me and my boyfriend just got into a huge fight, and well I guess he isn't happy with our sex live, he says all i do is spread my legs, he has made me feel so insecure with myself that I just cant find myself comfortable. I honestly don't have any friends and i like going out with him to his friends which i would conciter my friends also, they are nice to me don't treat me shitty like i shouldn't be there for about a year now he doesn't ever want to talk to them when im around and he doesnt want to go over there and he doesn't want to bring me, he tells me that those are his friends and he should be able to go there without me....I don't know im so confused on what i should do.....
2006-09-15 14:04:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Kick him to the curb and move on. Obviously he does not respect you at all and wants to control you completely. He sounds like bad news to me. Get rid of him and find someone who cares.
Chow!!
2006-09-15 14:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this, but please get out of this. He is just your boyfriend, you sound young, so you have your whole life to find the right one. Believe me, I know from experience. This guy sounds like someone I dated and eventually married, and believe me it aint worth it.
Sometimes you feel like this is the only guy for you, I know been there. You have to change your mind set. There are many many guys out there. Please please please don't let him belittle you. The more you take it, the more he will do it, and again believe me it will chip away at your self esteem, and then you have had it.
I know you are hurt now, and if you leave him you will hurt, but just for a little while. It is better to leave now then to marry him and be miserable. Because I will tell you something, and anybody out there that has been married will agree, and this is it it. What ever this guy is doing now to you whether it be hitting, verbal abuse, etc. It will either stay the same when you get married or get worse. Not better. never better that is the biggest myth in the universe, they never change. What you see is what you get, if not worse.
So please benefit from my mistake. Don't put up with it. There is a good guy out there for you. Please just concentrate on yourself and know you deserve better. If you make up your mind that you will not accept anything less then you will get what you deserve.
Good luck sweety.
2006-09-15 21:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a better boyfriend because he should be happy that he has someone by his side. He shouldnt even be getting sex if he is acting like that. Its supposed to be an intimate thing and if its just casual sex to him then your relationship doesnt really mean much.
2006-09-15 21:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by ~carmie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for the sex thing, try new things, try being on top or something. for the friends thing he probably feels like he needs some space. time apart is just as important as time together. join a club, find some friends of your own, go out and have fun without him.
2006-09-15 21:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jake S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All , STOP MAN BASHING....Honestly.....it isn't your sex life...that phrase has a few meanings and one of them is....you do nothing for him, or yourself, you just lay down and spread your legs.....You have no friends...like you've mentioned....you hang around his friends...although they are his friends and you know them...they shouldn't be your hangout...for a guy's girl to have his friends be her only friends...not cool. They are his friends and he needs his space with them. If you go every time he does...he either looks whipped, or controlled.You don't need to be there. Find your own friends . It seems that he has to take care of you hand and foot. If he feels any more that you are dependent on him...you could be done. You need to find something exciting to do...not only with him...but yourself. If you were there with his friends......theres really nothing they can talk about freely. So talking to his friends in front of you may be uncomfortable....and chatting it up with you....while with his friends ...seems kinda....you need attention. Don't get me wrong...i go with my boyfriend about 2 out of 10 times to his friends place...but i make my self busy with the other girls there. If i notice one of the friends don't have girls over...i don't go....Make some friends you need to stop being all dependent on him. He wants to be with you...not take care of you....you know what I mean. It seems that you need him to there around you, and you don't want to take your own steps.
2006-09-15 21:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he makes you feel insecure - maybe he is not the one for you. If he gives you that "you look fat" look - you should leave him because it never will go away. Guys like that usually end up being cheaters anyway. There are good men in this world that won't treat you like that.
2006-09-15 21:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL if he says he should go to HIS friends on his own. were does that leave you, it sounds to me like he is trying to get rid of you for some reason. if i was in your shoes i would write down all his good points then all his bad points. weigh them all up & i bet YOU would be better off without him. i would just tell him to take a hike, & if he wants a pro in the bedroom he better get his wallet out. cut him off before he cuts you off. good luck.
2006-09-15 21:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you has a man whose only pleasure is to make you feel insecure about yourself than you need to get rid of him. I am sure there is someone out there who will appreciate what you have to offer.
2006-09-15 21:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by Sukie101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He treats you badly and you are worth more than that.Sound like he has a sexual appitite and you would rather make love wouldn't you. There is no love in this realtionship. It is not mutal respect one for another.find someone else who will tradt you with respect not just for sex.Good luck/Grandma
2006-09-15 21:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him. Fast honey. He is giving you major signs that he is trying to get rid of you. I'm sorry I'm not trying to hurt you! Ive been in your shoes. Ive had friends in your shoes. The longer you stay the worse you will feel about yourself & your life & your abiliy in bed. Spare yourself - dump him!
2006-09-15 21:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anne A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋