I have been in a relationship for 3 years with my "fiancee".I just recieved a disability judication of $14,000.00 in one lump sum.I will also recieve a check once a month that is more then he makes a month.He is driving me crazy.I bought my 10 year old son the $299 xbox 360.My fiancee bitched and moaned until I took it back and got the $399 one.I told him my son did not need the more xpensive one b/c he only comes every other weekend.He then bitched b/c I bought my self a Malibu car and put only my name on it(he don't even have a drivers liscence).Then I got a cell phone b/c I broke down a couple of months ago in 112 heat for 4 1/2 hours with my kids in the car.He goes no where except to work,when I got my cell phone he demanded one.He complained until I bought him more uniforms and shoes .He is driving me crazy.Is he trying to make sure I spend all my money so that I won't have means to leave if he continues being a jerk?He has always been the arguing type and at times was abusive.
2006-09-15 14:25:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He keeps saying things like"well you have money in your pocket so your acting distant"Well He keeps arguing and treats me like alower class citizen.He says since I didn't work for 2 years he deserves the money.Well I was an LPN for 21 years and made 16-24 dollars an hour until I became disabled.He has told me to "just leave" twice since I got my money last week.He is really pushing me past my limits.He tells me what to do and when somehing needs to be done he expects me to do it ASAP.I also filed from a divorce from my 2nd husband this week which cost $950.00.My kids love my fiancee and i do not want to let them get hurt again b/c they have been through hell.I get visitation every other week.He is getting snippy with them too but they love them as much as thier real dad.What to do-What to do.
2006-09-15 14:31:58 · update #1
I am in counseling and have been as long as I have been with him.He thinks I am in the wrong and refuses to believe there is anything derrogatory about his behavior.Every thing is making him 'pissy".Nothing is making him happy,(although he is not the happiest person in the world any way and always complaining of being sick or hurting.)
2006-09-15 14:48:00 · update #2
DID I FORGET TO MENTION--i paid the telephone,cable,and internet for 6 momths and the rent for 4?Also he demanded a Runescape membership which was $70.00?
2006-09-15 14:55:30 · update #3
"at times he was abusive" only one question Why the **** are you even there?Kick his butt out or move to a nicer place without his sorry .....
2006-09-15 14:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since everyone said their two cents, I am going to give you mine. I would suggest some kind of therapy, you guys need to build your communication level back again. I would suggest to put your money in a cd and let it sit for a while. Put the money away in your name and your kids name. If counseling does not work, at least you try, then kick the guy out and find yourself a roommate and get your self a new man that would treat you like you deserve. Best of Luck!
2006-09-15 14:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds very controlling as to what you are doing with your money and if he has been abusive in the past this money will only give him an extra excuse to be more abusive. You say your children love him but he is starting to get snippy with them too.Another bad sign.It's only a matter of time before he turns on them or gets them to turn against you.Before you have nothing left to look after yourself i would leave him.You have been through enough.Find yourself a nice little place of your own and start looking out for yourself and watch for signs of abuse with your next relationship. No one deserves to be abused and there is no excuse or right reason for someone to abuse.Your children will get over it with lots of love and patience from you.Get yourselves into a safe and loving environment. Good luck
2006-09-15 14:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by tea cup 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say get rid of him while u still have some money in your pocket. He shouldn't demand anything! It sounds like you have trouble picking the right man. It wouldn't hurt you or your kids to be w/o a man for a while. Aim high and be discerning when it comes to a man in your life. Your kids deserve to have some stability in their lives and so do you. Your fiancee` will take and take until you have nothing, then where will you be? Pick someone who will add to your life and not just take.
Good luck, surina
2006-09-15 15:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by surina 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you seem to be taking alot of crap from someone. If he really loves you , he would not be talking ugly to you or telling you what to do. I mean, he is not even your husband!
If he is working , why are you buying him uniforms and shoes? Did he pay you back?
And he has been abusive!!! Please , your children do not need someone like that and neither do you. He most likely only shows the kids the party of him he wants them to see and tries to make you look bad... sound about right???
If you want respect from anyone , you must demand it from everyone... Leave him, get your self straight and dont go back!!! Your kids will understand in time... Explain to them, they understand more that you think.....Good luck...PS... There are good men out there...
2006-09-15 14:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by bailey lynn 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HE IS NOW JEALOUS AND NEEDS ATTENTION...I see that he has been abusive...he knows you are scared of him...and he uses it. He sees you no loner depend on him...and you can hold your own...that is threatening to him. He is in fear, that you can do without him. I promise the next time you get into it...he'll say something about the money...and you not needing him...Becareful....if you feel uncomfortable....you better wise up. If you love him....then when you fight...tell him how he;s been acting since you got money....then ask whats he afraid of....
2006-09-15 14:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
TO tell ya the truth my boys dad was the same why never the less I kicked his *** out. YOu can do better either on your own or with somebody new and that loves you for you and not for money
2006-09-15 14:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he's so jealous that it makes me sick! Obviously, none of this is a good sign for things to come. Please don't marry this man, everyone has a right to a good marriage, and you can't make it with this kind of issue. You just needed us to reaffirm what you're already feeling.
2006-09-15 14:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its time to tell the user to hit the road and dont let the screen door slap him on the butt when he leaves
2006-09-15 14:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by kf4wwe 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hes just trying to spend your money that way when you leave he will have everything and you will be left with nothing
2006-09-15 14:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋