Hi All;) ....Why do so many people have low self-esteem?;)?

Question

People try to get self-esteem from tons of places, but "ALMOST" no one is self-assured and happy with who they are??

Opinions, and views??
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Thanks, for answering in advance!;D

Answer 1

You answered your own question. People try to get self esteem from tons of places; self esteem is found inside the self.

Answer 2

Low self-esteem is like a symptom or a compass. The problem may only be a symptom itself. We feel good not because we are doing the best thing for ourselves. Many times we get through life with second best. Self-esteem is only about how we feel about ourselves at present. At best it allows us to steer ourselves in a good feeling direction. Sometimes our problems are complex and we need to let ourselves feel bad until we work through our problem. I'm trying to say low self esteem isn't a bad thing. It can actually help us work through some stuff.

Answer 3

From before we are even born, there are people in our lives that have a 'plan' for us. Unfortunately, no one asks us what we feel about those plans. We grow and learn from our environment. All of our environment.

So why do so many people have low self esteem? Because too many people think that it is alright to make someone else feel bad in order to make themselves feel better.

We are bombarded with images in the media that tell us how the beautiful people should look and what they should wear. Most of those models have their flaws airbrushed away. We have low self esteem because we put too much weight on media's idea of perfect and don't look to ourselves for the answers.

Answer 4

low self-esteems stems from how we see ourselves. (hence the term low 'self'-esteem) it isn't what our neighbor thinks of us, our parents think of us or even our friends think of us. in other words, it is not our 'environment'

the reason for low self-esteem , in my oppinion, is that many people areare lacking things which they can not fullfill. Not to say this is a bad thing . We are all human and we are not all created equal. some people are smart, some are not. many people are good looking while many others are not. others possess natural talents and many others do not have any talents. since as human beings we compare ourselves to those those sorrounding us, we may feel ineduquate and inferior in certain aspects to others. this feeling of inferiority and ineduquacy is what we call low 'self esteem'.

how do we tackle low self esteem? change the way we see ourselves. how do we do that? improve the things about ourselves which we feel is lacking. of course, that is easier said than done. some people can improve while others lack the capacity to improve.

Answer 5

This is where you have to go inside yourself and find you. Once you know just who you are then you can rest assure that your self-esteem will grow .
As long as you don,t have a clue as to who you even are your self esteem will be low-- other people will see this and unfortunatly most will be able to lower that esteem even more.
So the key is finding out who you are---what is it you stand for in your life and then being strong in your convictions about the things that you know about yourself that are true.
You will always find people who does not agree with you but if you know who you are then you stand tall against their attacks on you pesonally and it just does not matter--you are who you are and your happy to be that person.

Bottom line find out just who you are then just be true to your self .

Answer 6

Well, i used to have low self esteem because i THOUGHT i was ugly. I thought about all the people i wish i was. Then i thought about other people that look up to me. They say they want to be just like me. That's why i now have a way way way to high self-esteem

Answer 7

I believe that self esteem, pride, self confidence has to be instilled at an early age, starting when we are infants,without interruption.It's at fist the responsibility of the parents then becomes the responsibility of one self to uphold there own self esteem Each and everyday. of course it never hurts when family, friends, and acquittance can give you encouragement in all you do.
except most people are to busy looking out for themselves .
we need to hear good job, the best,only you,so smart, after all we are only human.

Answer 8

I'm in the "Almost no one" category........thank you! My self esteem is quite high and I've reached the point in my life where I'm very content. How did I get there?
Easy, as I grew older, I acquired an attitude that I don't give a crap what others think of me. I don't follow any trends and I live my life how I want to live. (not how others think I should) Guess you could say I'm stubborn and independent........but at least I'm happy and content with everything in my life.

Answer 9

I think that self-esteem is a bad thing to have. I believe that someone should have self-respect and confidence instead. Self-esteem leads to a person being a complete d i ck. Maybe it is better that no one has self-esteem.

Answer 10

Self-esteem should be based on the authenticity of your own feelings and not the possession of certain qualities.