shut..I understand where you are coming from . I was in a bad marriage for 9 years.Because I was raised Roman Catholic and believed in my vows...for better or worse... because I loved him I always forgave him...until the last time he hit me-----ruptered my spleen, ( I almost died) then I realized it was over--- love may be blind but it doesn't have to be stupid..I wish you well on this next part of your jpurney! If anyone gets on your nerves just tell them "thank you, so much for your concern. but really I am fine. It was a mistake and I'm truely happy to be on my own and looking forward to a bright future! And no you're not crazy...crazy would have been to stay in a bad marriage and die a very slow death. You go girl!
2006-09-15 15:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I applaud your enthusiasm at the end of your marriage, it's just more bad news. People want to believe in something, and they'd much rather share your joy at the anniversary and not the divorce. Some people feel grateful when their elderly parents finally stop being in torment and pass--no one is expected to say, "Good for you" then either. People expect that divorce is bad news. And hey, GOOD FOR YOU!
2006-09-15 14:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of question is that? Divorce even under good circumstances is never a good thing. You have failed in your MARRIAGE--something that was supposed to be lifelong! That's SAD. It's always SAD when love dies!
If it really bugs you that much, just let them know that you're okay, over it, and that you've never felt better.
2006-09-15 14:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rivrav 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean.. no use in staying married until one of you starts hating the other person.. thin line between love and hate..
Any way.. i always got that look and the "oh.. i am sorry" i would look at them and say.. "I am not sorry.. best thing i did for my self"
2006-09-15 14:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a simple one to answer. First, because they think it is what you want to hear. Secondly, they feel pangs of guilt, because it isn't happening to them. Thirdly, they want you to think that they are wonderful for professing sympathy for you. It is as much about them, as it is about you. I know the answer does not satisfy you, but it is better in the long run, if you know the truth now!
2006-09-15 14:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Liberal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce hurts in most cases. Ending something that's sposed to be forever is tough. I know.
2006-09-15 15:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause it's the way we're programed from birth
2006-09-15 14:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the answer to your question: sometimes a divorce takes grwat strain from you and leaves you tasteless, sympathy is recognizable as pity, and somehow it is appreciated. one with a right mind will always try to make a marriage work.
2006-09-15 14:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it's something that god created & is suppose to last a life time.
2006-09-15 14:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋