Is it cheating if you husband has Internet relations with a girl from another country?

Answer 1

Seems like a lot of folks think it isn't cheating, guess they have never been married, committed, and taken vows that they are honoring.

Any sharing of intimate information about your relationship that your husband has shared is cheating. By intimate I don't mean just sexual, I mean any details about feelings, money, or any of the other things you share.

It sounds like he is involved in a relationship that could easily become an "emotional affair" and if that happens it could progress to more.

If this relationship is taking time away from you (and your family if you have children) then he is "cheating" you out of that time, "cheating" you of his attention, and "cheating" on you at some emotional level.

All of these things are cheating you out of the relationship you deserve. I guess defining cheating depends on your character and moral upbringing, and your value system.

Answer 2

Well, obviously you have concerns about it if you're asking on here!

A) Yes, of course it is. You're married to him. To love each other, as long as you both shall live. If it was online, maybe they didn't have sex, but he's sharing intimate thoughts with someone ELSE beside you. NOT right.

B) You said it was a "girl" from another country. I hope it wasn't a "girl" but rather a woman. If it was a "girl", you need to get away from this creep asap. And even if it's a woman, you need to decide whether you want to stay with him. Don't let him weasel out of it and say it'll never happen again, because it WILL. He was searching for SOMETHING with this woman, and that means something is amiss between you two. You need couples counseling, and if he won't go, consider the relationship over.

Answer 3

wow..loosen up people. What is the differance if hes typing to someone across country or looking at a nudey mag, or a strip club, or watching a porn, or reading one of our romance novels. Come on ladies...admit it...some of those romance novels have some pretty good descriptions on whats going on. Him talking to another women on here, whether its cyber sex or not is perfectly harmless and might just be adding to some 4 play for the wife or his own fantasy. Wouldnt you rather he be here then at a motel around the corner. Now if this is an every night thing and he becomes distant w/you or pulls away from you then I would worry. But to jump the gun is being alittle over bearing and might just make him pull away. To be totally open and understanding on the matter will only make him realize how special and great you are and he is so lucky for what women would be okay w/this. Surprise him and leave it alone.

Answer 4

YES I believe it is. I am in the same situation as you. My husband is doing exactly the same thing. He doesn't acknowledge what he is doing to me and refused to see my point of view. One of the women even posted on the internet just how they feel about each other. My decision is to leave him in about a month when I have sorted out all my possessions. I am not advocating that you take the same road as there were more factors involved in my decision. I sorry if there are some out there who don't agree with me but you have to be in my shoes to understand how this makes you feel. Good luck with what ever you decide to do.

Answer 5

Get off your rancid, moral high horse and quit believing the bullshit fed to you by society and your own vividly enhanced 'E' and 'MTV' mind.
If your husband masturbates, is that cheating? If he watches pornography, is that cheating? If he dreams of having sex with another person, is that cheating?
You make yourself suffer by buying into all these romantically magnified moral and social values that do nothing to your mind and heart but confuse it!
All the people who gave you positive reinforcement with an affirmative answer to your question are in the same boat you are and continue to wallow in their own frustration at not being able to resolve their issues through the power of their own reasoning and logic!

Answer 6

Yes, in ur marriage vows it didnt say "Forsake all others but the girl thats on the net that lives in another country"..

Its emotional cheating, for anyone to need to share intimacy in any form (emotionally in this case) with the opposite sex.. YES ITS CHEATING AND YES HE'S BREACHING YOUR MARRIAGE VOWS.. u cant pick and choose when ur vows are convient for u, your suppose to live by them every day..

Answer 7

Let's just put it this way. Anything that he's doing with someone else that he should be doing with u instead is considered cheating. He may not be cheating physically, but he is emotionally...if all his time is spent talking to her instead of spending that time with u then u have cause to worry, especially if they are sharing intimate details he should only be sharing with u.

Answer 8

I want to thank Ivory_Fla.....Your answer was just terrific..You made good on so my points.I couldn't agree more with her when she said.....if he becomes distant w/you or pulls away from you then I would worry......I totally agree with that .As long as it stays a fantasy and doesn't become reality then I am perfectly comfortable with that. And if anyone wants to ask me...."well how you feel if she was doing that to you"......I would honestly feel ecstatic....I would have no problem it....It would probably spice up an already healthy sex life..........just my opinion.

Answer 9

It depends on what they are talking about. Are they talking dirty and about sex? If they are then yes that is cheating but if they are just talking about family and everyday things then no. But it could still turn into something else.

Answer 10

It probably is depending on what the husband say to another women from another country.