Can anyone tell me their experience for going to a OUT OF STATE COLLEGE?

Question

I am really curious about how you deal with homesickness, a new environment, new people and backstabbers and the pressure. Also, if there's any people with adhd I would DEFINITELY love to hear your experiences. I am thinking about going to college out of state and I don't want to fall in the crack, I also struggle with adhd. would it be harder than the AVERAGE non-adhd student?

Answer 1

Here is a technique I tell freshman and new transfer students about fitting in. Find one or two clubs on campus that interest you and make a commitment to attend all their meetings, support their projects and attend their activities. The people you meet there will become the basis of friendships you will cherish for years. Remember that you begin with a common interest, the rest is what blossoms from it. Don't get carried away and join too many, you still have studying and other responsibilities, one or two should do the trick. You will soon feel a part of campus life and will avoid being overwhelmed, especially in a large university. In fact, the larger the school the more important this advice is.

Answer 2

Hello Young lady,

It looks to me that you re an African American, I am too, so I'd be pleased to help a sista out.. I don't have ADHD but I am aware of that disorder..(by the way, more than half of the young African American students they diagnose with "adhd" don't have it. What I mean by that is that it's not that serious and that it is manageable. They just have a different personality and like everyone else needs someone to lead the way and provide guidance.) If they had a disorder name for procrastinating, I'd have TMDD, "Time Management Deficit Disorder"..(corny but cute right?) ..

But anyways..before i went to college (Im from New York, went to school in PA)..everyone was like, why u going out of state?? Ur going to be homesick, miss your parents, depressed, and plus i went to a historically black college at that! People told me I'd have the bacstabbers, the haters, and that going to a black school meant DRAMA!

I went to school..they all lied, because i was so excited at a new beginning, there were out of state students there too and there was so much going on, i had no time to think about back home. Also, about the drama, no matter where you go in life you will find people who will be backstabbers, liars, haters, and want to cause drama..you have to set the stage and choose how you will respond..go to school with your head up..take care of yourself, walk proudly, show love to others regardless of how they treat you but stand for something and don't let people take advantage of you and you will flourish and stay positive..Tell them if they are taking advantage and disrespecting you..(not with no ghetto attitude though lol).. and that you deserve respect.
Know what you want to do in your life (career, vocation, for yourself, your family) and allow that to motivate you and keep you focused.

Also, don't let anyone doubt you b/c of any disorder, whether its hard to pay attention or hard to excersise proper time management skills..focus on the prize and do all you can and get the help you need to claim it.

Answer 3

Some, perhaps most, new college students do need some sort of interaction with family. I went out of state, but spent three years in the military first and that was a reaction to a pretty bad family life.

if you have a supportive and somewhat functional family, I'd stay within a day's drive - preferable within 3 or 4 hours away. Not close enough to bug you, but close enough if there is something you really want to do back home.

The ADHD is also an issue. Your family knows how to deal with this and help you along. I think that in itself is enough for you to stay somewhat close by.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

you get used to anything
There are many people with ADHD who did that before you.
I think you gonna make it :)