Do you believe you can love someone even if they don't fall into your sexual preference?
Can I gay man, fall in love with a woman?
A lesbian woman, fall in love with a man?
A heterosexual person fall in love with someone of the same gender?
I'm completely serious. Do you think that love conquers sexual attraction? And do you think that if you loved someone so much you’d have and enjoy a physical relationship BECAUSE it's with a person that you love, not necessarily based on anyone’s sexuality?
I'm starting to think that maybe, if you love someone enough, your sexuality no longer matters.
And if you loved someone, would you be willing to give up your 'sexuality' because it's this person that you love more than yourself, more than anything, and love them completely?
Is there love that does not need to rely, even the smallest amount on sexual attractive-ness/sexuality?
This isn't a joke. I KNOW what it means to be gay. But do you think it's possible?
Alika61
2006-09-15 13:15:43 · 22 answers · asked by alika613 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No. Without the sexual attraction, the rest is doomed to platonic friendship. Period. You can't "love" someone into "turning".
2006-09-15 13:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that love could not conquer sexual preference or attraction. I mean, the first thing you notice about someone that you are interested in is whether or not the person is attractive to you. I dont care what anyone says, attraction is what gets a person through the door. Okay, I am a gay dominant female. I can meet a guy and he may have qualities that I adore in females and in a way, I may find him attractive....socially and maybe even emotionally...I may even love his style but I couldnt possibly see any type of "LOVE" that I would develop for a female formed between the two of us. On the other hand, you asked if you loved someone, would you be willing to give up your sexuality to be with that person??? I had to think about that even longer. Now, say that I knew that same guy for a period of time and did develop something that felt a bit odd. I still WOULD NOT SEE PASS THE FACT THAT HE IS A MALE and that he could never fully satisfy me. To be honest, love is not enough to make a relationship survive....Everything has to be there. I mean no one is perfect but Love will just make things comfortable for a short time.
2006-09-16 05:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by cutesoftdom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sexuality transcends gender, race, age, all of which that hinders us in society. However, that's only for select people (like me!), and why I say this is because I fall under the label of omnisexual, so I'm open to all kinds of relationships. Otherwise, it's pretty much said that unless you've got my kind of mentality, you most likely can't have feelings for the opposite sex (if you're gay) or the same sex (if you're straight). Also, that's assuming that you're not in denial or you haven't found out yet that you're capable of those feelings. But maybe I'm wrong... maybe if there's a case where there's something non-consensual going on for a long time, it eventually just feels like another warm body... *shrugs* Maybe we ARE capable of having those feelings if we have enough time to get used to them. Also, I want to point out that it's not a preference; it's an orientation. Preference implies that you have a choice, which we pretty much don't. Even if you're bisexual, you didn't have a choice as far as having to like both genders even though you have more sex options...
2006-09-15 20:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a subject of infinite variety and combination, it is a major flaw in the English language that we have only one word to describe it. I love my sisters and my daughter, and, in a different way, I loved the men and women with whom I've been privileged to share my life and bed. I loved my old tom cat. My best friend is a woman, I'd die for her, but we've never had sex and never will, I don't love her any the less for that. Romantic love is one kind out of many, a sexual element can be present, or, like Don Quixote, you can love pure and chaste from afar. If, however, you're asking if love can change your sexual orientation, then no. Your libido has it's own agenda, regardless of what you might want. That's just the way it goes.
2006-09-17 22:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love without sexual attraction exists, it's a known as a really meaningful friendship. Without sexual attraction there's no romance and both are essential ingredients in a life partner (gay or straight) relationship. In order for what you asking to actually happen, both people have to be bi-sexual, and sexual orientation is something that is part of you from the beginning of life. So, if you are totally straight or totally gay, it's just not going to happen.
2006-09-15 20:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone else will probably give you their opinions, but I can tell you my story, instead XD
I'm a girl, and just about as straight as they come: I mean, seriously, I'm boy-crazy, not even bi (girls get on my nerves too much to be attracted to them in any way whatsoever,) but I fell in love with my best friend, Jamie, a girl. Alot of people tell me that I'm just a 'dyke in denial', but why would I admit to loving a girl if I was in denial? Sexually, I'm not attracted to girls in the least, but I was seriously in love with Jamie, and still am, even though we're not friends anymore, and she kind of makes fun of me now... But just based off of my own expiriences, yes, i think it is entirely possible for a person to fall in love with someone of a gender that they normally wouldn't be attracted to.
2006-09-15 20:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are asking really is LOVE enough to overcome an innate sexual preference.
Well it could be, but I should think that what really happens is that the sexual preference is not firmly established as the person or persons thought.
2006-09-15 20:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Becky said.
Yes, it's possible. Yes, that's my current relationship. And it's hard sometimes with the dickweeds out there, but I just ignore them. I know I'm still a lesbian. I still know I'm me.
A thing I like reading on this subject is this: http://community.livejournal.com/suckitupdyke/278285.html
I think it's because it makes me feel like someone actually inderstands and stuff.
:P
2006-09-16 22:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is possible, love has no reasons. love can change everything. sometimes things happen and we cannot understand. sometimes the straight spouse doesnt have a clue that the other is gay. honesty is the answer, though a lot of couples don't last. still, there are that survived.
2006-09-16 13:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by thaleeya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a good question that you ask. however i think that love is an emotion based on chemistry. there has to be an attraction before a person will begin to feel anything for another...
you may love them but not in a romantic way...
2006-09-15 20:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋