well, how do I not allow any tricksters to screw my head? backstabbers tend to pretend they are your friends.
2006-09-15 13:35:06 · 18 answers · asked by ¡El lobo del norte del fuego! 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Let friends steal from you, or loan out money and never get it back, either one of those should do it...
2006-09-15 13:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by brooklyncpl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will learn as you age.. You get dissapointed with some people along the way, that's life. You never know who is untrustable or who is good to you. What you can do is to have 'WISDOM' in the sense that remember there is no FREE LUNCH in this world. Those who are extremely good to you in the beginning must have something up to their sleeve. Judge what's their motive are. Judge use your common sense and don't be naive.
Men have 1 thing in their mind if they are so good and always mysterious because these guys are players. Those who are nice to you but not so attractive are actually the real people you will like to get know better and trustable.
Use your head girl! you know who is good and bad for you. Unless you allow it.
2006-09-15 21:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by wishingforpeace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becoming distrusting toward people is not a great goal. That is currently what our President is trying to breed in our society. Fear is a powerful manipulative tool and getting yourself into a state of fear (distrust) is not a good space to be in. I trust most everyone right out of the box, but I do take general precautions to protect myself from those few miscreants who just can't seem to control themselves. I lock my car, I don't carry a lot of cash, I keep my passwords to myself and I don't give out my Social Security to everybody who asks for it.
My father always said, "Locks are for honest people." At first blush that sounds contradictory. If you think about it however, an honest person will respect the lock and leave your things alone. The dishonest person will still try to find a way of doing harm or stealing. Just like all those hackers who feel the need to get viruses into your computer.
So don't become distrustful, just use common precautions and good business practices to protect yourself. We all want to be considered honest, and we should all do the right thing, but it would still be naive to put a million dollars in the middle of a lobby and just tell people not to take any.
2006-09-15 20:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Magic One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they hurt you enough because of gullibility, you won't be as trusting. You sound very young. Let people earn your trust, don't give it immediately. Look for things in them that show you can trust them. What kinds of things do they talk about? Do they gossip about other people you know? Do they brag about how they put one over on someone? These are signs of the type of people they are. If they do it to others, they'll do it to you. So, you can know ahead of time what you're getting into.
2006-09-15 21:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by Namaste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
Being distrustful is not a good way to live. To be constantly on alert, withdrawn and resisting is so much pressure on your mind, body and soul.
Disappointment is preceded by expectation. We expect our friends, family and acquaintances to behave in a certain way - and it is directly proportional to how much 'value' we place in them. We have all been conditioned since our very early years about society and relationships - as in, what is 'cool' and what is not.
The desire to have our friends like us stems from placing your identity in how other people see us and putting too much value in it. If we look within ourselves for love, joy and peace then we are practically impervious to external factors.
So, if you cultivate your inner peace, that will emanate outward. Moreover your instincts will keep you out of potential traps. Inner peace will bring amazing clarity and precision to your instincts. You will be able to foresee trouble before it happens and you will able to sidestep it, like avoiding false people. Humanity is not perfect. Unfortunately we live in a world where lies, deceit and apathy reign supreme. It would be terrible to become like the rest of them. Don't be affected and influenced by people's negativity and dis-trustfulness. Show them that their negativity shall not corrupt you.
Just remember you have to love, respect and trust yourself, before anyone else can.
'One should cherish the betrayal of false friends'
2006-09-15 21:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Yoda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better question: Why are you allowing your Self to go through this?
Want the answer to that question?
Do this:
Right before you fall asleep tonight ask your Self this question:
Why am I limiting my Self?
You will have an answer in the morning, do it a few times until you have the full picture.
2006-09-15 21:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by aldiaz2wheare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, in time, you will learn how to read people. I don't think you are actually looking to not trust people, but looking for a way to learn how to feel people out. Just be open to the experiences and lessons that life has taught and will teach you.
2006-09-15 20:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Underwear model is right, you are better off getting burnt some than not trusting. Would you marry someone you did not trust? If you teach youself to not trust anyone, it will become everyone. Remember trust is part of love.
2006-09-15 20:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by gobobgo55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just love how more than half the posters believe you haven't ever been backstabbed already before?
What you have to do is learn how to say no. Ask Yahoo Answers how you can learn to say "no" and make it stick.
2006-09-16 17:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Confusion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let someone mess you over bad enough and you'll be ok then. Good Luck and God Bless you to.
2006-09-15 21:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋